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Anger and the Indigo Child

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Only two days after our despair as parents of a beautiful ten year old daughter had risen almost beyond our capacity to cope, I received Dianne Lancaster's request to review Anger and the Indigo Child. A book I would otherwise not have bought, because I associate the expression "indigo children" with New Age, which I label "not of interest to me". For me this book has been an eye-opener on all kinds of levels.

As parents we were 100% sure the diagnosis "pdd-nos and severely retarded" was 100% wrong. And we had to fight prejudices of experts, teachers, social workers, etc. who were all convinced that a) they were absolutely right and b) we were "in denial".
In the meantime our daughter has proven them wrong. As soon as she started attending "normal" education she flourished and was soon regarded as extremely intelligent, but with a very special attitude. The "Most common traits of Indigo children" chapter in the book beautifully describes the traits of our daughter and many of her classmates.

The chapters about anger, transforming anger, recognizing angerpatterns have helped me tremendously and instantly to recognize and release my own anger, fear and sadness. This has resulted within a week from starting to read the book in a transformation of not only my emotions but in the transformation of our daughter's emotions as well. We are now one week away from summer holidays and last week the teachers at school applauded our daughter. "She seems totally changed, as if she has cheered up in all her cells" one of the teachers said.

Recognizing the building-up of emotions as well as the suppression of anger, fear and sadness gives me a huge advantage as a mother, as a wife, as a human being and as a professional trainer of NLP.

I cannot thank Dianne Lancaster enough for writing this must-read master piece, that can transform your anger into love. Bravo!!

More attention to Indigo Children. There's a movement afoot to raise the societal and parental consciousness about a "special" group of children known as Indigos. The writings in the field suggest that they're significantly different than other children of their generation-the children of today. I suspect that those kids that we identify as "Indigo" are but the leading edge of an entire generation of such people...which makes every book on this topic substantially more meaningful. Books on this topic-including this one-should be required reading for university students preparing to be teachers and counselors, let alone those who are practicing in the field already.

Chapter One of this book explains the terminology, so you don't have to scurry around looking for references to understand the perspectives. Nevertheless, I'd recommend you read "The Indigo Children" by Lee Carroll and Jan Tober and "The Care and Feeding of Indigo Children" by Doreen Virtue. Their work will give you deep insight into Indigos, while this book focuses on anger management issues and techniques and their relationship to Indigo children...and others.

At first, scanning the table of contents, I suspected this was the work of an anger therapist or seminar leader looking for another place to promote her work. Part of this attitude on my part came from seeing the trademark indicator on several of Lancaster's theories and approaches. As I read the book, I came to realize that the trademarks show that this professional has done some fine, groundbreaking work that is worthy of respect and recognition. There's a tremendous amount of good content in this volume.

Chapter Three caught my attention: 44 Ways to Show Kids You Care. There's a whole book right there, I pondered. And, sure enough, there is a great deal of advice in those pages. Thinking of how I'd applied the principles with my own children, I patted myself on the back reading a few of them-emphasis on the word "few." Every parent should have this list on a laminated card within easy reach.

The book continues with the same value, chapter after chapter. Not every word is an original thought of Dianne Lancaster. She brings in chapters written by others or tapping into the work of others. This technique makes two statements to me: first, Lancaster realizes she doesn't have all the answers (bravo!), and second, she knows who does have answers and invests an extra effort to be sure the reader gains maximum benefit from her book.

I will admit that there are parts of this book, like the chapter on symbology, that stretched credibility for me. You should know that I'm fairly well hard-wired to solid knowledge and some of the approaches in this field push the edges of my envelope. What does this mean to you? As a reader, your mind will be stretched. Even if you reject some part(s) of what you read in this book, you will gain so much that you'll want to read some sections again. The book is designed to facilitate that kind of usage, so go right ahead.

Glossary, Resource List, no index. It would have been nice to have an index, but the Table of Contents is so comprehensive, you don't really need an index.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I have to compose a letter to my Indigo child. Yes, a letter: to give her time to re-read, re-think, and absorb, as you'll do with this book.

This book offers advice and practical methods to help not only your child but your entire family handle, redirect and diffuse anger. Every parent and teacher should read this so they can become a part of the solution of raising a society of happy, communicative, calm children. I also believe in teaching children self-calming techniques like breathing,affimations,and relaxation.

I recommend audio book/CDs called "Indigo Dreams" and "Indigo Ocean Dreams" to anyone that has taken the initiative to help children manage anger.Indigo Dreams: Relaxation and Stress Management Bedtime Stories for Children, Improve Sleep, Manage Stress and Anxiety (Indigo Dreams)

We have all heard the familiar adage "the children are our future." This generation of Indigo Children is not only our future but our present as well. The Indigo children are both exceptionally gifted and extremely sensitive (emotionally challenged.) We can live in harmony with the children and nuture them to their full potential, or we can continue to allow the emotion of anger run needlessly towards rage. The choice is ours: to read the book is a WIN/WIN proposition for all.

I am grateful for the vision of the author, Dianne Lancaster, who has very astutely brought to our awareness something so powerful and at the same time simplistic. An awareness designed for action. Anger and the Indigo Child enables us to recognize and change the emotion of anger into a productive, harmonic relationship with life. This book is a MUST READ for EVERYONE. We all have a connection to anger or angry people in our lives. This book goes beyond the publications that have introducted the concept of the Indigo Child by addressing the emotional challenges the Indigo Child will face AND giving practical guidelines for us to act upon that are very empowering for all (including the angry person).

This book is an excellent resource and "if" as adults we had "required reading" I would put Anger and the Indigo Child on top of the pile for all of us. Imagine life's possibilities when we act upon the author's insights and transform anger into love!

Dianne Lancaster's wonderful book offers valuable insight and practical-step-by-step information about how to support the development and emotional well-being of a new generation of kids.

These children are pushing us forward on a cultural learning curve. We are raising a generation of more finely attuned beings who feel more want more and who have more to contribute. Ms. Lancaster elucidates this phenomenon and explains why these children are unwilling and constitutionally unable to tolerate outworn models of communication and power that hurt.

She shows how we can relate to them in ways that work for them, transforming anger and frustration to love and understanding. She also explains how we can learn to do this for ourselves, learning to recognize and address our own needs and anger, so that we don't respond to them automatically, in a triggered state.

This book brings so much information, clarity and just plain truth to the subject that readers will want to savor it slowly, allowing the material to resonate and integrate.

My experience in reading it was similar to first time reading works of Harville Hendrix, Catherine Ponder and Louise Hay: a sense of enlivenment, joyful recognition that I as a reader had been given a marvelous gift. This author's contributions are of the same caliber and teach us what we need to know right now for our kids and ourselves. I recommend it most highly.

After having read just half of this book, I was using the techniques to overcome the trauma of a criminal intrusion in my life.

The author has gone beyond others on this topic to map out the journey of anger and a possible pathway back to peace. I think any book on this subject is exploratory. The terrain is uncharted by experts in psychology to my knowledge.

I found this book very readable, encouraging, helpful, and somewhat miraculous in terms of applicability to my circumstances.

I do not know if there is a standard of excellence by which to measure this kind of work. I applaud anyone for trying to write on the subject of anger and how to work with it. It is certainly relevant for any modern city dweller. Three hundred cheers to Dianne Lancaster.

I have a completely different take on this book than the last reviewer. While I haven't completed it yet, either, what I have read has helped me to deal with my own daughter's rage with more LOVE (which is the KEY to the whole concept). I am a teacher and work directly with children on a daily basis,as well as a single mom.
I've have dealt with anger issues all my life. Not only my own anger, but my family of origin and my (now 16) daughter. I wish I had a book like this when my daughter was a toddler!
I plan to continue reading with an OPEN MIND, and use what I can in my work with children and anger. I have already noticed a 'shift' in the way my daughter and I relate...it is more loving and I am able to deal much more effectively with the out of control anger that she has displayed so often. That is dissapating also, as I become more aware of my role and how I can best meet her needs as an Indigo.

It is a very helpful book and well worth exploring!

I cannot imagine anyone....parents, teachers. caregivers or friends of a Indigo child, those persons who would be touched by the presence of these exceptional beings,who would not feel gratitude for Dianne Lancaster's "Anger and the Indigo Child."

As these unique children are gifting us their presence they are challenging us to hear the 13th octave above our 12 octave scale. By experiencing this book I am learning that the indigo child is digitally wired trying to function in an ananlog world and they are having a hard time grasping why we don't get it!

Because Dianne has tuned in magnifiently well to these children her book is a wayshower on how to compassionatly embrace these divine vessels and support them in their difficult role.
My feeling is that "Anger and the Indigo Child" is a must read for anyone who is experiencing life with an indigo.

This book is a slower read because the information needs to be processed. I had many "aha moments" reading it. I recomend it to anyone who is interested in helping their child and themselves to be a better parent, teacher or caretaker. Enjoy.

Upon reading "Anger and the Indigo Child", I became abundantly aware of the emotional dynamics tangled in my relationship with myself, and as a result, the turmult in relationships with my children. I felt affirmed to know that there IS a definition for these dynamics and a path to healing what I was already experiencing in my family. This book is a reference and a handbook to create more love, peace and emotional stability as my children continue to grow and Ms. Lancaster's principles are applied with honesty. This book has expanded my probability for healing.

"Anger and the Indigo Child" is a consciousness raising and transformational work. It offers definitions, examples, and strategies to facilitate this spiritual growth and emotional healing. Ms. Lancaster's work is a perfect compliment to the information I have recently read by Lee Carroll and Jan Tober of the Louise Hay House. It is obvious that the success of her methods, as outlined in this book, is derived from her hands-on experience working with these special children and their families.

In my personal search for spiritual growth and emotional healing, I have learned that every person on the planet travels along his/her individual and solitary path. When information is offered to define a problem and create a solution, each of us chooses how far we are willing to go to heal, or how ready we are to change behavioral patterns. The need to appropriately identify and express anger is not an easy challenge to approach.

I look forward to reading Ms. Lancaster's other publications and perhaps attending one of her workshops that are listed on the book's website.