Adoption Undone [Paperback]

Karen Carr (Author)

Product Details

• Paperback: 132 pages
• Publisher: B a for Adoption & Fostering (March 9, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1905664249
• ISBN-13: 978-1905664245
• Product Dimensions: 7.6 x 5.1 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 5.6 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 2.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (1 customer review)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #8,572,619 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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2.0 out of 5 stars finding someone to blame, September 4, 2008

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The "poor us" tone of this book makes it irritating to read. I wonder if the author's birth child was near-perfect in all ways, as I can't really see anything their adopted child did that was so horrendously family-splitting. True, the author's first daughter's descent into self-mutilation is very sad, but was it really caused by the family dynamic change, or by the author's persnickety ideas about what a child should be and how she should behave?

I found myself wondering several times, "is what the author just related a reason to undo the adoption?"-or even if all of the situations illustrated combined should have even precipitated the collapse of the relationship. Maybe there were situations not mentioned in the book.

I felt throughout that the author was not only trying to justify their decision, but find someone to blame so that the readers would think, "Oh, that poor family!" I never felt that anyone was to blame besides the shallow parents who wanted to adopt a child close to their first child's age so that she would have a playmate. Join a playgroup. You have added another in a series of traumas to your adopted daughter's life and it's no one's fault but your own.