Writing in response to Steve Harvey's 'Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man,' author Maria Bustillos reveals the secrets of women in order that men, too, can get what they want from women--which is to get them into bed. An absurdist meditation on the battle of the sexes--and required reading for would-be Lotharios as well as parents of teenage girls--from the author of Dorkismo: the Macho of the Dork.
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I'll bet you've got this idea of a man who is likely to do well with women. Rich, tall, muscular, spends a lot of time at the gym. Makes a lot of money and drives a flash car. Smart too, no doubt, "successful." He probably has other James-Bondish features as well; knows a lot about wine, dresses well, speaks two or three languages, well-traveled.
How can anyone compete with such a paragon? Clearly the only thing for the ordinary man to do is throw up his hands in despair and hope he can somehow attract the company of some bedraggled and cut-rate but halfway willing female, while the so-called paragons make off with all the fine women. Right?
Everything, literally everything you are thinking here is false. I don't know where these delusional James Bond fantasy figures come from (though I suspect they are transmitted mainly via the distilled insecurities of male screenwriters,) but it's all wrong. To begin with (and please remember, you're hearing this from a woman,) what women really think of overachieving self-infatuated guys who drive embarrassingly ostentatious cars and spend half the day adoring their own reflections in the gym, you know, well---we think they are liable to be absolute tools. We assume that this guy probably thinks he'd be doing me a big favor by asking me out--gross!
Even if such a guy is not really a big poser, but only "successful," as in super career-driven, the average woman is liable to think: he'll never be home; he's too busy for me; I'll be forever waiting by the telephone. I'll never come first with him. If we are not really materialists ourselves, a guy with too much money is apt to kind of scare us off, too. We worry that he won't like our friends, or like going to our favorite hole in the wall; that we will wind up stuck in some stultifying Four Seasons hotel all day while he goes and plays golf with a load of total creeps. And, worst of all: how many other women is this guy paying court to? Am I going to be just no. 8? Is this one of those Hefner scenarios because if it is, in the wise words of Sam Goldwyn, include me out.
So, in order to get girls into bed quite easily, does a man need to be rich? No.
Muscular? Certainly not.
"Successful?" No.
Giant penis? NO.
Fancy car? Don't make me laugh!
All these absurd ideas about being a hit with chicks came not from women but from men, and still worse, from men who have absolutely no idea how women are constituted.
So first of all, you've got to clear your mind completely of every preconception you've been fed about women and what they want from men.
Let me begin by setting you straight on the main point:
It's not about you; it's about her.
How can anyone compete with such a paragon? Clearly the only thing for the ordinary man to do is throw up his hands in despair and hope he can somehow attract the company of some bedraggled and cut-rate but halfway willing female, while the so-called paragons make off with all the fine women. Right?
Everything, literally everything you are thinking here is false. I don't know where these delusional James Bond fantasy figures come from (though I suspect they are transmitted mainly via the distilled insecurities of male screenwriters,) but it's all wrong. To begin with (and please remember, you're hearing this from a woman,) what women really think of overachieving self-infatuated guys who drive embarrassingly ostentatious cars and spend half the day adoring their own reflections in the gym, you know, well---we think they are liable to be absolute tools. We assume that this guy probably thinks he'd be doing me a big favor by asking me out--gross!
Even if such a guy is not really a big poser, but only "successful," as in super career-driven, the average woman is liable to think: he'll never be home; he's too busy for me; I'll be forever waiting by the telephone. I'll never come first with him. If we are not really materialists ourselves, a guy with too much money is apt to kind of scare us off, too. We worry that he won't like our friends, or like going to our favorite hole in the wall; that we will wind up stuck in some stultifying Four Seasons hotel all day while he goes and plays golf with a load of total creeps. And, worst of all: how many other women is this guy paying court to? Am I going to be just no. 8? Is this one of those Hefner scenarios because if it is, in the wise words of Sam Goldwyn, include me out.
So, in order to get girls into bed quite easily, does a man need to be rich? No.
Muscular? Certainly not.
"Successful?" No.
Giant penis? NO.
Fancy car? Don't make me laugh!
All these absurd ideas about being a hit with chicks came not from women but from men, and still worse, from men who have absolutely no idea how women are constituted.
So first of all, you've got to clear your mind completely of every preconception you've been fed about women and what they want from men.
Let me begin by setting you straight on the main point:
It's not about you; it's about her.
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Maria Bustillos is the author of "Dorkismo: the Macho of the Dork" and "Act Like a Gentleman, Think Like a Woman." She lives in Los Angeles, and can be contacted at dorkismo@gmail.com.
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9 of 10 people found the following review helpful
By Monica Wyant
Format:Paperback
Well this was a fantastic book!! I won the book in the Library Thing Member Giveaway program and was looking forward to reading it. I have yet to read Steve Harvey's book that this book is written in response to. I will be reading Steve Harvey's book soon. Act like a Gentleman, Think like a Woman was a very entertaining read even though I am a woman. I could see myself in some of the descriptions of the different types of woman she talks about. I know I am not a Patsy, the name she gives to the woman that every man wants.
Maria writes that Steve's book is talking about how all women want is to get the ring from the guy. She counters with the fact that all men want is to get laid. I found myself laughing while reading the book, because of the things she revealed about woman and saying how we love to hear how beautiful we are and that it should be all about us. I have to agree and disagree with that. It is great when a guy praises you and flatters you but sometimes it can get very annoying if it is the only thing that they talk about. I realized that when my hubby says things like that, that I do get turned on. It is nice to hear, we sometimes need to be praised to continue to be happy. At least that is what I noticed in myself while reading this book.
I don't know if everything will work in this book for a guy to find that Patsy so that he can get laid. I will say if you find the girl she describes then you should have no problem with getting what you want.
Maria writes that Steve's book is talking about how all women want is to get the ring from the guy. She counters with the fact that all men want is to get laid. I found myself laughing while reading the book, because of the things she revealed about woman and saying how we love to hear how beautiful we are and that it should be all about us. I have to agree and disagree with that. It is great when a guy praises you and flatters you but sometimes it can get very annoying if it is the only thing that they talk about. I realized that when my hubby says things like that, that I do get turned on. It is nice to hear, we sometimes need to be praised to continue to be happy. At least that is what I noticed in myself while reading this book.
I don't know if everything will work in this book for a guy to find that Patsy so that he can get laid. I will say if you find the girl she describes then you should have no problem with getting what you want.
18 of 24 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
Sly wit and insightful wisdom; that's what you'll find in Bustillos' answer to Steve Harvey's Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.
In the aptly titled Act Like a Gentleman, Think Like a Woman, Bustillos has laid out a rational, yet at the same time hilariously pseudo-illogical rebuttal to Harvey's interpretation of what women want.
Women, according to Harvey, are primarily concerned with things like "How to Get That Ring," whereas the average man, Bustillos points out in her blunt, big-sisterly way, quite contrarily just want to get laid. And how's a guy supposed to accomplish that when Harvey's blabbed all of mankind's deepest darkest and coached women everywhere on how to overcome them? Bustillos has generously offered up a fount of knowledge obtained after a lifetime of being, well, a woman--but not just any woman--she's one of the sharpest, funniest women around.
Whether you're a man sincerely interested in learning how to bag that gal, or a woman who likes to snort (with laughter) your way through a quirky read, I highly recommend Act Like a Gentleman, Think Like a Woman.
In the aptly titled Act Like a Gentleman, Think Like a Woman, Bustillos has laid out a rational, yet at the same time hilariously pseudo-illogical rebuttal to Harvey's interpretation of what women want.
Women, according to Harvey, are primarily concerned with things like "How to Get That Ring," whereas the average man, Bustillos points out in her blunt, big-sisterly way, quite contrarily just want to get laid. And how's a guy supposed to accomplish that when Harvey's blabbed all of mankind's deepest darkest and coached women everywhere on how to overcome them? Bustillos has generously offered up a fount of knowledge obtained after a lifetime of being, well, a woman--but not just any woman--she's one of the sharpest, funniest women around.
Whether you're a man sincerely interested in learning how to bag that gal, or a woman who likes to snort (with laughter) your way through a quirky read, I highly recommend Act Like a Gentleman, Think Like a Woman.
7 of 9 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback|Amazon Verified Purchase
Is it a satire or not? 'Cause it would totally work.
Over the years, I've had several men friends reveal to me that they found it incredibly depressing (after the initial euphoria) to learn how easy most women really were -- even "nice girls." Yep, the truth is painful; however, like most agonies of the soul, it's also funny, and Ms. Bustillos makes hay with that (bless her).
This is a very naughtily effective how-to guide, a social commentary, and a surprisingly tender love-letter to love -- and no, it's not trying to talk anyone out of their quickies or into marriage (far from!). I'm not familiar with Steve Harvey's book (other than what's generally been said about it), but that didn't diminish the fun of "Act Like a Gentleman" for me; the book stands on its own. It is entertaining and quick, and it's so zippy and good-natured you almost don't realize until after the fact how sharp it is.
The big question for me is...do I let my teenaged son read this? (Ha, like I could stop him!)
Over the years, I've had several men friends reveal to me that they found it incredibly depressing (after the initial euphoria) to learn how easy most women really were -- even "nice girls." Yep, the truth is painful; however, like most agonies of the soul, it's also funny, and Ms. Bustillos makes hay with that (bless her).
This is a very naughtily effective how-to guide, a social commentary, and a surprisingly tender love-letter to love -- and no, it's not trying to talk anyone out of their quickies or into marriage (far from!). I'm not familiar with Steve Harvey's book (other than what's generally been said about it), but that didn't diminish the fun of "Act Like a Gentleman" for me; the book stands on its own. It is entertaining and quick, and it's so zippy and good-natured you almost don't realize until after the fact how sharp it is.
The big question for me is...do I let my teenaged son read this? (Ha, like I could stop him!)
13 of 18 people found the following review helpful
By mungo181
Format:Paperback|Amazon Verified Purchase
Maria Bustillos's "Act Like a Gentleman, Think Like a Woman," offers up witty insights that will pretty much guarantee that male readers will be able to bed certain available females. But don't think it's just for the guys. Women readers will laugh as they recognize themselves and their friends in Bustillos's sharp prose. Since Bustillos is revealing what many women really want, it's a win for everyone--guys get to date the unattainable women they never thought they could, and the lucky women get to date a guy that is armed with the knowledge of how to please them.
Since this comes from a woman, it doesn't involve the gamesmanship suggested in other books, and men will be relieved to know that they do not have to dress like sex pirates in order to score.
Luckily for the guys, it's short and succinct. You can read it in an evening and be striking gold at the clubs the next day!
Since this comes from a woman, it doesn't involve the gamesmanship suggested in other books, and men will be relieved to know that they do not have to dress like sex pirates in order to score.
Luckily for the guys, it's short and succinct. You can read it in an evening and be striking gold at the clubs the next day!
2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
By JDA
Format:Kindle Edition|Amazon Verified Purchase
Maria's 'act like a gentleman, think like a woman' seeks to counter some of the absurd ideas and fallacies about male/female relationships put forward by Steve Harvey 'Act like a lady, think like a man.' Maria makes some good points that Steve's idea about relationships is male oriented, lacking input from the women. Like Maria counters, 'it's not really about you (the male) its about her.' For all you gentlemen out there, this is a must read if you want to mend a broken relationship, or revitalise a dead one or just entering into a new relationship or just plain understand what makes your woman tick.
4 of 5 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars
Fun read to be sure, but offers a truly sensitive and serious commentary
January 26, 2010
Format:Paperback
I had a blast reading this book, and in one short afternoon, too. What began as a light, often side-splittingly funny, response to the Harvey book, ended up having a lot to say, really, about dating and mating - specifically, what it is that makes a woman tick, and how men can get what they want whether they be sincere in it or no.
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5.0 out of 5 stars
great
Love advice for men adorably dispensed by turns ritzy, scheming and blunt. Supporting examples are delightfully archaic -- she first compares herself to Klaus Fuchs (the atomic... Read more
Published 5 months ago by Werdna
1.0 out of 5 stars
SUCKED
Simply put this book sucked and WAS NOT worth the money,it didnt even come close to a stutter rebuttal to Steve Harveys Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man. Read more
Published 12 months ago by B. Stansberry Esq
4.0 out of 5 stars
Reads like a stand-up comedy routine
This book is funny.
It claims to be advice, from a woman's perspective, on how to get a woman into bed. Read more
It claims to be advice, from a woman's perspective, on how to get a woman into bed. Read more
Published 21 months ago by Jonathan J. Hall
2.0 out of 5 stars
Not catching at all
The advise is not good at all......it was to repetitive to the point of becoming redundant. Nothing in the book can tell a guy how to think like a woman period. Read more
Published 22 months ago by Chinazor Ezeli
1.0 out of 5 stars
Book review
I ended up putting it down. I read the original book by Steve Harvey and found it to be very entertaining, but this was so boring and dry and had nothing to do with what it... Read more
Published on April 3, 2011 by Mike T
2.0 out of 5 stars
are you serious?
This book was funny, but not to be taken seriously. I think it was just a spin off of Steve Harvey's book, but none of the advice was dead on...but then again It's geared for men.
Published on September 27, 2010 by Kasey Johnson
2.0 out of 5 stars
Not so much.....
I will give the author an E-for effort; otherwise, book did not hold my attention at all, and certainly no match as a rebuttal to Mr. Harvey's book. Read more
Published on June 14, 2010 by R. Richardson
1.0 out of 5 stars
DO NOT PURCHASE
This is the worst book I've ever tried to read!!!! Poorly written. Grammar terrible. I can't believe anyone would publish this book. Read more
Published on February 1, 2010 by sandy brookover
1.0 out of 5 stars
Quite disappointing
For me, this book was written very superficially. There is all this hype but no follow through. Was the author trying to suggest that men don't feel emotion but rather dating is... Read more
Published on January 24, 2010 by M. Hosein
3.0 out of 5 stars
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Pretending to be written for men, and particularly young men with no real clue about how to conduct their side in the battle of the sexes, Act Like a Gentleman, Think Like a Woman:... Read more
Published on January 20, 2010 by Writer's Rock
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