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This 1990 production has been getting good words on Web parenting message boards and for good reason: it works. Dr. Thomas Phelan, a clinical psychologist, developed the program for his own children when they were young and in the thralls of hyperactivity and sibling rivalry. The two-hour show features his explanation of the program interspersed with dramatic scenarios and parent testimonials. The corny vignettes and repetitive testimonials are somewhat extraneous, but the nut of the information is invaluable. Phelan urges parents to get away from explaining everything to kids, who aren't listening to you anyway, he says, but he's not a spanking advocate either. His approach is rational and simple: counting and then time-out. You've done that, you say? Well, watch the tape and see what you're doing wrong. His method has been honed by parents and teachers who have come back to him with refinements. These include ways to encourage kids to start good behaviors once the bad behaviors are under control. Phelan is personable and dryly funny (think parents as wild-animal trainers), and the absence of a hard- sell tone makes watching this production a pleasant experience. --Kimberly Heinrichs
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1-2-3 Magic - Managing difficult Behavior in Children 2-12 [VHS] [VHS Tape]
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“ I tried punishing her with the usual things like "time out",I yelled at her when my patience was gone,I took away her privileges,nothing worked. ”
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67 of 69 people found the following review helpful
By A Customer
Format:VHS Tape
Our local elementary school counselor offered to lend this video to any parent who was open-minded enough to watch and listen. My husband and I borrowed it, and were pleased to find that Thomas Phelan's suggests an approach to parenting that reflects: parents don't need to share parenting control with our children, we ARE the parents! Part-way into the school year we teamed with the teachers to employ the tactics Phelan describes, and watched our boy chose better behavior and attitude, then improve his grades significantly -- without bribing, cajoling, begging, yelling, or concocting exhausting and ineffective 'shared-control' parenting schemes (as prescribed by some other 'parenting experts') to outwit him! We've now purchased it so we can refresh our knowledge as needed.
64 of 67 people found the following review helpful
By Frank Burton
Format:VHS Tape|Amazon Verified Purchase
I've used the "1-2-3 Magic" principles with kids with behavior problems who I was counseling, and my own grandkids, and also used the video in parenting classes which I was teaching to other parents and teachers. These methods really work.
Dr. Phelan presents simple, straightforward methods to deal with kids ages 2-12, with before and after vignettes, and with wit and humor. He covers many problem situations such as a kid acting out when the parent is on the phone or when you're out shopping together or in the car on a trip, always with authority and humor.
I reviewed numerous videos when I was counseling grade-school and high-school age kids who had behavior and/or academic problems, and their parents; I found nothing else which comes close to "1-2-3 Magic" for providing sound principles and methods for dealing with them. This is a complete system for dealing with kids ages 2-12. It also provides a good foundation for dealing with teenagers, though there are some more principles which are needed for teens (and the best source I've found for these principles are in one of Dr. Phelan's books, "How to Survive Your Adolescents".)
38 of 40 people found the following review helpful
Format:VHS Tape
I'm a 34 year old, stay at home Mom, trying to raise a 6 year old daughter. She's a very demanding,stubborn,and mature child. I'm also raising a 16 year old with Down's Syndrome,and my husband is away alot with work. Before I saw the video of 1-2-3 Magic,I was at my wits end with my little tyrant,who was definitely running my home. Every supper time was horendous,getting out the door in the morning was the same. She was upsetting the whole family and I'd basically tried everything. She didn't like what was put before her for supper,and never finished it. Her focus was on dessert. Getting up for school and out the door in the morning was just as bad. She didn't have anything to wear and what she did have was stupid,according to her. I tried punishing her with the usual things like "time out",I yelled at her when my patience was gone,I took away her privileges,nothing worked. When I was asked to view this video 1-2-3 Magic,I was skepticle,but agreed anyway. After just a few minutes,I grabbed a pen and paper and started making notes. It was as if Dr.Phlen actually knew me and my child personally. That same day after watching the video,I waited patiently for my beloved 6 year old to come home,and I sat her down and explained briefly,the way things were going to be around here. I picked some things out of the video that was applicable to my child,and instantly started incorporating them. She was appalled that she had to start "paying me" for doing "her" chores,only if "she" refused to do them herself of course. She has also started making her bed before going to school in the morning,and getting better at the supper table. I would definitely incourage all parents to watch this video,it sure changed my family's life for the better. It was a relief! Thank-you Dr.Phelan for relieving some of my stress and enjoying my beloved 6 year old again.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
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big help
clear cut and very simple solution for parents dealing with special needs as well as the normal child. was recommended to me by my childs therapist . Read more
Published 6 months ago by dreamergirl
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Life Saver
My neighbor says it's excellent. It's helped her tremendously with her daughter. She was at a point she just didn't know what to do. A psychologist recommended the book.
Published 10 months ago by excellent, very real images.
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ok
This was recommended to me by a psychologist. It is an ok video, but not really amazing or anything. Great alternative to physical punishment, though.
Published on August 20, 2008 by W. Stephens
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My wife and I both work outside the home. Mornings were insane in our house especially getting our 3, 4 and 7 year olds to cooperate just so that we could all be out the door on... Read more
Published on January 11, 2005 by Daddy David
5.0 out of 5 stars
The best Parenting Video - full of humor and specifics !!!
I have a 2 1/2 year old son whom I put him in Preschool three weeks ago and I have been called in many times to the school because he was not listening to the teacher/aide. Read more
Published on October 31, 2004 by A conscientious mom
5.0 out of 5 stars
It really is magic!
I have seen this technique work with really hard kids, the kids nothing else works for. Many other parents love the technique; so much so that they tend to STEAL my video and I've... Read more
Published on September 3, 2002
5.0 out of 5 stars
stands the test of time
As a school social worker in two elementary schools (the technique is recommended for kids 2-12)I often am asked by parents how they should deal with their child's behaivor at... Read more
Published on April 24, 2002 by Amy Chapman
5.0 out of 5 stars
An excellent, easy and effective method of parenting.
I bought the book "1-2-3 Magic" about 4 yrs ago and have been using this method w/ my son since then, very successfully. Read more
Published on June 5, 1999
5.0 out of 5 stars
An end to senseless battles with your child.
It is a behavior modification so simple it actually works. I am a believer because of its effect on the whole family. Read more
Published on December 27, 1998
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