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Date Abuse (Issues in Focus)

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This was a good book talking about how boys and girls in relationships can hurt each other. The stories in here are very disturbing. The pain we can inflict on each other at times can be endless. I know I've inflicted pain on my late wife at times; not physical, but emotional, verbal, and sexual. I know in my own mind it was because I longed to experience coming and orgasm by getting real close to her, and getting her whipped up in a sexual frenzy hopefully every night. I also know I had a temper, and I could say the most God-Awful things. She had a temper too, and she could abuse just as bad verbally, emotionally, and sometimes slam things around, and throw things. I know there were times I would cry because I would see the way I was treating her, and it just fathomed me as to why she stayed with me. She was a beautiful woman, and I was lucky to have her as my wife for a short while. However, now that she's dead I know I have to rethink alot of things, and get some perspective. I look at the cover on this book, and see a guy wanting to get the girl's jeans off, and see what's going on underneath e.g. panties, and her body so forth and so forth. I feel that it should be mentioned that if the guy on that cover is having strong feelings of the sexual kind toward that girl that the writer include somethings to say to her before the situation is getting out of hand. Like " This isn't your fault I'm having some strong feelings toward you right now, but I'm scared, or don't know how to express them.", or in a case where the guy is looking for someone to fight, and mess up physically, and the only one is the girl he's with:" I'm sorry I'm not good company right now. I've just had a real bad stressful day, and I'm thinking it probably wasn't a good idea to go out tonight....nothing against you.". Then you have the verbal, or emotional scenario where the guy and girl are having a very nasty argument, and the guy is going to really slam her with some horrible insults: "I think we both need to cool off right now; I (depending on stage of relationship)love you/care alot about you, and don't want to say something that will cause hurt feelings." I see that girl on the cover, and she's so beautiful that I wish I was dating her, and while it's up to us guys to communicate our fears, feelings, and everything to the girl we're out with I can only pray that the girl on the cover of this book would be sensitive to us, and not dare I say "Judge Us", or make us feel stupid for having these feelings. Date Abuse is inexcusable because the scars that it creates will go far beyond the relationship we have in the present. They will go far beyond after the relationship maybe over especially left untreated. I feel that while this is a good book in the sense it gives equal time to both boys and girls who were abused by thier dates and/or people they were involved in a relationship it's pretty much a standard book that doesn't really educate an abuser, and give them the tools to help change their lives. Mind you the abuser still will need professional counselling, but this was written by a doctor, so to me she can offer some practical tips to get the abuser started on the road to recovery.