The Anger Solution: The Proven Method for Achieving Calm and Developing Healthy, Long-Lasting Relationships [Paperback]

John Lee (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: August 11, 2009

Discover the differences between healthy and harmful anger with John Lee’s life-changing program. Therapist Lee’s proven method will help anyone immediately tap into the causes of their own anger, allowing them to get a handle on the emotions that cause stress and pain. Without guilt, shame, embarrassment, resentment, or hopelessness,The Anger Solutionoffers groundbreaking information on controlling rage. Featuring the Detour Method—a practical, easy process that can save relationships, create deeper connections, and dissipate rage—The Anger Solutionpromises to be the next classic in anger management.

Editorial Reviews

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Library Journal
“Lee sets forth a syllabus for improving relationships through a step-by-step program to deal with long-buried anger and rage. Reading this book would be a pragmatic first step for someone seeking to manage his or her anger and forge deeper connections with others.”

About the Author

John Lee is a best-selling author of fifteen books, includingThe Flying BoyandFacing the Fire. Over the course of his career, Lee has sold more than 500,000 copies of his books, and has been featured onOprahnumerous times. He’s also been on20/20,The View,CNN,PBS, andNPR. He has been interviewed byNewsweek,The New York Times,The Los Angeles Times, and dozens of other national magazines and radio talk shows. Lee lives in Mentone, Alabama.

Product Details

• Paperback: 240 pages
• Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books; 1st edition (August 11, 2009)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0738212601
• ISBN-13: 978-0738212609
• Product Dimensions: 8.1 x 5.5 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #539,400 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

For most of my career I've been writing self-help and psychology books (22 published), but I have also written fiction.


I have two books coming out this year: The Half-Lived Life (Dec 2011) and Emotional Intelligence For Couples (July 2011).


In addition to writing I'm also a public speaker, teacher, consultant and life coach. My areas of expertise are passivity, emotional regression, anger management, recovery, relationships, men's issues, spirituality and creativity.


I've been fortunate enough to have been featured on Oprah 3 times and have also appeared on 20/20, Dr. Oz radio program, The View, CNN, PBS, and NPR.


As a consultant and trainer I've worked with The Betty Ford Clinic, Cleveland Clinic, Hanley Center, Guy's Hospital (London, England), The New York Open Center, South Pacific Hospital (Sydney, Australia), Mountain Area Health and Education Center (North Carolina) and numerous others.


Before becoming a writer I was a professor at the University of Texas and Alabama. I live in McKinney, TX with my wife, Susan, and an ever-growing group of animals. We also have a home in Mentone, AL.


If you want more info, please visit my site at www.johnleebooks.com or visit my facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/jleemain

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7 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A truely helpful book, September 16, 2010

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This review is from: The Anger Solution: The Proven Method for Achieving Calm and Developing Healthy, Long-Lasting Relationships (Paperback)

This book could be called "the rage solution." John Lee draws the distinction between anger and rage. Anger is a natural emotion; rage is the behavior that gets me in trouble.
The author explains how anger can help a relationship when expressed in an appropriate manner while rage only drives two people further apart.
There are plenty of books out there about finding your bliss and following your passion, but if you are wrapped up in years of rage you won't be able to recognize passion if it knocked you up side head.
The author does not offer quick fixes for diffusing anger in the moment. Those tools are helpful but they don't do anything to uncover the source of the rage. This rage is grounded in the past and we are reacting to the past instead of the present.
The solutions offered in this book are simple but powerful ways of asking yourself questions that get at the source of the rage so you can move out of the past and deal with the present.
It's not just about anger and rage either. He discusses boundaries, limits, assertiveness, emotional regression and passivity. He shows how these elements contribute to rage or can be used to avoid more rage.
I learn best through the use of real-life examples and this book is chock full of them.
If you have been screaming for years to get what you want and nothing has changed - this book will show you why those screams may be driving you further away from your desires. Then it explains an alternative method that is simple and powerful.

2 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Highly recommended, December 3, 2010

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Well written and easy to read. Very helpful especially for male clients who are more comfortable with learning a method than they are with traditional talk therapy. Equally effective for females, of course. The author makes an important distinction between rage and anger that helps both people who believe they shouldn't feel any anger at all, and those who express all anger as rage. This is a book I keep on hand to lend to clients.