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The Alcoholism Trap

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"The Alcoholism Trap" has helped me so much in my relationship with my alcoholic husband. I've placed healthy boundaries for me and my two daughters that I had never put in place before.

As a devoted Christian, I had always just tried to be the peacemaker and my daughters and I have suffered as verbal punching bags as a result of that. Now I know that I can love my husband even better and take better care of my family's welfare by putting up healthy boundaries.

This book has enabled me to be more loving to my husband when he's sober because I'm not holding in resentment from allowing him to injure my spirit while he's drinking. And I no longer feel guilty about saying things or acting in a way I regret later because I have taken control of the only part I DO have control over - me.

When I see he's drinking, I just remind him that I love him, but I don't want him around me and the girls when he's drinking. Then, the girls and I go to a separate part of the house, as the book recommends, and enjoy our evenings. No more walking on eggshells! We're laughing again!

The first couple of weeks, it was hard because he's also a workaholic, so we were getting virtually no time with him. When he was sober, he was at work even on Saturdays and Sundays. But this past week, he's actually spent two days completely sober in order to spend time with us. This is unheard of! Unbelievable!

He's even admitted to me while sober that he has an alcohol addiction and he's "working on it". I encouraged him to quit altogether rather than trying to "cut back" and told him when he decides to make that commitment I have a book that might help :-)

I have been able to take better care of myself and my girls and I'm getting better at it with practice. My husband is treating me more respectfully and his eyes are being opened to the fact that HE is the one with the problem, not me and the girls.

If you're looking for a loving way to take care of your family in the middle of this crisis, buy "The Alcoholism Trap". I believe it is helping me save my sanity, my girls' self esteem, and my marriage. It's up to my husband whether he will be saved from alcoholism, but I've made my choice! Make yours today!

this has helped me greatly i have found a peace in me while still living with my alcohlic husband i have now passed it on to my sister-in-law

Reviewer: Author Theodocia ~ The Book Attic Reviews

Angie Lewis's book, `The Alcoholism Trap' is written from a heart of experience and genuine love for the person trapped in an alcoholic lifestyle; as the author is a recovering alcoholic. Firstly, she speaks directly to the alcoholic sharing from her own experiences and addressing some of the underlying conditions of the human body and spirit that cause the distorted thinking that leads people to this self medicating cycle. Secondly, she speaks to the family members and friends who in the beginning unintentionally enable or rescue the alcoholic, thereby keeping everyone in this web of dysfunction. The author weaves in solutions for the alcoholic and loved ones in their life; including intervention and the spiritual aspect of asking for God's help as the center balance, and uses Bible text as the stepping stones to recovery and to a new life in Christ.

Angie Lewis's book, `The Alcoholism Trap' gives insight into the mind of an alcoholic and the chaos that ensues. I truly believe that most humans are touched by either alcohol or an alcoholic at some point in our lives. This book is a great resource and I encourage those who have authority to place this book where many can draw from the experience, wisdom, and ministry that Angie and her husband offer.

This book had some really helpful advice but it had way to much
sypathy for the alcholic. And sounded less sympathetic for
the person living with them. It put way to much of the responsiblity on the spouse of the alcholic as if we were qualitied to handle that type of sickness. And of course the fact
that she also claims we are as sick as the alcholic YET it's mostly are responsiblity to save them,
even though we are supposedly just as sick.