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Adoption Factbook III

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This book reveals the dark, evil, cruel nature of infant adoption in the United States. First, the adoption industry preys on vulnerable young moms, telling them, "We know that you LOVE your child. The most LOVING thing you can do for your child is to place him for adoption, so that he can have a better life." Then, after the naive, loving mother falls for these lies and surrenders her beloved child, the baby-buyer tells her child that her natural mother "didn't love her."

So, it isn't enough the adoption industry has managed to try and convince young fertile women that if they love their babies they will surrender them to their wealthy clients?They then want our children to believe that their Mothers didn't love them when they lost their babies to adoption? So, it appears that the adoption industry and those that profit off the hearts and bodies of young fertile woman are nothing but self-serving hypocrites .With the suggestion of this book to tell young children that their mothers didn't love them just goes to show you the industry has no problem with harming children if it benefits their clients. I am in contact with many adoptees and natural mothers and they have indeed been harmed from being separated by adoption. I believe that this is why the adoption industry has been fighting to keep adoption records closed.They need however, to stop using us Mothers of adoption loss to further their agenda of infant adoption. Mothers of adoption loss do not have the money nor the political clout that the adoption brokers have but we do have what they don't have;We have the truth and that will continue to be told to young fertile women so they and their children will never have to be victims of the adoption industry.Mothers of adoption loss want the industry to stop using us whenever it benefits them and their adenda.We are no longer the scared young fertile women that the industry could take advantage of and we won't stand by in silence while they continue their lies.....

If one contributor's work can be taken as representative of the attitudes of National For Adoption Council thinking, the chapters written by Denis M. Donovan lay bare NCFA's real attitude toward birthmothers.

In his chapter entitled "Disclosure of Adoptive Status," Donovan emphasizes that "Adoptive parents are...the adoptive child's only parents. Thus there cannot be 'two sets of parents' nor can there be 'biological' and 'adoptive'.....parents." Therefore, if the child should use the conventional expression 'biological mother/father/parent,' the parent should answer with terminology like this: "...he/she chose not to be a parent, so you mean the 'biological stranger.'"

And how about if the child asks the question, which many adopted children do, "You mean she didn't love me? She didn't love her own baby?" Donovan suggests the mother respond thus: "No. She didn't love you. She chose not to ba a parent and not to get to know you, and not take care of you."

Later in this chapter, Donovan advises that the "truth" can be told to the child when he/she is older - in his example, age 14. Now when the child asks "if the 'biological stranger' was really that devoid of love and caring and a 'bad person,'" the mother can set the record straight with, "No, she just got pregnant when she was only your age and knew that, without resources of any kind at all, she couldn't possibly care for that baby. That's why she gave that baby away."

Donovan's crass adoption language flies in the face of every sound adoption psychology, let alone common decency. The fact that his work is included in this purported "factbook" surely categorizes the remainder of the book: useless fiction.

Few adoptions are happy, satisfying events. Very few. As an adoptee, I have researched this topic all my life. I have met 3 adoptees , over the course of my 61 years of life,who were happy with their adoptive families. The rest of us are displaced people searching for our roots, and feeling alienated. This book is false and misleading. Dr. Barbra Rubin

>Quoting: "If one contributor's work can be taken as representative of the attitudes of National For Adoption Council thinking, the chapters written by Denis M. Donovan lay bare NCFA's real attitude toward birthmothers. In his chapter entitled "Disclosure of Adoptive Status," Donovan emphasizes that "Adoptive parents are...the adoptive child's only parents. Thus there cannot be 'two sets of parents' nor can there be 'biological' and 'adoptive'.....parents." Therefore, if the child should use the conventional expression 'biological mother/father/parent,' the parent should answer with terminology like this: "...he/she chose not to be a parent, so you mean the 'biological stranger.'" >End Quote
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The above quote speaks the TRUTH of the matter regarding this book of adoption "facts". These "facts" are so VERY far removed from the truth I'm amazed the publishers let it go to press. I can't believe Donovan had the nerve to put such TRASH in print and call it a book. If an adoptive parent parents as suggested in this TRIPE-filled book the number of hurt adoptees seeking admittance to online (and real-life) groups, set up to heal the damage done by adoption and ignorant aparents, will swell as never before. Do not, and I repeat, do NOT buy this book in preparation for raising the adopted child. If you just have to buy it so you can see what all the fuss is about - buy it, read it, dismiss it as bunk then trash the darn thing! It will be completely at home with the rest of contents of your garbage can! It's the TRUTH that needs telling, not this collection of LIES!

The contents of this book is cruel, totally obscene and fiction. I can not believe that an organization would spread such lies and deception, poor and cruel advice.

This book is so loaded with made up statistics and facts for the sole purpose of misleading the readers, it needs an R rating for ridiculous. The author and the NCFA have been attempting to mislead the public for years and even though the adoption industry as a whole is finally coming into the 21 century with a much more open attitude, these folks don't seem to be paying attention to what's going around them. There are so many misstatement of facts, I couldn't even begin to list them all out here. The best I could offer would be for interested readers to compare what they read here to Adoption Nation: How the Adoption Revolution Is Transforming America - by Adam Pertman, or The Family of Adoption - by Joyce Maguire Pavao, just to name a couple of author who don't slant the truth and attempt to mislead so many people. If it were possible, I would rate this book with a negative 5 and the first review it had with a negative 3 (but only because they actually spelled some of the words right). Bottom line....don't waste your time or money on this fictional portrayal of adoption!

As a blurb on the fron cover says, "the most comprehensive source for adoption statistics". The book seems to be oriented to policy makers and professionals in the field. It is a compendium of articles and studies on adoption by various authors. It is probably not that helpful to propective adoptive parents. Sections of the book include "Data on Adoption", "Welfare & Foster Care Issues", "Birthmother Issues", and so on.

If you have the time and the interest, you can find fascinating factoids in the book. For example, one author did a review of adoption as portrayed in the media and found about 90% of media coverage on adoption to be negative, quite contrary to actual experience.

Another factoid--a review of "health education" materials used in high schools found information on contraceptives and abortion, but no mention of adoption.

One more factoid--it appears that when adoption records are allowed to be made public, the number of adoptions drops.