Moving, ultimately enthralling documentary about an average suburban New York husband and wife, and their family. And, no, it isn't a secret murder or molestation or other sensational element often seen in other family documentaries that makes this one engrossing. It's simply the sad revelation that there were secret emotional lives, laced with frustration and sadness, under the stiff-upper-lip exteriors of the married couple who are the film's subjects. Documentarian Doug Block's approach to his parents is clever: he first makes it seem that it was his father who had a secret life- real and interior- while his mother happily toiled away with the kids. But it's later revealed that this description better fit Doug's mother (though I'm not completely convinced Doug's father didn't have his own very-real adventures, too, to counter his frustrations). Still, whatever one ends up believing about what went on and where the fault originated in the marriage, the documentary itself is affectionate and non-judgemental, just wanting to understand its subjects, and feel a little sad for them for all their years of underlying unhappiness.
But there's also joy and hope in the film, in the form of Doug's 83 year-old father finding ultimate contentment with an old acquaintance (possibly old flame), to the amazement of Doug and his sisters. It's this new relationship, however, that gets the documentary rolling in the first place, as the filmmaker and his siblings ask, "How can Dad be married for over fifty years but then fall in love with a woman from his past only three months after his wife dies?"
Good extras shed further light on this very interesting story and on Doug Block's quirky and often entertaining extended family members. Those family members, by the way, perform the welcome function of occasionally lightening the mood in an otherwise fairly dark film.