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"...a convincing and useful set of metaphors for understnding the geometry of conflict...stubbed with radical, sensible ideas."
- Marilyn Ferguson

"The Aikido student and master Terry Dobson...has taught so many of us the goodness possible inside the warrior."
- Robert Bly

About the Author

Terry Dobson studied in Japan for ten years with the founder of aikido, Morihei Ueshiba. Before his death in late 1992, he had taught aikido for twenty-five years and brought its principles to conflict management and personal growth seminars in education, mediation and business.

Victor Miller is a television and film writer living in Milford, Connecticut. He wrote the original script for Friday the 13th and writes for television daytime drama series.
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Product Details

  • Paperback: 280 pages
  • Publisher: North Atlantic Books; Rep Sub edition (January 1, 1994)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1556431511
  • ISBN-13: 978-1556431517
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.6 x 8.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 15.5 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (31 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #273,062 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Not magic, not a quick fix, but the techniques work if you work at them.
Taiji 218
I'd highly recommend this book to anyone interested in the martial arts, and all those who aren't.
Ted Goodman
Through out my life I have approached conflict in much the same way this book teaches.
Kenneth Ruth

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31 of 31 people found the following review helpful By Taiji 218 on January 25, 2000
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I've used this book both personally and professionally in both a hospital and a university counseling environment ever since the book first came out in hardback back in the 70's. Granting some of the complaints of previous reviewers, the examples Dobson gives are now a bit out of date (Dobson cannot update them; he died a few years ago), but I have yet to have a college student fail to make his or her own update with little problem. Contrary to some of the negative reviewers' comments, I personally have found the book extremely useful, and so have the majority of the people I have introduced the book to over the years. I've especially had a number of university students tell me the book was very useful in helping them deal with their problematic professors, parents, girlfriends or boyfriends. Possibly some of the negative reviewers were hampered by the fact that they were reading the book all by themselves, without any counseling assistence or prior aikido training to help them fully orient to the concepts presented in the text. Without a doubt, the "geometry of conflict" theory presented in the book is sometimes quite arcane to the uninitiated. Nonetheless, the writing style is friendly, conversational and-- I find-- entertaining. As a supplement to Dobson, I also recommend people read "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty" by Manuel Smith-- the original assertiveness training book. With a little creative thought and persistent practice, the techniques in both of these books are extremely useful. Not magic, not a quick fix, but the techniques work if you work at them.
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27 of 28 people found the following review helpful By Kenneth Ruth on May 29, 2001
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Through out my life I have approached conflict in much the same way this book teaches. However, after reading it I found that I was missing some things that have since helped me a great deal. The whole topic of Aiki is worth the cost of the book alone. I was skeptical while reading it, for example it would appear Terry Dodson wants you to deceive by common definition (I believe a definition based on emotional feelings many of us have because of our own experiences with being deceived)...but this is not the case. The same is true for Aiki. It's not about agreeing with the opponent(s) or changing what you believe. It's about understanding them and knowing that to bring about harmony you have to communicate WITH the other person, which may not be the way you would communicate to someone like yourself. If I read this book in my early 20's I would have thrown it away. But as I understand people and myself better I'm beginning to see that it's not my beliefs or ideas that are/where wrong, it was my approach and how I interacted with others (especially those attacking me). It's not about who is right and who is wrong. Harmony is far more important. With out harmony, the facts and who is `right' can lose all meaning.
This book is for everyone, not just for those practicing Aikido. I highly recommend giving it a chance.
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17 of 18 people found the following review helpful By mattg on May 31, 2000
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Dobson presents an interesting approach to conflict resolution. He uses a set of geometric figures as a metaphor for the different ways we could react to conflict in our daily lives. On the surface, the pictures are pretty silly, and the sample dialogues seem rather contrived. But underneath, the ideas are sound. Anyone with knowledge of Aikido and/or Zen principles will recognize the core concepts immediately, although others may have a harder time taking him seriously. Don't buy this book if you are looking for a set of quick tricks that will enable you to bend others to your will. To apply Dobson's strategies successfully, you might have to change your way of thinking about yourself and your relationships.
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13 of 13 people found the following review helpful By Marcella Parrette on March 3, 2005
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As an aikido student, I found that this book has brought a new dimension to my practice as well as my ability to handle conflict in personal relationships. It incorporates the principles of aikido in dealing with conflict in relationships. I recommend this book for any aikidoist who wants to enhance his or her practice, or anyone who is interested in learning how to deal with conflict in ways other than fight or flight.
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on March 4, 1998
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I also picked up this book after skimming several Aikido technique manuals. What a pleasant surprise to find out that this book ultimately has little to do with physical techniques. I've used Dobson's "Conflict Options" several times since my first read. With all sincerity these really work. His explanation of conflict options, with the addition of "AIKI" as a "technique" to address an attack, have actually enhanced my interpersonal relationships, i.e. work and most importantly, at home. This book has more to do with psychology, geometry, and education than with what you may think about martial arts. Yet the conflict options can also be used in a physical setting as well. Find this book somewhere, it's a keeper!
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on November 26, 1997
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At first glance, one might think the authors are advocating a gangster-kill-'em-all approach to living. This is not true and will quickly become clear as one reads this excellent book a little further. Although "giving in to get your way" sounds a little too cunning a title for my liking, it is nevertheless, one of the better books on life-transformation techniques with respect to the martial arts I have seen. Numerous examples of putting the Aikido "way" to good use in your day-to-day activities abound in the book together with the principles underlying the need for such "tactics." This is one book whose principles, when put into practice, will definitely make you a much better person to talk to, if nothing else! Believe me, I know :))
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