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Always Daddy's Girl: Understanding Your Fathers Impact on Who You Are

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I am a family counselor and find this book extremely helpful with my female clients. The most important questions it seems to address is: "What did I get/or didn't get from my father in my growing up years that now impacts my life positively or negatively? And where do I go from here? What is the role of a father in shaping a daughter's view of whom to marry, her overall self-esteem, her feelings about her physical attributes, and her desire to succeed in life?" I read this book after I had worked out many of my less than positive issues with my own father. It helped me to see what I did miss out on in that relationship. But equally important, it helped me to see my worth in spite of a less than perfect relationship with dad. A must read at any age!

I first got this book and read it in 89, when I couldn't stand my parents, especially my father and was playing out the rebellious teenager that needed independence role. I read it, but didn't read it. I got from it that it was daddy's fault that I failed this or that, or so and so dumped me, or that I couldn't do this or that.
I found this book years later, shortly after my father died and I was going through some of my old belongings stashed at his house. It was the perfect time for it to re-surface, and for the first time I actually read the book.
The only complaint I have regarding this book is emphasis on the "bad" father figures. The ones that aren't home or are drunks or abusive etc. But then again, many are, so perhaps it is fitting.
At either rate, if you have ever had problems with your father figure, this book is a must have for not only putting the past where it belongs, but also resolving any issues left in the open.

I read this book when it first came out and have recommended it to many fathers and mothers who are concerned the relationships their daughters are choosing. It provides some very valuable insights into why we choose the people we do in relationships.. It is a timeless treasure...

I didn't know how vital was the father in the upbring of his daughter. I am learing a lot with this book and reccomend it to all women who don't have or didn't have a great relationship with their fathers.

This book came at a time when I really needed it. My life was very stressed, personally, and then on top of it my parents were having major marital problems. The book was a real blessing. It was so insightful I couldn't put it down! Thank you, Mr. Wright for putting together such a wonderful book!

H. Norman Wright's book is filled with many practical ideas for dealing with our fathers, living or dead. Yes, his slant is distinctly Christian so be prepared if writing about God offends you. (Wright is a professor at Biola University.)

I bought this book to help me sort out some issues I have with my father. Although I adored my father growing up, I had a difficult time coming to terms with his faults especially regarding his emotional distance during my childhood.

I found Wright's book helpful in some aspects. His book features several exercises which helped me clarify my feelings for and expectations of my father. I feel the book was not therapeutic enough, however. I kept reading for a solution to the problem I have but did not find one that satisfied me. All in all, I was a bit disappointed. Perhaps I should have hired a therapist?

One of the final chapters of the book offered very practical confrontation exercises. Wright states that these are not meant to be confrontational but they do approach it.

The letter from a father in the final chapter did not belong in this book. The book is aimed at daughters, not fathers.

The book arrived and it was in good condition as stated. It arrived before that estimated delivery date too.
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... I see mommy and daddy... and they see me....I learned that in the Hoffman Process. Anais Nin once said that we don't see things as they are, we see them as they are... and healing our relationship with our father will do us a world of good beyond just mending some of our romantic relationships. Harville Hendrix talks about the Imago ... how we attract and are attracted to partners who are so similar to our parents that we have them fused ... and this very phenomenon sets us up to sometimes choose the wrong partners. Father's daughters are especially prone to the opposite side of the abandoned fatherless girl. So overprotected in her formative years, the father's daughter risks being burned out in an over competitive dynamic with men even if they are friendly. My own experience was of being raised to be so independant from matrimonial prison ties that there was no room for many years to just be in the company of a person, regardless of gender. This is no fun way to live. Don't recreate familiar heartbreak after heartbreak. Heal at the point of origin with your father ... and watch the world change before your eyes because you have changed.

Some of the book is helpful. But all of these books that talk about absent fathers are very geared towards religion and believing in God. If I don't believe in my father a living being it is very hard for me to be expected to believe in a male super natural being. I would really like to find one of these books that are just geared towards psychology.

A friend recommended this book to me and what I read was a bit creepy. Lots of things like flirting w/ your father and the whole good touch thing. The books needs to be more about girls relationships w/ their fathers and not our heavenly father. Sneaky attempt at pushing God down peoples throats.