All Alone in the World: Children of the Incarcerated [Paperback]

Nell Bernstein (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: August 1, 2007

An award-winning journalist's "heart wrenching" (The San Antonio Observer) look at children with parents in prison—a Newsweek "book of the week" and an East Bay Express bestseller.

In this "moving condemnation of the U.S. penal system and its effect on families" (Parents' Press), award-winning journalist Nell Bernstein takes an intimate look at parents and children—over two million of them—torn apart by our current incarceration policy. Described as "meticulously reported and sensitively written" by Salon, the book is "brimming with compelling case studies...and recommendations for change" (Orlando Sentinel); Our Weekly Los Angeles calls it "a must-read for lawmakers as well as for lawbreakers."

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Starred Review. Children of prisoners: who even thinks about them? Journalist Bernstein puts a face on this population with staggering statistics (2.4 million children have a parent in jail, and as many as half of all boys whose parents do time will wind up behind bars themselves) and personal stories of children like Susana, who has embraced her father only once in her life, and Carl, who told the jailhouse Santa that all he wanted for Christmas was for his mother to come home. Parents and children speak about the trauma of prison visits, the expensive phone calls that cut off without warning and the questions from children (What do you tell your friends? Are you to blame?) and parents (Would your child be better off without you?). Bernstein takes on the system as well: because of mandatory sentencing, judges must impose life imprisonment without parole, regardless of circumstances; a convicted felon, once released, has no access to student or small-business loans, public assistance or housing; a grandmother fears applying for aid because she must give up her grandchildren to the foster care system for evaluation and may never get them back. Well researched and smoothly written, Bernstein's book pumps up awareness of the problems, provides a checklist for what needs to be done and also cites organizations like the Osborne Society that provide parenting and literacy classes, counseling and support. The message is clear : taking family connections into account "holds particular promise for restoring a social fabric rent by both crime and punishment." (Oct.)
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Review

A much-needed voice for those kids serving time right alongside their parents. -- Ruminator Review

An urgent invitation to care for all children as our own. -- Adrian Nicole LeBlanc, author of Random Family

Belongs not only on shelves but also in the hands of judges and lawmakers. -- San Francisco Chronicle

Powerful....Highly recommended. -- Choice

Serious, moving, and well organized...this book could help galvanize a national will to tackle such problems. -- Library Journal, starred review

This is the book we children of prisoners have been waiting for. -- Chesa Boudin

Well researched and smoothly written....pumps up awareness of the problems [and] provides a checklist for what needs to be done. -- Publishers Weekly, starred review

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Product Details

• Paperback: 303 pages
• Publisher: New Press, The (August 1, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1595581855
• ISBN-13: 978-1595581853
• Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.9 x 9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (12 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #137,797 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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14 of 15 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars a great book for anyone concerned our contemporary America November 12, 2005

By Angry in Philly

Format:Hardcover

Its always easy to blame individuals for society's ills, it's been the American way for at least in the second half of the 20th Century.

Maybe that is not always the case. Maybe our complex country -- especially its justice system -- is a lot more nuanced. Author Bernstein offers a glimpse into some truly horrifying machinations that go on in today's America, all in the name of protecting our communities. Some 2.4 million children nationwide have a parent behind bars. That is more the entire population of Denver, Colorado and its six-county suburbs. Offering intimate portraits of a numerous kids who are affected by the mass incarceration of non-violent felons in the 90s, she then connects the dots to show that through community neglect, governmental policy and condemnation by self-righteous citizens, we are neglecting our own.

All is not bleak in Bernstein's world though, the resilience of many of the spotlighted kids is dramatic and emotional and she showcases some efforts and individuals (including cops) that are emerging to help change this social abomination. Another way to look at the problem is to ask ourselves when a huge number of our country's youngest members - more than the population of a major metro area - are affected by a horrible problem not of their making, how can this be only their burden to bear? Now is time for us to apply the precept of reaching out to and helping "the least of these brothers of mine." And "All Alone in the World" is call to action.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars "All Alone in the World" November 28, 2007

By Ari Kohn

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Important, compelling, and sad book about the millions of children who have parents in prisons ("A six-year-old crouches behind his bed as armed strangers ransack his home, breaking through floorboards and throwing his parents to the ground. Downstairs, two police cars wait: one for his parents, one for him...."). Nell Bernstein and Soros Foundation deserve our thanks, and these children deserve our support. Ari Kohn

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars With an Inmate Parent October 25, 2007

By Patricia Ann Davis

Format:Hardcover

The solid if sad truth of what it is really like having a parent arrested and your life disrupted. Honestly and professionally told. I would recommend for teachers and school counselors because these children are in your school no matter where you are located. The more you understand the more you can quietly support the children.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Why are these children judged and sentenced with their parents? May 13, 2007

By eho845

Format:Hardcover

A sensitive portrait of the realities of being a child whose parents, one or both are incarcerated.

Well written and tugs at the heart strings! Makes you reflect and think soberly and seriously about this reality for many children. How are they supposed to rise above their unfair and undeserved label? They are also much a victim of their parent's crime and serve their sentences with them.

Every child welfare worker and teacher should read this for insight to the children they come in contact with.

3 of 4 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars For Parents, for policymakers December 18, 2005

By John Griffin

Format:Hardcover

The SF Chronicle says it better than I could so I am pasting part of their review below:

"Chapter by chapter, Bernstein takes us through each lamentable phase of the incarceration cycle, from arrest to sentencing, to visitations and foster care and finally re-entry. She interviews scores of experts -- police officers, criminologists, sociologists and dedicated service providers, many of them reformed offenders who would never have been released from prison had they committed their crimes today. But Bernstein...derives her best expert testimony from the families themselves, whom she treats not as victims of an unjust system but rather as experts and resources, the best available analysts of their own experience and needs.

Bernstein ... lays out 18 policy suggestions [in her conclusion]. Most of them are pure common sense -- remove financial barriers to communication (like the hiked-up fee for collect calls from jail), keep prisoners near their families so they can receive visits, and of course revisit our failed drug policies. What her suggestions have in common, besides being relatively easy (and cheap) to implement, is that they are focused on the basic premise that crime is reduced by keeping families together, not ripping them apart.

In terms of elegance, breadth and persuasiveness, "All Alone in the World" deserves to be placed alongside other classics of the genre such as Jonathan Kozol's "Savage Inequalities," Alex Kotlowitz's "There Are No Children Here" and Adrian Nicole LeBlanc's "Random Family." But to praise the book's considerable literary or sociological merit seems beside the point. This book belongs not only on shelves but also in the hands of judges and lawmakers. "

2 of 3 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars A Wake-Up Call June 23, 2006

By I.M. Earnest

Format:Hardcover|Amazon Verified Purchase

We have failed to measure the true cost of our policy of incarcerating offenders and Nell Bernstein describes the costs that we have yet to pay. The damage done to a whole generation of young people who have grown up without their incarcerated parents are coming of age, and we need to recognize and address the problems that the punishment policy has caused.

Ms. Bernstein has introduced us to these children and the sadness that they will carry for the rest of their lives. She makes us care. She has also given us a well researched review of the system and the problems that have been created by society as well as making suggestions on how to prevent or diminish the damage that we are doing.

A must read for anyone who cares about the health of our society.