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ACT with Love: Stop Struggling, Reconcile Differences, and Strengthen Your Relationship with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Paperback – June 1, 2009

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Product Details

  • Paperback: 240 pages
  • Publisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1 edition (June 1, 2009)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1572246227
  • ISBN-13: 978-1572246225
  • Product Dimensions: 0.5 x 6 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (36 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #82,856 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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“Warm, engaging, and infinitely valuable, Dr. Harris has written the ideal book for couples who are seeking to strengthen their relationships and grow intimacy. Harris’s ACT with Love takes acceptance and commitment therapy into the realm of couplehood in a kind, thoughtful, and realistic way. Share it with couples everywhere and use it in your own relationship. I plan to!”
—Robyn D. Walser, Ph.D., author of The Mindful Couple



“Not since Masters and Johnson on Sex and Human Loving has there been such a powerful, practical, and inspiring book written about love and relationships. Russ Harris really is a genius with words as well as an expert ACT clinician. With these qualities he succeeds in weaving together a path to successful relationships. Don't miss this book!”
—JoAnne Dahl, Ph.D., associate psychology professor at the University of Uppsala in Sweden



“Reading and following this book may well be the most precious gift you ever give not only to your partner, but also to yourself. I highly recommended it to those who wish to revitalize a floundering relationship as well as those who want to make a good relationship even better.”
—Robert D. Zettle, Ph.D., associate psychology professor at Wichita State University and author of ACT for Depression



“If you want to be the best mate you can be in your relationship, this book will help. If both you and your mate want to have the best relationship you can have, this book will help that, too!”
—Hank Robb, Ph.D., ABPP

From the Publisher

In ACT with Love, therapist and medical doctor Russ Harris shows couples how developing psychological flexibility--the ability to be in the present moment with openness, awareness, and focus, and to take effective action in line with one's values--can help them build more compassionate, accepting, loving relationships.

Customer Reviews

I highly recommend this book to anyone in a relationship.
Dr Jess
I believe these three skills are essential for love and intimacy.
Joseph Ciarrochi
It's an excellent book, very easy to read, understand and apply.
Maria Fernanda Contreras

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29 of 30 people found the following review helpful By Joseph Ciarrochi on May 26, 2009
Format: Paperback
I think this is a great book. Russ Harris writes in a clear style that gets right to the point. He shows how all couples are bound to struggle at some time and become disconnected from their relationship values. I think this is an important point, because we often go into relationships with the fairy tale idea that relationships should be easy (happily ever after). I think "ACT with Love" does a good job of showing how easy it is for all of us to lose contact with our partners and no longer see them as they really are. It describes how a once loving, caring relationship can become a war.

The book proposes an anecdote based on Acceptance and Commitment therapy. Basically, it shows how couples can become more mindful, accepting of things they can't change, and values driven. I believe these three skills are essential for love and intimacy.

I like the format of the book. I found it easy to skim and find topics I was most interested in. I found the exercises to be helpful. I liked that the book was both serious and humorous (e.g., in one section Dr. Harris discusses destructive relationship tactics such as "exhuming the corpse " and "springing the ambush"

I strongly recommend this book, both to relationship counsellors and to people in relationships. I don't think you need to wait till you are having problems in a relationship to get it. It probably would make for some good preventative medicine
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20 of 20 people found the following review helpful By Amazon Customer on December 28, 2009
Format: Paperback
This ACT book is probably the best i've read to date on relationship building. It lays out the subject in an easy to read format and challenges the reader to pause after each chapter and practice the techniques. As a CBT therapist I find the approach that ACT (Acceptance and Committment Therapy) proposes to such matters an advance on simply trying to control thoughts. As the book points out such attempts at changing thoughts are difficult and fraught with set backs. Rather than take this approach ACT advises you to accept that negative thoughts are normal in any relationship and learning how to pay attention to what we value is a more solid approach to ensuring that we act appropriately.

I strongly recomend this book to any couple wanting to build a more solid and satisfying relationship no matter how long that they have been together. I have been married 32 years now and after reading this book have found new ways to enhance our relationship and move even closer to acting on those three little words "I love you."
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10 of 11 people found the following review helpful By Dr Jess on January 17, 2010
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Russ Harris, author of "The Happiness Trap", has written yet another engaging and easy-to-read book. As a clinical psychologist who uses ACT quite frequently with my clients, I have found this book to be an invaluable resource, both at a professional and personal level. This book will help you undertand the problems in your relationship, teach you strategies to stop struggling with painful thoughts and feelings, learn to accept and re-connect with your partner, identify your values, and enhance your relationship by helping you be the partner that YOU ultimately want to be. I highly recommend this book to anyone in a relationship. Whether you are wanting to enhance an already healthy relaionship, or whether you are wanting to repair a relationship that has become strained and disconnected, this book will give you the strategies to do so.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Sherlock Holmes on July 14, 2011
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The book starts off in a bit of a repetitive fashion with the author seeming to dance around actually saying what he's trying to say, but it picks up after the first few chapters and gets into some really good topics. If you are considering how you can change someone else to be a better partner be ready to look in a mirror. The author stresses that haveing a great relationship is usually about being the best partner you can be first, then seeing how that creates a better situation with the other person. This can be tough since it will likely feel a bit false for some at at first, but the author does encourage working through the exercises as a couple. You can do it all alone, but it will be tougher than doing it together. The questions that are asked in the exercises are simple yet thought provoking. It really does make you consider all the ways you sabotage your relationship. And I really like the point the author makes early on about how everyone considers at one time or another life with another partner, or alone. There is hope for your relationship, but it will require you to change yourself first. If, after all that, you still aren't in a good situation then you know it's time to go.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By J. Ro Morgan on February 28, 2012
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Great book. I am of the mind that you can at times learn the most from others mis-steps. Why wait until your relationship is broken to try to make it better? With that in mind I bought this book as a gift and dropped it into my daughter's Kindle.
I love this book. It is entertaining in its insights and candor. The 'lessons' are clear and easy to assimulate.I have passed two copies along to clients along with the 'easy to obtain' worksheets. If my budget would allow it I would stand on a busy street corner and pass this book out to everyone who looked as though they might someday be in a relationship...yep, that would be everyone.
This is not the same old, same old that keeps recycling under different titles. This is a fresh and 'workable' perspective for living fully in relationship.
Let your myths slide past you and get real with what is.. learn to live and love on a deeper more meaningful level.
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Russ Harris is a medical practitioner, psychotherapist, and leading expert in acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). His books include ACT with Love, ACT Made Simple, The Confidence Gap, and The Happiness Trap, which has now been translated into twenty-two languages. He lives in Melbourne, Australia, and travels internationally to train mental health professionals in the ACT approach.

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