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All the Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right [Kindle Edition]

Ellen Fein , Sherrie Schneider
3.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (821 customer reviews)

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Book Description

For the first time in one volume--in a special oversized format--comes "The Rules" and "The Rules II," the phenomenal bestsellers that captured the interest of millions of readers in search of Mr. Right. Original.

Editorial Reviews Review

An unexpected bestseller, this self-help book for women who want to hook a man seems to have struck a chord with desperate American women. Fein and Schneider, whose main credentials seem to be that they are married, lay out the rules to be followed for successfully snagging a dream hunk. And these rules are hard as cast-iron--Rule Five: Don't Call Him and Rarely Return His Calls. The idea is to return to pre-feminist mind games, exploiting the male hunting urge by playing hard to get. The result seems unliberating--Rule Seventeen: Let Him Take the Lead--but it seems to be capturing female minds. Rules Girls are eyeing the phone with steely resolve, and Rules seminars are springing up nationwide. Curious bachelors have been observed studying The Rules, some frowning, others with the supercilious smile of the hunter.


The Rules is not just a book; it's a movement. -- Time, Elizabeth Gleick

Product Details

  • File Size: 880 KB
  • Print Length: 190 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0446518131
  • Publisher: Grand Central Publishing (November 15, 2008)
  • Sold by: Hachette Book Group
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B000SEI4DS
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Lending: Not Enabled
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #135,341 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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285 of 304 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars How to catch *certain* men, but not others December 3, 2002
Format:Mass Market Paperback
I'm very glad The Rules came out.
After finding "The Rules" I gained an insight into the game that *certain* types of men expected me to play, and were themselves playing.
However as I was trying to do the Rules, I realized that "The Rules" just don't work on some people, and that doesn't make it a bad relationship or a bad situation -- it just means that these people don't follow the same male/female roles.
I agree with Dr. Tracy Cabot, and the previous reviewer who mentioned Kiersey/Myers-Briggs persoality typing, in that "The Rules" fail to take into account individual sensitivity. In short, it's a good description of some people... but not of others.
Despite its flaws, I find "The Rules" is a good guide for survival out in the dating world. I can see how this book has its merits. It is a very useful guide to how to set your own limits, and not get taken advantage of.
I don't think it has universal applicability, and I think you need to exercise some critical thinking about each rule.
The basic spirit of "The Rules" is don't get with anyone who doesn't already like *you*, don't make yourself totally available with your time, make them do their share of the work, and don't let them - too early in the game - think they've 'won you' before you've actually set up a committed relationship.
This is great advice for *anyone*. This is especially great advice for those "nice guys" out there who can't get women to like them as anything more than friends. Basically the message is... "don't let them win the race before they've actually crossed the finish line." Don't give your all to someone who hasn't given their all.
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142 of 158 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Just finished it... July 8, 2009
Format:Mass Market Paperback
After yet ANOTHER time of starting out a potential relationship with the guy being totally infatuated with me and then ending it within a few months, I read this book.

All this time I have wondered why on Earth guys started out thinking I was this interesting, intriguing, wonderful, irreplaceable woman then did a total 180, and here this book lined it all up for me. I started out being myself--sassy, feisty, interesting me--and as I turned towards liking a guy, I'd completely lose myself in the relationship, which would cause him to lose interest in me. I wasn't me anymore, I was doormat shell of a me.

I was able to identify actual moments in this last relationship where his interest in me started slipping--and it was all stuff that I was doing that the Rules warn against.

Granted, this book does not have ALL the answers--for example, I would imagine that you can only tell someone so many times that "I have plans" or "I'm so busy" without giving a single detail as to what you're doing before they think you're a liar or a manipulative cow. The book doesn't go into what to say when they ask "Doing what?". And it doesn't cover cell phones/text messaging/social networking stuff.

But a lot of it is teaching women to be courteous to themselves and their friends. We shouldn't break plans with friends or avoid making weekend plans in the hopes that the guy will call last minute. We shouldn't sit by the phone waiting to pick up after half a ring. We SHOULD resist the temptation to find excuses to call, and the temptation to bend over backwards for him without getting the same treatment in return. We SHOULD expect romantic and thoughtful gifts--measured by effort, not by cost--from someone who loves us.
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474 of 546 people found the following review helpful
1.0 out of 5 stars Radon for the Soul July 11, 2002
Format:Mass Market Paperback
"The Rules" keeps returning like a bad hot dog. I'm embarrassed to admit that, against my judgment and ethics, I can't quite seem to dismiss it altogether. It's like watching somebody pick their nose at a stoplight -- you know you *should* ignore it -- you *want* to ignore it -- but somehow, you can't help yourself.
"The Rules", for those fortunate enough to have avoided the book until now, is an instruction manual telling how women can/should trick alpha males into marriage through withdrawal and manipulation.
Besides the book's cruel, self-esteem-undermining premise -- that the reader is worthless without a man; and moreover, that it requires complete falsification of her looks, mind, personality, and spirit to make her even marginally acceptable...
Besides the paradoxical hollowness of "success" with a false self -- you lose even if you "win", because it's not *you* who succeeds, it's the façade...
Besides the likelihood that persistent coldness, while screening out the uninterested, would also screen *in* the neurotic Don Juan who wants whatever he doesn't have until the instant he gets it, or even outright stalkers and psychos...
Besides how simplistic, morally corrupt, and insulting to *both* genders the book is...
Besides how abominably, sub-literately written it is...
Why does this book provoke such extreme reactions in everyone with a shred of intelligence, integrity, and/or self-esteem? Why is it like a stone in your shoe -- irritating as all get-out, yet impossible to ignore -- rather than simply irritating as all get-out?
Is it the obnoxious, infomercial scamminess and inflated promises?
-- "Sound too good to be true? We were skeptical at first, too.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
1.0 out of 5 stars I want my money back
It's funny that I heard of this book from a famous online dating coach in china. I started reading out of curiosity. Some of the content is basically ridiculous. Read more
Published 3 days ago by Xiying
3.0 out of 5 stars A campy type book. I read it before years ...
A campy type book. I read it before years ago in the library and whereas some of it might seem silly, there's logic to it. Read more
Published 5 days ago by Helen Sweany
4.0 out of 5 stars Focus on the main wisdom and dont get caught up on specific rules and...
Ok I will admit some of the rules I disagree with which is why I subtracted one star. However, the main wisdom of the book is so valuable and is worth 4 stars in my opinion. Read more
Published 13 days ago by Roxy
3.0 out of 5 stars but to say that women are suppose to act like this, and we're...
Although I haven't finished reading the book yet, I feel I have all I need to write a review based off what I have read. I really find this book interesting to say the least. Read more
Published 13 days ago by chelsi
3.0 out of 5 stars Three Stars
After reading the book. I'm not impressed. Really simple language and too silly advices.
Published 20 days ago by anna
5.0 out of 5 stars Essential reading for teen girls
Best way to explain to typical foolish girls how NOT to give their lives away. It explains why some girls are happy and foolish girls are always broken hearted.
Published 1 month ago by CA Book Critic
5.0 out of 5 stars A must read!
This book has helped me a lot and I enjoyed reading it. By reading and practicing the rules, I have been able to tell which men are truly interested and which ones are wasting my... Read more
Published 1 month ago by Chris Davis
1.0 out of 5 stars I am a guy.
I deal with a lot of people. I have more confident than most people. I personally feel I am a well put together man that has a lot of wonderful things to offer to a woman. Read more
Published 1 month ago by Antonio
5.0 out of 5 stars Things we should know, but....
All this things sound old fashioned and way out dated.....THEY ARE ALL TRUE! A must to do if you want Mr. Right and not MR. Right now!
Published 2 months ago by Deana
5.0 out of 5 stars the rules are second to the bible
The rules are second to the bible. I love the rules. I have all the rules. Buy them all you won't be disappointed.
Published 2 months ago by M. Tyus
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