Aftermarriage: The Myth of Divorce [Paperback]

Anita Wyzanski Robboy (Author), Anita W. Robboy (Author)

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About the Author

Anita Wyzanski Robboy practices law at the Boston office of the national law firm of Schnader Harrison Segal and Lewis LLP, specializing in family law. She received her J.D. from Boston University School of Law, her B.A. from Swarthmore College, and her M.Ed. from Tufts University. She is a Fellow of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. After practicing law for 25 years, she was a Visiting Scholar at Cambridge University of Cambridge, England. During her sabbatical, she conceived the manuscript that became this book.

Product Details

• Paperback: 208 pages
• Publisher: Alpha; 1st edition (October 5, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0028642376
• ISBN-13: 978-0028642376
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.4 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (11 customer reviews)
• Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #1,028,018 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This is a MUST READ, December 18, 2001

By	Thomas Wolf (Cambridge, MA United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Aftermarriage: The Myth of Divorce (Paperback)

I have been married 34 years and have no intention of getting a divorce -- yet, I still found this book so stimulating that I read it in one long sitting. It helped me to understand many people I know and why they behave the way they do before, during, and after their divorces. The book is an extraordinary portrait of real people. I now understand how the law regards and treats different types of partnerships and what happens when marriages are over. Robboy's fascinating and somewhat disturbing thesis is that most marriages are in fact never really "over."

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Must read for anyone in a relationship!, November 12, 2002

By	Dr. M. S. White, J. D. (Watertown, MA USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Aftermarriage: The Myth of Divorce (Paperback)

This book is a must read for anyone who is in a serious relationship. Whether you are contemplating marriage or divorce, this book has important information that will affect how you choose to frame your affairs. In a simple easy-to-read style the book explains the legal and personal complications that make ending a marriage an extremely painful experience that doesn't end with the divorce decree. Anita Robboy explains how marriage is a legal commitment that is heavily regulated by the state. If children are involved, the state's involvement becomes even more burdensome. If you are simply contemplating marriage and have resources, you need to carefully examine the financial implications of marriage before you walk down the aisle with visions of a life of bliss.

Drawing on her years of experience as a divorce attorney, Anita Robboy provides the reader with an inside view of the various types of marriages that she has observed and what happens when couples in these marriage decide to divorce. The pain, suffering, and disillusionment that she describes should make couples pause before they decide to sever their marriages. Divorce is a major disruption of most people's lives and has a heavy price. Moreover, when children are involved, one can never wipe the slate clean and post-divorce arrangements are never perfect.

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Highly recommended, January 7, 2002

By	Ruth R. Budd (Lexington, MA United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Aftermarriage: The Myth of Divorce (Paperback)

It seems so obvious, but Anita Robboy's book, Aftermarriage, makes it clear that a legal divorce really doesn't end the marriage relationship. The concept of "aftermarriage" more accurately describes the long post-divorce relationship as the couple deals with issues around money, children and, later, grandchildren. This book is a must-read for those entering marriage, as well as those contemplating or going through a divorce. Mental health professionals and divorce attorneys, like myself, should recommend it to their clients so they can view divorce as just a first phase of a long, "aftermarriage" relationship.