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Assertive Discipline for Parents: A Proven, Step-by-Step Approach to Solving Everyday Behavior Problems

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I have read several "discipline" books with many more on my nightstand. This is by far one of the best books for all ages, from toddlers to teens. The book is easy to read (1-2 hours at the most), gives great examples and has already inspired me to take charge of my parenting with my almost 4 yr old twin boys. I can certainly see it's effectiveness into the teen years.

The Canter's give you an overview of "being assertive" and ineffective communication. Then they keep it simple by giving you in one short chapter the tools most parents will need to get results - speak assertively, use nonverbal cues, utilize the broken record technique for arguers, and praise when behavior is appropriate. The next couple chapters suggest how to back up your words with actions and lay down the law, including some examples of "extreme" measures people have taken. Each chapter supplies examples and a one page summary at the end.

The rest of the book gives great ideas for enforcing positive behavior, working with 2 or more children, changing behavior at school, and working with spouses and ex-spouses. There are examples situations for working parents, babysitters, and single parents. There is a question and answer section of the most "what if?" and "but.." questions, a long problem/consequence example chapter and worksheets for disciplinary plans in various situations.

I highly recommend this book as one of the first to read. I really like the way they give suggestions, but don't treat them as the only way to do things. The authors acknowledge the fact that some children definitely need professional help and that the professional advice comes first. And the fact that positive reinforcement is highly emphasized makes it a well rounded, easy to implement discipline strategy.

Every time I feel myself falling into unconstructive patterns of handling my children, I re-read this book. It renews my confidence to deal with everyday parenting challenges by "putting the ball in their court". As they grow, Assertive Discipline for Parents grows with them because it contains suggestions for all ages.

Assertive Discipline For Parents is an excellent book. It's not a very long book that will take you weeks, or even months to read, and it gets right to "the point". No long, drawn out stories. There's also worksheets that can be used for home and at school. Assertive Discipline is a 3-step program...You try it one step at a time. If the first step doesn't work, continue on to the next step. (Just be sure to read the entire book first.) It offers suggestions as: use "I WANT you to..." instead of "You NEED to..." The "broken record" technique is also fabulous! When your child argues with you or comes up with excuses, just use the "broken record" technique...keep repeating your request. I recommend this book to anyone who needs something quick, and easy to understand and read. It's working for us!

We are the parents of an only child. He had a lot of bad learned behavior. This book was recommended to us by a child psychologist and it really has helped us in the discipline area. My son is a different child and gets along better with his peers. This is an excellent book. I'm even buying copies for my friends who are struggling with discipline in their homes.

I'm a single mother of three boys ages 10, 8 and 6. I've been told I was a softy and I had great children who needed more guidance and discipline. This book is great. The price too.

I think the book offered lots of great advice for parents who have no ideas of where to begin. I also think it did alot to dispel notions of the effects of harsh discipline and verbal abuse.

I was trained as a teacher to use Lee Canter's assertive discipline. This book helps you not to be a wuss and how not to argue or give into your kids. Great examples in the book. Too many parenting books focus all the attention on why a kid is doing something. This book actually gives you situational advice as well as exactly what to say and how to say it!

I taught for 10 years and my principal always gave me discipline problem children...the training I received in college with the Assertive Discipline gave me all the tools to be firm and fair. My students loved it because the expecatations were clear as well as the consequences. I highly recommend anything Lee Canter has written! I bought this book as a refresher for my own parenting....my only job now is to raise responsible and respectful children.

Every time I feel myself falling into unconstructive patterns of handling my children, I re-read this book. It renews my confidence to deal with everyday parenting challenges by "putting the ball in their court". As they grow, Assertive Discipline for Parents grows with them because it contains suggestions for all ages.

Assertive Discipline for Parents: A Proven, Step-by-Step Approach to Solving Everyday Behavior Problems

This is a very good book. The authors give familiar examples to help us see where we are going wrong. Then we get clear word for word examples of what we could say to be more effective parents. Many parents don't take charge because they don't know how to do so. Maybe we lack the confidence or needed skills. Well this book has practical, sensible, easy to put into practice ideas.

It is great if both parents agree on how to parent. But even if they don't you can learn these techniques and put them to use. Your child will learn that at least that one parent will take charge. Your kid will thank you for it. (Well they won't actually thank you until they become parents, but they will certainly benefit from your assertive parenting.

Assertive is not a four letter word. It's what your kid needs instead of compliant, hostile, unrealistic, ineffective or punishing parenting.

Discipline is not the same thing as punishment. The authors define it as corrective action designed to help teach children more appropriate behavior. It should never violate the physical or emotional well being of the child. Although to me the screaming fit that occurred when I finally started taking charge FELT like I was inflicting emotional pain. He did get over that when he got used to the fact that I was taking charge and the fits began to fade. If I hadn't had this book to support me I might have backed down.

When your children are acting out and you feel like your going to lose it read a couple of pages from this book. No, your not a bad parent we all get into patterns of behavior and this book helps you to see a light at the end of the tunnel. It helped my husband and the grandma control situations that were starting to get us all tense. Now we all use the same approach and it has helped keep our family happier. The book has practical advice. Just remember to follow it.