For anyone longing to be a parent and frustrated (or depressed) that it isn't happening, this book is a must-have. Marina Lombardo and Linda J. Parker provide their readers with an appealing combination of caring support and practical information so they can navigate this crisis and arrive at a happy, fulfilled place with or without children. --Beth Weinhouse, Editor-In-Chief, Conceive Magazine
How we overcome adversity is the measure of our integrity and character. Specifically, the challenge that fertility patients endure results in mourning a life that has not been realized. These patients are described as having their faces pressed up against the windows of families while they long to embrace the dream they do not own. This book offers hope and the inspiration of "tomorrow" rather than being stagnant in "today". --Mark P. Trolice, M.D., Director C.A.R.E. & Founder, Fertile Dreams
In the ten years that I have known Marina Lombardo, I have watched her powerfully touch lives through her private practice, seminars, and writings. She is an authentic leader, in that she lives what she teaches and shares in this dynamic book. Whether you are struggling with fertility issues, or have just lost your way in life, her straightforward, creative approach is a welcome relief for those searching for answers today." --H. Wayne McKamie, Jr, L.P.C., L.C.S.W., President and Founder of Focus Seminars of K.C. Inc.
Dr. Elizabeth E. Puscheck, Associate Professor, Ob/Gyn, Wayne State University School of Medicine, Detroit, Michigan, reviewed I Am More Than My Infertility for The American Society for Reproductive Medicine NEWS. Infertility and infertility treatments have a way of becoming all encompassing. The interference with your daily routine adds to the stress and makes it more difficult not to focus solely on your infertility and your struggles going through infertility treatments. Do you have the emotional coping skills that you need to face these challenges and not lose yourself, your marriage, or what s important to you in life in the meantime? This book describes approaches using seven tools you can learn to use to address this, and any, life crisis you face, with a definite focus on infertility. Marina Lombardo is a psychotherapist with a background in social work and Linda Parker is a writer and educator. Together, these authors bring 10 years of experience in dealing with the emotional aspects of infertility and condense these life lessons into an effective approach that is well explained and easy to implement into your own coping strategies. There is a nice message at the beginning from Kim Hahn, the editor of Conceive magazine, regarding her personal experiences with infertility and how Lombardo s approach was effective for her. Just before chapter one, the authors describe How to Read this Book. They recommend that you read it slowly, be open to change, practice the exercises, and keep the book with you (perhaps at your bedside) so that you can read and re-read small bites over again. The first chapter deals with the initial stress and anger readers may feel as they realize they have infertility. Despite the emotional roller coaster you may feel with infertility, you have choices and you can learn to develop emotional coping tools. Through these tools you will learn to become a stronger, happier, and healthier individual, as well as develop a stronger and closer relationship. The authors call this process the seven essential power tools that make up your emotional toolbox. The power tools are: 1) Take care of your body, 2) Make conscious choices, 3) Set healthy boundaries, 4) Tell the truth, 5) Take quiet space, 6) Give yourself permission to grieve, and 7) See the big picture. The separate chapters discuss the tools in detail and how they help in the struggle with infertility. This book does a great job of describing very real situations and emotions associated with infertility. I found the chapters interesting and appropriate for most couples; and the case scenarios were fascinating. Again, the tools that you learn from reading this book can be applied to many life situations, not just infertility. As Kim Hahn calls it, these seven powerful tools are her emotional coping skills, which make up her emotional tool box. Never leave home without these tools! --The American Society for Reproductive Medicine NEWS;Dr. Elizabeth E. Puscheck, Associate Professor, Ob/Gyn, Wayne State University School of Medicine, Detroit, Michigan.
For anyone longing to be a parent and frustrated (or depressed) that it isn't happening, this book is a must-have. Marina Lombardo and Linda J. Parker provide their readers with an appealing combination of caring support and practical information so they can navigate this crisis and arrive at a happy, fulfilled place with or without children. --Beth Weinhouse, Editor-In-Chief, Conceive Magazine