From Publishers Weekly
The primal desire to love and parent a child binds these adoption narratives, based on detailed interviews with 20 adoptive parents, including heterosexual, gay and single parents, those involved in transracial adoptions and foster parents. Turner, who with her husband adopted a baby girl from Thailand, probes the different motivations for adopting, from infertility to altruism, as well as the frustrations with maladroit social workers and numb bureaucrats that adoptive parents can encounter in the process. One couple, Mark and Allison, advocate the practice of "open adoption," in which the adoptive parents and the birth parents meet one another and are all involved in the baby's birth. Looking back on the experience after their adoption was finalized, however, they both discuss their fears that the birth mother would change her mind. Another couple, Carrie and Alex, decided to adopt a child from Lebanon because they had an affinity for the culture, though Alex stated that, he "did not want the birth mother to become part of our family." Limited to descriptive anecdotes with happy endings, this study will inspire those seeking to adopt, although it does not address the complex issues that arise as adoptive children grow older, which are explored in recent books such as Joyce Pavo's The Family of Adoption and Lynn C. Franklin's May the Circle Be Unbroken. Agent, Carolyn Krupp.
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"Carole Turner's well-written, well-documented book provides a collection of soulful insights into the reality of adoption, which will help us all-parents, professionals, extended family and friends-understand what is really meant by adoption. This is a book for all those who care to be sensitive to the intimate nature of adoption." -- Frederick Mandell, M.D., Senior Associate in Medicine at Children's Hospital, Boston, Associate Clinical Professor at Harvard Medical School
"This book is alive with the voices of couples who have chosen to build their families through adoption. It is a valuable asset for those who are themselves considering adopting a child, as it vividly portrays the course of becoming an adoptive parent. I am happy to have this as a resource for my clients who are making the transition from infertility to adoption." -- Geri M. Ferber, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist at The Center for Fertility and Reproductive Health, Harvard Vanguard Medical Associates
"Turner sensitively explores thought-provoking issues inherent in the evolving field of adoption-the pros and cons of open adoption, the challenges facing people who adopt transracially and transculturally, the additional hurdles for gay couples and single people-through personal accounts from adoptive parents. Presenting the parents in their own words lends an immediacy to the bitter frustrations and elated joys of the process. A realistic, and ultimately positive, look at adoption, offering expanded definitions of parent and family." -- Sarah Saffian, author of ITHAKA: A Daughter's Memoir of Being Found
"With a marvelous mix of stories about some disparate families who have adopted, Carole S. Turner has told that story that the Defords know so well-about parents and children coming together, despite all the pain, all the obstacles. She shows so beautifully how sometimes it is but the hope of love that conquers all." -- Frank Deford of Sports Illustrated, NPR's Morning Edition, author of Alex: The Life of a Child, and Chairman of the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation