10 Commandments Of Dating [Paperback]

Ben Young (Author), Dr. Samuel Adams (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 5, 1999

Are you tired of pouring time, energy and money into relationships that start off great and end with heartache? If so, you need The Ten Commandments of Dating to give you the hard-hitting, black-and-white, practical guidelines that will address your questions and frustrations about dating. This guide will help you keep your head in the search for the desire of your heart.

Product Details

• Paperback: 175 pages
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson (February 5, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0785270221
• ISBN-13: 978-0785270225
• Product Dimensions: 7.8 x 5.1 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (44 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #746,851 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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72 of 76 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The best, most practical dating book around, April 25, 1999

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G. Williams (Louisiana) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: 10 Commandments Of Dating (Paperback)

Forget all those books that tell you that men and women are from different planets...this is a book for couples on planet Earth who want to have a long-lasting, meaningful relationship. I was completely engrossed by it from the very first page and learned so much from it. This book gives clear, common-sense reasons why so many relationships don't work, and simple, straightforward guidelines for improving your relationships and finding the right one. It also focuses on what to do when you are single (Thou Shalt Get a Life) to make yourself more attractive to others. Some of the guidelines in this book seem a little radical and "politically incorrect", but when you think about them they really make sense. The book is very straightforward and to-the-point with a healthy dose of humor mixed in. Don't "kiss dating goodbye"! Read this book and go about dating the right way! Whether you are a Christian or not I would highly recommend this book to anybody; it should be required reading for anyone who wishes to get married someday. I'm certain that anyone who follows its guidelines closely will experience satisfying results.

46 of 47 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Book on Dating, May 1, 2006

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Jay Young (Austin, TX USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: 10 Commandments Of Dating (Paperback)

Young and Adams' "The Ten Commandments of Dating" is one of the best books on the subject out there, if not the best. The authors make the subject very accessible, give examples, and show what happens when you break the dating commandments. The 10 commandments of dating are:

1.) Thou Shalt Get a Life. You cannot have a relationhip with someone until your own life is in order.

2.) Thou Shalt Use Your Brain. Don't let hormones and emotional attachment take over your common sense.

3.) Thou Shalt Be Equally Yoked. You and your partner must be equally yoked in physical, spiritual, and social matters if a relationship is going to work.

4.) That Shalt Take it Slow. It will probably cause some inconvenience, but most bad decisions are correctable, with the negative consequences eventually disappearing. However, if you marry the wrong person, there will be significant negative consequences that will last for the rest of your life.

5.) Thou Shalt Set Clear Boundaries. If you don't, you'll be sorry.

6.) Thou Shalt Save Sex For Later. If you opt for immediate gratification, there will be lasting pain and guilt in the long run.

7.) Thou shalt Not Play House. Cohabitation means enjoying the benefits of marriage without having any of the responsibilities that go along with it. The Houston Chronicle did a study, and couples who live together before marriage are 80% more likely to get divorced.

8.) Thou Shalt Fight Fairly. Handling disagreements constructively is one of the keys to making a relationship work. Read the book to find out how.

9.) Thou Shalt Not Ignore Warning Signs. If you see a red flag, heed it. Don't say, "maybe things will change later." They won't.

10.) Thou Shalt Choose Wisely. Now, apply all of the advice, choose wisely, and find the right person.

This book is excellent. I failed to heed commandments 2, 3, 5, and 9 in a recent dating experience, and I paid the price. Don't do the same. Buy the book and take it seriously.

24 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars FINALLY! Some REAL guidelines for the dating scene!, March 1, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: 10 Commandments Of Dating (Paperback)

Finally, REAL stuff, REAL life! I've seen, heard about, read and burned too many relationship books that profess to have the formula for finding true love. THE 10 COMMANDMENTS OF DATING doesn't mention the aligning of the planets or how to be popular in a chat room. It does, however, share tried and true guidelines for REAL singles who desire REAL relationships. Learning more about setting clear boundaries early on, fighting fairly and recognizing warning signs, (otherwize known as RED FLAGS) lead me to buy extra copies for some of my single friends. We don't have to continue making the same mistakes. This book didn't teach me that I should act a certain way to attract a mate. It encouraged me to continue developing my own interests, respect myself and those I date and lastly to "take it slow, get to know!"