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All Grown Up: Living Happily Ever After with Your Adult Children

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"All Grown Up" by Robert Maisel provides an excellent template for adult relationships/friendships, not just those between adult children and their parents. No one teaches us how to deal with one another as adults - and if the model provided by one's family of origin is all we have to go by, many of us are in quite a pickle! Maisel's unique style of writing is very gentle to all potential readers. She makes her point without producing additional blame/guilt in either the parent or adult child. The anecdotes provided will ring familiar with a multitude of audiences, and the guidance provided is usable in everyday life. I have already started utilizing many of the recommendations in the book on a personal and professional basis in my work with families. In my mind, this functionality is the litmus test for a good book/reference. I'm certain my copy will soon be worn from referencing.

I love this book. I read it in one sitting. I am a therapist who has had a troubled relationship with my parents all my life. Reading this book was so helpful to me in terms of being able to discern how I need my parents to treat me now that I am grown. I have had a hard time articulating to them why their behavior pushes me away rather than brings me closer. Reading this book helped me identify my needs. And then I gave a copy to my mother! She is reading it now and I expect it will really help her know how to love me. The author is so non-shaming that I felt comfortable giving it to my mother and I think she will be able to let in the information. I have also allready used this book with my clients. The book market contains almost nothing on adult child/parent relationships. Thanks to the publishers and author. Roberta Maisel is a very wise and compassionate woman.

Roberta Maisel's book "All Grown Up" does a masterful job of providing a vision for the future for parents of adult children. No longer intimately engaged on a day-to-day basis with the lives of their offspring, many parents have no idea how to graduate into an adult-adult relationship characterized by equality, independence and respect. Maisel fearlessly forges ahead, taking on such sensitive subjects as financial security, privacy and grandparenting. Her notion of letting go of expectations and fantasies about our grown children and how we plan to interact with them is set in the context of individual spiritual development. She urges the reader to "consider your heart" and "pursue truth" rather than cling to some outmoded notion of what family life "should" be like. "All Grown Up" is beautifully written and accessible. It will ease your mind and soothe your soul.

This book contains a lot of helpful advice and ideas if your relationship with your adult child needs improvement - and it probably does - if not from your perspective, then from his/hers!