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Absolutely Should-Less: The Secret to Living the Stress-Free Life You Deserve Paperback – November 1, 2008
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It is not that I don't take issue with some of what Jacobs presents. While I think his pedagogical approach is faulty in some areas, he is on target with much of what he speaks.
Over 35 years ago, Werner Erhard and his Erhard Seminar Training workshops (EST for short) noted that "shoulds," were the booby prize. That is, they were basically counter-productive. Cognitive therapy, specifically "cognitive restructuring," notes that if we change the emotion of language we can change the narrative of our lives. Over the last two or three decades it has been hit and miss. The problem is language, semantics, linguistics, --- call it what you will --- has enslaved us all. We can choose to run from language, but after all, it is all we have. The run is futile and language tags right along with us wherever we go ---like that bully of a classmate at lunch recess.
Rather than flee from language --- and specifically the words we use --- perhaps it makes more sense to simply stop running from them. Accept them, and embrace the words and language we use. The better approach may be to simply defuse the power behind them. I don't believe refraining from word usage is all that helpful. I think the better approach is to defuse the power behind the words in our usage.Read more ›
Interesting vignettes of patient/therapist dialogue help demonstrate Jacobs' techniques for realizing self-destructive behavior and offers new ways to look at the challenges we all face.
Well worth the read and perspective it inspires.
As a counselor and an adjunct professor I actually use collective pages - Chapter 3 is amazing - of this book to encourage my students to accept their challenges and then pursue them.
For anyone out there who knows of students, whether high school, college, vocational, that are ready to embark on careers and have choices to make regarding the future it would be an excellent gift.
I really, REALLY did like this book and appreciate the message Damon Jacobs has shared with his readers.
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A refreshing and thoughtful approach to dealing with the stream of negative messages we intuit and repeat to ourselves!Published 11 months ago by bruce kleinschmidt
I've never read a self-help book that was so easy to read, so easy to absorb, and which so singularly identified the cultural/social expectations by which people operate and... Read morePublished on April 14, 2013 by Christopher Caz
I met Damon in DC on April 7, 2013. We became facebook friends and I saw where he wrote this book and I decided to purchase it to see what it was about. Read morePublished on April 14, 2013 by John Watson
A very useful guide to help start the new year with resolutions for a more stressless life.this book really helps.Published on December 28, 2012 by Eileen J. Landrew
A book that leads you to question 'shoulds' in every walk of life. I highly recommend this for anyone trying to think for themselves and to push beyond what society expects of you. Read morePublished on December 15, 2012 by Mychael A Solis-Wheeler
There is a lot of insights in this well written and accessible book, and my golden takeaway is that, now, every single time I use the word "should," I am prompted to re-evaluate my... Read morePublished on March 25, 2012 by Melissa Egan
This is a fabulous book. It's given me a new perspective on the word should. There is no should.. it's want, or choose. Great read as well as reference. Read morePublished on April 26, 2011 by maxine gratz