From Library Journal
Brown, director of the Key Bridge Therapy and Mediation Center, puts her experiences as therapist and mediator to good purpose in her book. She outlines five types of affairs: conflict avoidance, intimacy avoidance, sexual addiction, split self, and exit. She then profiles each of these types and explains what kind of work cheaters and their spouses in each type of situation need to do to repair the damage done to their marriage by the infidelity. (In an uncommon move, she also offers advice for the third party in the affair.) Brown explains clearly that if an affair happens, there was usually a problem in place beforehandAand that the problem needs to be solved before the marriage can flourish. Although the exercises offered in the book seem a little datedAdoes anyone still talk about his or her inner child?Athis book is a commonsense and easy-to-read overview of a problem said to touch 70 percent of marriages. Recommended for public libraries.APamela A. Matthews, Gettysburg Coll. Lib., PA
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"Emily Brown has written a must-read book for anyone going through the searing pain of infidelity. First she deciphers the five types of affairs, then she gives clear step-by-step procedures to help both partners deal with it and even grow from it. It's a real achievement." --Marguerite Kelly, syndicated columnist, The Family Almanac and author, Marguerite Kelly's Family Almanac
"Finally, a book on affairs that pulls no punches!. . . . It's the book I'll put at the top of my list to recommAnd to both professionals and to husbands, wives, and lovers. Highly recommAnded." --Isolina Ricci, author, Mom's House, Dad's House: The Complete Guide for Parents Who Are Separated, Divorced, or Remarried
"Brown, a very well known expert in helping couples and professionals understand and handle affairs, provides important insight and tools for couples who want to overcome the betrayals associated with affairs and to 'fight for their marriage.'" --Howard Markman, coauthor, Fighting for Your Marriage
"Emily Brown could be a lifesaver to anyone who's been touched by the trauma of an affair. She is an expert with new insights who writes beautifully." --Jana Bommersbach, columnist, Phoenix Magazine and commentator, Good Morning Arizona
"Clearly written, without psychological jargon or obscure concepts, it will help couples to develop the unique solutions they need for their problems." --Telmo M. Baptista, Faculty of Psychology and Education, University of Lisbon, Portugal and president, Portuguese Association for Cognitive and Behavioral Therapies