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Alone Together: Making an Asperger Marriage Work Paperback – June 1, 2007
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Katrin Bentley writes from her own experience of living with a husband with AS. She offers a real and honest perspective of what her marriage has been like, and "gives strategies and hints on how to improve" your relationship with someone with AS. I love what she says in the first couple of pages, "Once we discovered AS was the cause of our endless misunderstandings we were able to come to terms with a different way of thinking". Misunderstood is how someone with Asperger's feels, and those married to people with AS must face many frustrations of not understanding why their spouse is the way they are. So, coming to a new way of thinking is about the best answer.
Katrin addresses so many different points about being AS, and married to someone who has it that it would take quite a while to mention them all. The most valuable thing that came from this book is it opened a door of communication and understanding between my husband and myself. I read portions to him that I thought we both related to, and we would have long talks about it.
I appreciate that Katrin does not bash someone with AS, but lovingly explains things, She is not an expert, but more of a friend and mentor. I would read anything else she wrote about AS.
Katrin & Gavin, thanks for sharing & keep up the good fight.
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Update-breaking news-important-LET THERE BE LIGHT !!!
Katrin stresses in her book the need for sunlight, since this is benificial to combat autisme-related depression. I took this to heart right away but since I don't live in a sunny country I went down the road of antidepressants that assist with serotonin. This works, but not really well.Read more ›
The book describes one couple's journey through Aspergers. However the journey described isn't a healthy one.
Like the couple in the book, we sorted out that my partner has AS after we got together. Unlike us however, the author seems to use "lack of the theory of the mind" and AS as an excuse for her husband's bad behavior. It also appears that she does most of the compromising in terms of changing behaviors so their married life is better.
My partner and I are working hard to make sure that the relationship is healthy for both of us.The idea of an emotional affair (for either partner) like the one described in chapter 13 would never fly in our home. And the kind of emotional manipulation to get his sick son to perform again in chapter 14 is unacceptable. When we've been sick, our response to each other has always been to take care of the ill one and to make sure that what is needed to get better is on hand.
I cannot recommend this book at all.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
it was a bit too scientific for me. I was looking for something more practical.Published 20 days ago by Amazon Customer
This well-written book gave me excellent advice and insights into relating to Aspies, and the many personal stories from the author's own marriage made it down-to-earth. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Jeanette E. Levellie
this book is a story of one womens reflection of her relationship, which becomes increasingly more dysfunctional, but does not provide any real advice on relationship management to... Read morePublished 1 month ago by Customer C
Helpful book to understand an Asperger marriage, even though the book is very much a personal memoir. Read morePublished 2 months ago by VistAs
It was insightful on how people on the functional side of autism function and how to function with them.Published 2 months ago by RB
I recommend this book for anybody in a marriage with an Aspie. The first chapter could have been taken out of my first meeting with my husband.Published 2 months ago by CoffeeChick
While it was nice to read another couple's story of dealing with Asperger's, we did not really learn anything from it to help us.Published 3 months ago by Heather
Even though I am not married, it is helping understand some of my kids and grandkids who are on the spectrum. Read morePublished 3 months ago by Clare Wishart
Made me feel a thousand times better, with some great tips on how to cope. My favourite book so far on couples who have Asperger to deal with.Published 6 months ago by zoe