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on January 26, 2012
There is some great material in this concise book that made a positive impact on my marriage. I feel the book could benefit from some additional editing. Most of the book is background material and highly worthwhile, but the 4 steps themselves are all in the last chapter and they felt underdeveloped.

The chapters that resonated positivel with me were 2, 3, 4, and 5.

Chapters 2-3 contains traditional jewish thoughts about marriage. In just a few pages, the authors manage to convey some intense kabbalistic concepts that struck me deeply. In chapters 4-5 I feel the book reaches its peak. The authors redefine love, romance, communication, and especially listening, which gets its own chapter of tightly woven stories that illustrate the tremendous positive impact of truly listening to your spouse.

Chapter 6 is about "The Power of Sorry" but is only 2 pages long and not fully developed. More stories and examples would help. Chapter 7 seems to be about dating and contains good nuggets of insight, but I feel it would have been better to combine this with step 1 (of the 4 steps) and dedicate a chapter to it.

In chapter 8, each step is covered in just a few pages and isn't developed fully. When I got to the end, my reaction was "that's it? Where's the rest?". I feel each step deserved its own chapter.

As the book stands, I feel a better title would be, "Preparing for a Successful Marriage". On that basis, it's a good book.
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This is an easy. short book to read that is packed with wisdom and sensitivity. The authors share wisdom from renowned Jewish and other sources, and from their own successful marriage of over thirty years duration. They explain the importance of really listening to your partner and tell how to quickly end a power struggle by :"getting off your position." What comes through repeatedly is the importance of putting your partner and the relationship first, instead of trying to win an argument or get your way about some concern. The 4 Steps to a Successful Marriage includes examples that show just how different couples create wonderful marriages by putting this teaching into practice. The author's warmth and humor come through often, making the book a pleasure to read, as well as informative.
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on January 7, 2012
The 4 steps to a successful Marriage was recommended to me by a friend. She told me the book would change my life and I think it really has. I have been trying some of the methods explained in the book and can already see a difference in my relationships.

If your married this is a must read. And if your thinking of marriage this is a must read. If you deal with people this is must read.

The ideas are new and very well explained and easy to incorporate instantly into your life. I had the feeling through out the book that the books authors were actually pulling for me and on my side. What more could anyone want, two instant unknown friends that are guiding and pulling for you.
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on January 17, 2012
I feel it's important to take note that though the title of the book is "The Four Steps to a Successful Marriage," the words "AND ALL YOUR OTHER RELATIONSHIPS" is also written below. People who aren't married might think they wouldn't be able to glean anything from a book like this, but a marriage is a partnership, and ANY kind of relationship is also a partnership.

One main passage stands out for me: "The difference between our book and most others is that we have included the spiritual dimension, so that the soul can be touched and softened." That's such a beautiful idea and so meaningful in today's world that seeks to remove that dimension from our consciousness.

What also resonates with me is that the title refers to a SUCCESSFUL marriage-not always happy, not without discord. It's how we find acceptance in the other person that is key to maintaining the relationship. The chapter on "active listening" is a real eye-opener. Anyone who wants to really communicate with another person will be happy they read this book. It contains very practical advice that is easily accessible to everyone.

It's an easy book to read. You'll find that you will want to read it over and over, and that you missed things the first time around. In it, we have been given the opportunity to access our memories; the information only seems new-it is really age-old wisdom that has already been imprinted in our DNA, just waiting to be rediscovered! Kudos to the Krauses for giving us a reawakening!
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on December 15, 2011
We all know what we want out of marriage when we first get married. But somehow, despite our best intentions, we manage to flounder along the way. Sam and Terry Krause are astute observers of human behavior and, coupled with the wisdom of the Torah, deliver deep insights into what makes for a successful marriage. They've boiled it down to four steps. Thank G-d for that, because in these busy and complicated times that's about all anyone can handle. What they haven't done is just as important as what they have done. They have not puffed up the page-count with lots of needless case studies. They deliver the information in a compact, efficient manner. This practical, clearly-written book lays out practices that help focus energy on achieving what you know needs to be done - and it works! This book is a must read for newlyweds and makes for an excellent wedding gift.
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on December 14, 2011
WOW!!!...this concise and easy to read gem thoughtfully and powerfully reveals secrets as old as adam and eve and as new as this very moment...if you are thinking about marriage (or any relationship, for that matter) or, you have been married for any length of time, or, you long to have more meaningful relationships, the wisdom contained here is priceless(and you can have it all for only $12.95!)...this wonderous little book is absolute must reading for all...and fun, too!
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on May 15, 2012
Sam Krause's book "The 4 Steps ti as Successful Marriage" is a wonderfully written, witty, resource for anyone that is looking to improve their marriage or any other relationship that they are in. It is amazing how simple some of the steps are and how quickly one can turn their relationship around. Great job Mr. Krause!
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on December 20, 2011
Marriage is usually difficult somewhere along the way. This book will help keep you on track. It's valuable lessons can be used daily, and will increase your domestic harmony. I recommend it.
H. Weiss M.D.
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on December 19, 2011
This book was an easy read, yet very deep at the same time. It gives you a torah perspective on marriage and relationships, along with practical advice on how to improve in those areas.
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on December 5, 2011
A small book with a big message, The Four Steps to a Successful Marriage: And All Your Other Relationships, written by Sam and Terry Krause, provides readers with practical steps for a real change in their most important relationships. Other marriage books encourage basic, often romantic, steps to change, including such things as bringing your wife presents or writing loving notes to your husband. While these things are certainly nice and are appreciated by any spouse, they cannot provide a lasting change in the everyday life of a marriage. Both Sam and Terry give readers the fruit of their own experience in a lasting, loving marriage. Through their time together, they have learned these four steps to a successful marriage and share them in their book, The Four Steps.

Sam and Terry Krause's book may be small, but it has a big heart and an even deeper basis in their own personal experience and Torah. In a time when half of all marriages end in divorce, we need such wisdom now more than ever. Like the work of a marriage, their advice is simple but not easy. However, being in a covenant relationship--and a marriage is a covenant to those who are believers--is important and having a successful relationship is an honor given to God. We should, therefore, do what we can to improve our most important relationship, along with our relationships with all others in our life. For those like me who have read other marriage and relationship books, this one's different. It provides refreshing insight into our relationship with our spouse and gives techniques that will draw you closer to that person--and God. Take advantage of the wisdom of those who have gone before you in the often difficult road of marriage. Read The Four Steps and apply its techniques, and even though you may falter in the application, you and your spouse will be the better for it.
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