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All the Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right [Kindle Edition]

Ellen Fein , Sherrie Schneider
3.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (873 customer reviews)

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Book Description

For the first time in one volume--in a special oversized format--comes "The Rules" and "The Rules II," the phenomenal bestsellers that captured the interest of millions of readers in search of Mr. Right. Original.

Editorial Reviews Review

An unexpected bestseller, this self-help book for women who want to hook a man seems to have struck a chord with desperate American women. Fein and Schneider, whose main credentials seem to be that they are married, lay out the rules to be followed for successfully snagging a dream hunk. And these rules are hard as cast-iron--Rule Five: Don't Call Him and Rarely Return His Calls. The idea is to return to pre-feminist mind games, exploiting the male hunting urge by playing hard to get. The result seems unliberating--Rule Seventeen: Let Him Take the Lead--but it seems to be capturing female minds. Rules Girls are eyeing the phone with steely resolve, and Rules seminars are springing up nationwide. Curious bachelors have been observed studying The Rules, some frowning, others with the supercilious smile of the hunter.


The Rules is not just a book; it's a movement. -- Time, Elizabeth Gleick

Product Details

  • File Size: 880 KB
  • Print Length: 190 pages
  • Publisher: Grand Central Publishing (October 31, 2008)
  • Sold by: Hachette Book Group
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B000SEI4DS
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Word Wise: Enabled
  • Lending: Not Enabled
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #276,606 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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307 of 329 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars How to catch *certain* men, but not others December 3, 2002
Format:Mass Market Paperback
I'm very glad The Rules came out.
After finding "The Rules" I gained an insight into the game that *certain* types of men expected me to play, and were themselves playing.
However as I was trying to do the Rules, I realized that "The Rules" just don't work on some people, and that doesn't make it a bad relationship or a bad situation -- it just means that these people don't follow the same male/female roles.
I agree with Dr. Tracy Cabot, and the previous reviewer who mentioned Kiersey/Myers-Briggs persoality typing, in that "The Rules" fail to take into account individual sensitivity. In short, it's a good description of some people... but not of others.
Despite its flaws, I find "The Rules" is a good guide for survival out in the dating world. I can see how this book has its merits. It is a very useful guide to how to set your own limits, and not get taken advantage of.
I don't think it has universal applicability, and I think you need to exercise some critical thinking about each rule.
The basic spirit of "The Rules" is don't get with anyone who doesn't already like *you*, don't make yourself totally available with your time, make them do their share of the work, and don't let them - too early in the game - think they've 'won you' before you've actually set up a committed relationship.
This is great advice for *anyone*. This is especially great advice for those "nice guys" out there who can't get women to like them as anything more than friends. Basically the message is... "don't let them win the race before they've actually crossed the finish line." Don't give your all to someone who hasn't given their all.
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84 of 94 people found the following review helpful
1.0 out of 5 stars One of The Authors Is Getting Divorced August 1, 2002
Format:Mass Market Paperback
After reading Rules I, II, and III, I came to the conclusion that the purpose of these books is to draw an even greater rift between men and women. Some of the advice is excellent (letting him pay for dates, having one's own life, etc.) But I have many objections. First of all, these women have not even been married long enough (Ellen Fein's divorcing) to say The Rules are *guaranteed* to work. I was uncomfortable with the the bossy, know-it-all attitude of the authors, and their blatant lack of consistency as they wrote the second and third books.
One frightening piece of advice in the third book (which are rules for marriage) advises women on sex. They tell the story of a wife who complained to them her husband wanted sex every single day of the month, literally. Well, they said that when it comes to sex, THE MAN RULES IN THAT AREA--PERIOD. I was shocked. It didn't make a difference to them if the wife was exhausted because of kids or work, she should give him all the sex he wants--EVEN if it kills her. Just how is a woman supposed to enjoy sex if she's not in the mood? Isn't it obvious this poor woman is not the one who needs advice, but the husband, who has no consideration for her body? I can't imagine what would happen if that poor woman went away for a week...
A *major* theme of the series is to conceal from one's partner any distress, sadness or problems. Some men aren't adept at seeing a woman in distress, but what kind of man is that, if he can't--even on occasion--let his woman cry into his chest? It only means that he is looking for a Fairy Princess floating on a cloud who has no other concern except which flowers she will pick today. That kind of man is NOT a man at all and isn't worth dealing with. Yet, the authors encourage women to cater to that type.
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492 of 572 people found the following review helpful
1.0 out of 5 stars Radon for the Soul July 11, 2002
Format:Mass Market Paperback
"The Rules" keeps returning like a bad hot dog. I'm embarrassed to admit that, against my judgment and ethics, I can't quite seem to dismiss it altogether. It's like watching somebody pick their nose at a stoplight -- you know you *should* ignore it -- you *want* to ignore it -- but somehow, you can't help yourself.
"The Rules", for those fortunate enough to have avoided the book until now, is an instruction manual telling how women can/should trick alpha males into marriage through withdrawal and manipulation.
Besides the book's cruel, self-esteem-undermining premise -- that the reader is worthless without a man; and moreover, that it requires complete falsification of her looks, mind, personality, and spirit to make her even marginally acceptable...
Besides the paradoxical hollowness of "success" with a false self -- you lose even if you "win", because it's not *you* who succeeds, it's the façade...
Besides the likelihood that persistent coldness, while screening out the uninterested, would also screen *in* the neurotic Don Juan who wants whatever he doesn't have until the instant he gets it, or even outright stalkers and psychos...
Besides how simplistic, morally corrupt, and insulting to *both* genders the book is...
Besides how abominably, sub-literately written it is...
Why does this book provoke such extreme reactions in everyone with a shred of intelligence, integrity, and/or self-esteem? Why is it like a stone in your shoe -- irritating as all get-out, yet impossible to ignore -- rather than simply irritating as all get-out?
Is it the obnoxious, infomercial scamminess and inflated promises?
-- "Sound too good to be true? We were skeptical at first, too.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
3.0 out of 5 stars Eh
Was not the book for me. I see that it can have real value for those in a different situation than I am in.
Published 3 days ago by pyb276
5.0 out of 5 stars Great satire!
I read it as a satire and as such it was a great read. Do not take it serious and you will have a lot of good laughs!
Published 5 days ago by guenter strubinsky
1.0 out of 5 stars This book works... if you want a terrible relationship
Our society has been built in such a way that yes it is easier to "get a man" if you play dumb and hard to get with no emotions. Read more
Published 12 days ago by holykrp
5.0 out of 5 stars Darn good book. Makes a lot of sense too
Darn good book. Makes a lot of sense too. I have told several friends about it and they love it too.
Published 14 days ago by She sews
4.0 out of 5 stars A"Must Read" for all young women.
Although I disagree with the last chapter about marriage, the basic philosophy of how to play the dating game is pure common sense.
Published 15 days ago by Mugsy
2.0 out of 5 stars Two Stars
Such a silly book
Published 29 days ago by Stephanie Esposito
3.0 out of 5 stars Three Stars
nice but not quite practical and complicated to transfer the read info into the real life
Published 1 month ago by swetlana klimper
1.0 out of 5 stars the search for his "feminine side" has produced drivel like this book
It's really no wonder why western men feel emasculated. Ever since the late '60's, into the '70's, the search for his "feminine side" has produced drivel like this book. Read more
Published 1 month ago by iaminthevineyard
5.0 out of 5 stars Bujana
I absolutely loved this book and made both my sisters read it. I would recommend it to all women from age 15 to 50 ! Read more
Published 1 month ago by Bujana
4.0 out of 5 stars ok
ok book, some good pointers
Published 1 month ago by Gwen Twain "Gwen"
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