1001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married [Paperback]

Monica Leahy (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 16, 2004

The relationship expert from the Ladies' Home Journal, the Wall Street Journal, and Lifetime Television shows how to prevent marriage problems before they start

There's nothing wrong with starter jobs and starter homes, but starter marriages? Relationship expert Monica Mendez Leahy is on a mission to help readers make their marriage last. Her 1,001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married offers a reality check for couples on the marriage path, helping them realize how much they have yet to discover about their partner's nature, thought processes, lifestyle, and marital expectations.

Engaged couples learn to discuss issues deeper than "chicken or fish" and to broach subjects that are often ignored before the nuptials yet essential for the foundation of an intimate, long-lasting relationship. Posed in a variety of fun formats, including multiple choice, fill-in-the-blank, and hypotheticals, these questions include topics such as:

• "Does your partner feel that you're too attached to your parents?"
• "Is there such a thing as innocent flirting?"
• "Is it OK to cheat on your taxes?"
• And more

Editorial Reviews

From the Back Cover

"An important and essential book for all couples contemplating marriage."
--Dr. Barry G. Ginsberg, Executive Director, Center of Relationship Enhancement

Love can be bliss, but marriage takes work. Communication, compromise, and joint decision making are key ingredients to a successful marriage. Using a variety of fun, interactive formats, including multiple choice, fill-in-the-blank, and hypotheticals, relationship expert Monica Mendez Leahy brings to the table these and many other important issues that will arise in every marriage--including the ones that may blindside you. 1,001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married will help you and your partner explore your common goals and perspectives as well as celebrate your unique differences as you prepare for your life journey together.

Through the questions posed in this book, you and your betrothed will explore fundamental questions about nature, thought processes, lifestyle, and marital expectations, including:

• Is there such a thing as innocent flirting?
• Do you both want children?
• How important is religion in your life?
• Do you think couples should share the same political views?

About the Author

Monica Mendez Leahy has been helping couples prepare for marriage for twenty years. She hosts a series of couples' workshops in the Los Angeles area and has been featured in the Ladies Home Journal and the Wall Street Journal and on Lifetime Television.

Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: McGraw-Hill; 1 edition (April 16, 2004)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0071438033
• ISBN-13: 978-0071438032
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.5 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (44 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #12,182 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #25 in Books > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Relationships > Mate Seeking

More About the Author

Monica Mendez Leahy believes if love were all that is needed to make a marriage work, there would be no divorce. Her numerous television and radio appearances have given brides and grooms insights into what they need to know before they go down the aisle. The author of numerous articles, she blogs regularly about relationship issues.

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

103 of 105 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A must-have book and fun to read, too, May 25, 2006

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sheila (new york city) - See all my reviews

This review is from: 1001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married (Paperback)

Hmmm... A person who has been successfully married for a long time and has known her husband for 10 years before tying the knot, supposedly picks up this book, realizes it doesn't offer her anything, and then gives it a negative review? Hello. Talk about a complete disconnect, and a wholly unfair review.

This is a book for people who really need to think about what kind of changes married life will bring -- it's not for people who have known each other since childhood and grew up together (see below), but as grown-ups who come with perhaps unknown sets of values, goals, expectations, families, in-laws, problems, and vision.

For people who take the institution of marriage seriously and need to want to look past the butterflies and flowers of love and engagement to what it means to be really married, warts, mothers-in-law, unemployment, child-rearing exhaustion, nursing homes, affairs, as well as the good times (LOL). The author has really thought through life's possibilities exhaustively..I'd give this to anyone who is marriage-minded. Even if you've met "the one," sometimes it's better to know up front what you're dealing with and face it head on than find out later.

Recommended.

90 of 94 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Why do I carry this book in my bridal salon?, July 31, 2004

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Eugenia (Eugenia's Bridal Designs) - See all my reviews

This review is from: 1001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married (Paperback)

This is the only marriage preparation book I carry in my bridal boutique because of its common sense, secular and all-inclusive content. The book's questions, tips and advice can benefit any type of relationship-professional, personal as well as matrimonial. I have gotten good feedback from my customers. Many brides have told me that the questions in the book can be turned into a fun wedding shower game.

I was impressed by the book's non-threatening and non-preachy tone. It makes me feel good to know I'm offering brides something more than a beautiful wedding gown and accessories.

40 of 41 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Parents should give this book to their kids., July 31, 2004

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R. Smith (Detroit, MI) - See all my reviews

This review is from: 1001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married (Paperback)

Gave this to my daughter and her fiancee to prepare them for the most important decision they'll ever make. They laughed at first, but can't stop talking about how much fun it is to ask all the questions. The sections about finances and in-laws are particularly good. I am recommending this book to all my friends who have kids of marrying age.