Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them: Breaking the Cycle of Physical and Emotional Abuse [Paperback]

Paul Hegstrom (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 28, 2004

From the earliest years of his marriage, Paul Hegstrom handled his problems and frustrations the only way he knew how: with fists and fury. Talking about the problem only intensified his rage. Going into the Christian ministry didn’t help either, the guilt merely magnified his despair. Facing a charge of attempted murder and a prison term, Hegstrom got the wake-up call he needed. With professional help and an intense struggle with spiritual issues, he began the lengthy process of healing and recovery.Through a fascinating, yet thorough examination of the psychological components of various types of abuse, along with true examples from his own life and others, Hegstrom points the way back to wholeness and freedom. An invaluable aid for the man who batters, the woman who feels trapped, and the pastor, counselor, or friend who desperately wants to help them both, Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them offers straight answers for those willing to overcome the cycle of violence. The revised and updated edition includes a new chapter that discusses the physiological and psychological changes in the brain when abuse occurs.

Product Details

• Paperback: 152 pages
• Publisher: Beacon Hill Press of Kansas City; Revised edition (May 28, 2004)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0834121522
• ISBN-13: 978-0834121522
• Product Dimensions: 7.9 x 5.1 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (22 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #234,771 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #70 in Books > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Mental Health > Abuse & Self Defense > Domestic Violence

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31 of 31 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Must Read and Heed Book!, October 29, 2002

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LLOYD DOERBAUM (NAPLES, FL United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them: Breaking the Cycle of Physical and Emotional Abuse (Paperback)

Implement! Do it! Half of my counseling career dealt with violent, angry men, incarcerated for life because they totally lost it... and now regret it. "If only someone had stopped me before I did her in." This statement said over and over even when some went in for counseling sessions yet departed because they did not want the "counsel." That meant dramatic change and they loved their power position so much their "security blanket" was not about to be given up.
Hegstrom's book skillfully presents these insights with all the "on the scene" drama [routinely seen by deputies] as you cannot help but empathize along with all the hurt, pain, and grief experienced by the two parties tied together in these agonizing episodes. Nonetheless, if the solution is only pondered and never applied, they spin their wheels agonizing forever. Read and heed his counsel!
For those couples who will read, I can give them a copy of this book. It is that helpful.

45 of 48 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars READ THIS BOOK, it gives helpful advice!, January 6, 2001

By A Customer

This review is from: Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them: Breaking the Cycle of Physical and Emotional Abuse (Paperback)

A friend, who is the former wife of an abusive man (who eventually killed himself after trying to kill her), says:

"This book is boldly written to express the pain of an abusive man who changed his life by coming to grips with the anguish which caused his destructive behavior.

"The book is well-written, and arranged in an amazinly-helpful format.

"It's not very long but contains what you need to know to get help for yourself, if you are an angry man, or to understand or offer counseling to an angry man who is driven by the wounds of his past.

"It also defines the emotional truama that the woman goes through in a relationship with such a man, and offers advice to such women. It identifies what abuse is, and that it can be found in all levels of society.

"A MUST READ FOR MEN AND WOMEN living in the cycle of abuse.

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22 of 22 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Not a Man-Basher, November 21, 2002

By A Customer

This review is from: Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them: Breaking the Cycle of Physical and Emotional Abuse (Paperback)

This book was very helpful. It's an easy read, and helpful to both the abused and abuser without being preachy to either side. I believe it's a must-read for both the abuser and their victim...