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An Uncut Diamond
on January 26, 2012
There is some great material in this concise book that made a positive impact on my marriage. I feel the book could benefit from some additional editing. Most of the book is background material and highly worthwhile, but the 4 steps themselves are all in the last chapter and they felt underdeveloped.
The chapters that resonated positivel with me were 2, 3, 4, and 5.
Chapters 2-3 contains traditional jewish thoughts about marriage. In just a few pages, the authors manage to convey some intense kabbalistic concepts that struck me deeply. In chapters 4-5 I feel the book reaches its peak. The authors redefine love, romance, communication, and especially listening, which gets its own chapter of tightly woven stories that illustrate the tremendous positive impact of truly listening to your spouse.
Chapter 6 is about "The Power of Sorry" but is only 2 pages long and not fully developed. More stories and examples would help. Chapter 7 seems to be about dating and contains good nuggets of insight, but I feel it would have been better to combine this with step 1 (of the 4 steps) and dedicate a chapter to it.
In chapter 8, each step is covered in just a few pages and isn't developed fully. When I got to the end, my reaction was "that's it? Where's the rest?". I feel each step deserved its own chapter.
As the book stands, I feel a better title would be, "Preparing for a Successful Marriage". On that basis, it's a good book.