365 Nights: A Memoir of Intimacy (Paperback)

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Key Phrases: regular intimacy, having sex every day, daily intimacy, Charla Muller, Valentine's Day, The Gift (more...)

Editorial Reviews

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“Charla Muller is the Lou Gehrig of postmarital sex. Or maybe the Louise Gehrig. Whichever it is, I thank her for her inspiring journey.”
–A.J. Jacobs, New York Times bestselling author of The Know It All: One Man’s Humble Quest to Become the Smartest Person in the World

“This makes Morgan Spurlock look like a wimp for just eating McDonald’s food for 90 days.”
– Celia Rivernbark, author of the forthcoming Belle Weather: Mostly Sunny with a Chance of Scattereed Hissy Fits

Product Description

When Charla Muller’s husband turned 40, she gave him something memorable. Sex. Every day. For an entire year.

The Mullers had a solid marriage and two wonderful children, but over the years sex had fallen low on their to-do list. The lack of intimacy wasn’t causing them to drift apart, exactly, but their connection didn’t seem as great as it could be. Charla decided she couldn’t go on pretending the relationship they once had wasn’t important.

The couple would embark on a year of scheduled sex, falling over Tonka trucks and piles of laundry in an effort to make time for each other. There were obstacles along the way (work implosions, faking it) and questions came to light. Will sex every day strengthen a marriage, or reveal the cracks? Pull a couple together or drive them apart? Does good sex (even mediocre sex) make up for things that aren’t so good?

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Product Details

• Paperback: 288 pages
• Publisher: Berkley Trade (June 24, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0425222578
• ISBN-13: 978-0425222577
• Product Dimensions: 8.1 x 5.5 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (47 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #125,447 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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16 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Booooring..., August 17, 2008

By	lilmizcanada (Toronto, Canada) - See all my reviews

I thought it was a great idea what she did, and I was really excited to read this book. But it was so boring! She barely talked about the sex, and rambled on and on about how she likes to cook, about her life, and barely discussed the impact the gift made on their sex life. I read the first half, felt bored to tears, and skipped to the epilogue where I got the gist of the entire book. The only reason she gets 2 stars for this book is because I loved the idea behind the gift and thought it was gutsy that she then wrote a book about it. I just wish the book had had more oomph.

25 of 32 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Couples everywhere need to thank Charla Muller for this gift of a book!, June 25, 2008

By	CredoDuckDaughter - See all my reviews

If you haven't heard about this book yet, hold on to your hat. This hilarious, honest, moving account of one woman's "Gift" to her husband of sex everyday for a year is an incredible story. Charla has a wonderful writing style that makes you feel like you are sitting across a table from her with a glass of wine in your hand, sharing all your innermost thoughts with your best friend. Her voice perfectly captures what it is like for many women that have been married for a number of years, with a couple of kids, working inside or outside the home, with a husband around here somewhere and sex not anywhere on that endless to-do list. The topic of sex in a marriage (or lack thereof!) is still somewhat taboo, with a lot of people thinking about it, but no one really willing to talk about it. Thankfully Charla Muller had the courage and the pluck to not only come up with the idea of sex everyday, but to write a witty, enjoyable book about it! (Note: the book is completely G-rated, with a focus on the relationship, not the act itself.) Her honesty and humor provides a great forum for husbands and wives everywhere to talk about "the elephant in the bedroom" and in the process reconnect with one another. Thank you Charla for giving the Gift to Brad and for giving everyone else the gift of your book! Can't wait to read your next one.....

16 of 21 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars How much fun was that!, June 24, 2008

By	LLH (Manhattan) - See all my reviews

After reading this book, it's all my girlfriends and I can talk about. Ms. Muller brings such an enticing, interesting but often taboo subject to light and gives us a chance to all talk about it using she and Mr. Muller as shining examples. While I haven't found many girlfriends willing to give the 365 day gift--I've found a couple willing to think about 40. Thanks to Ms. Muller for bringing her wit, honesty and class to these pages. Even a cynical New Yorker enjoyed her book. I cannot wait to read the next one.