Are You My Type, Am I Yours? : Relationships Made Easy Through The Enneagram [Paperback]

Renee Baron (Author), Elizabeth Wagele (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: September 15, 1995

Don't just love 'em and leave 'em—explore the nine personality types and find the lover, soul mate, partner, or colleague who's your perfect match! The authors of the popular Enneagram Made Easy takes a wonderfully witty approach to relationships with this fascinating guide to the Enneagram types and how they relate to one another.

The Enneagram, a renowned personality typing system that is enjoying enormous popularity, explains why we behave the way we do, providing an important tool for self-discovery and insight. Are You My Type, Am I Yours? explores each of the nine types and how they interact in love, work, family, and friendships. Each chapter is filled with intriguing details, witty cartoons, simple personality tests, and examples of "famous couples" of each type to help discovery and appreciate your own type and those of the people you've involved with—or could be.

The 9 types of people

• The Perfectionist Motivated by the need to live life the right way, improve yourself and others, and avoid anger.
• The Helper Motivated by the need to be loved and appreciated and to express your positive feelings towards others.
• The Achiever Motivated by the need to be productive, to achieve success, and to avoid failure.
• The Romantic Motivated by the need to understand your feelings and to be understood to search for the meaning of life, and to avoid being ordinary.
• The Observer Motivated by the need to know everything and understand the universe, to be self-sufficient and left alone, and to avoid not having the answer or looking foolish.
• The Questioner Motivated by the need for security, to feel taken care of, or to confront your fears.
• The Adventurer Motivated by the need to be happy and plan fun things, to contribute to the world, and to avoid suffering and pain.
• The Asserter Motivated by the need to be self-reliant and strong, to make an impact on the world, and to avoid being weak.
• The Peacemaker Motivated by the need to keep the peace, merge with others, and avoid conflict.

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About the Author

Renee Baron has been in private practice for more than twenty-five years and has taught countless workshops and seminars on the value of understanding your personality type. She uses the Enneagram and Myers-Briggs Type Indicator™ personality assessments to give people practical yet powerful tools to develop clarity into their own and other people's behavior. Her books have been published in seventeen countries and include The Enneagram Made Easy, What Type Am I?, and Are You My Type, Am I Yours?

Product Details

• Paperback: 192 pages
• Publisher: HarperOne; 1st edition (September 15, 1995)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 006251248X
• ISBN-13: 978-0062512482
• Product Dimensions: 9.2 x 7.4 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (15 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #312,234 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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46 of 47 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Delightful and witty presentation of the enneagram!, October 2, 1996

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This review is from: Are You My Type, Am I Yours? : Relationships Made Easy Through The Enneagram (Paperback)

After 15 years of studying the enneagram, I was put off by the title of this book. Fortunately, it was a gift and so I opened it to discover an excellent presentation of the enneagram. The authors clearly understand the material and are able to communicate the enneagram's wisdom clearly. Their sense of humor is wonderful, and assists greatly in augmenting explanations of the nine types. This would be a terrific choice for someone completely unfamiliar with the enneagram, yet even an experienced student would gain from it. It is rare to laugh aloud while learning! I humbly admit that I am happy I did NOT judge THIS book by its cover! I have gone on to read their other book and it was even better reading!

20 of 20 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars fantastic & entertaining - can't live without this one, June 9, 2002

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This review is from: Are You My Type, Am I Yours? : Relationships Made Easy Through The Enneagram (Paperback)

Don't be put off by the title -- this is not a is-he-the-one? book; it's about how the different eneagram types interact with one another. It may help you understand your relationships with friends, family, children, parents, coworkers -- everyone. The book is eminently readable, packed with information, and filled with delightul, laugh-out-loud cartoons. In addition to providing overviews of each of the nine enneagram types, the book goes through each of the types & summaries how each interacts with the other types -- What ones think about twos -- why they like twos, why they have dificulty with twos, what ones think about threes, fours, etc., and vice versa. It very accurately identified the high points & trouble spots in several of my friendships -- (I was bothered by a one friend who always abandons me when my depressed four side comes out -- the book identifies the #1 thing about why ones have trouble with fours is four's brooding & focus on their feelings). The authors also identify famous couples (real couples, movie couples, duos like Siskel & Ebert) by their types and compares the types to Myers- Briggs typing. I particularly like the book because it has application as to how the enneagram typing helps us understand not only ourselves, but how we interact with others. This is a good introduction to the enneagram. It and Baron & Wagele's The Enneagram Made Easy are the two enneagram books I most often share with others.

18 of 18 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Simple, Fun Introduction to the Enneagram., January 24, 2003

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Wendy (Clarkston, MI United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Are You My Type, Am I Yours? : Relationships Made Easy Through The Enneagram (Paperback)

Great introduction to the fascinating personality theory known as the Enneagram. I've been studying the Enneagram for four years now and I continue to be amazed at its accuracy and complexity. I know many people who are interested in it, too, and who claim to really want to know "What type am I?! Is that a good one to be?!" In the past, I've enthusiastically loaned out the more in-depth, advanced books by Don Riso and Helen Palmer, authors who address the weaknesses of each type as well as the strengths... only to have my friends come back with only part of the book read, turned off to the whole theory because it seems too complicated or talks about the "cons" of each type. "But I only want to see how cool I am," they whine. "If I wanted to hear criticisms of myself, I'd call my mother." Never mind that the whole point of personality books is to UNDERSTAND yourself and others, to learn to appreciate the strengths as well as to learn how to grow and to improve upon the weaknesses...but... (sigh).

So, partly out of my own selfishness to keep some friends into the theory, I checked out "Are You My Type....?" and I am so excited. The authors have done a fantastic job of providing a good, solid introduction to the theory and gently describing some of the, um, less appealing qualities that each of the types has. The cartoon illustrations throughout seem a bit too silly at first, but once you see them in context to the text, you can see that they really enhance the text. A sense of humor with the Enneagrams is nice, too, as it does get taken a bit too seriously sometimes.

I've loaned this book out as an introduction to the theory and have gotten a lot more people interested in the Enneagrams and in learning about themselves. A very good thing!