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Assertiveness: How to Stand Up for Yourself and Still Win the Respect of Others [Kindle Edition]

Judy Murphy
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Book Description

This book shows you how to be a more confident, assertive individual.

It teaches you the necessary skills to be decisive and in control of your life.

With the information in this guide, you will learn to improve your relationships, move your career forward, and earn the respect of your friends, family, spouse, co-workers, even your boss.

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  • File Size: 248 KB
  • Print Length: 110 pages
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B006B96NDM
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Lending: Enabled
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #24,437 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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41 of 41 people found the following review helpful
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When I was younger, especially in my days as a high school student, I was one of those guys who made friends easily with both teachers and fellow students but had a hard time when it came to dating and achieving certain goals which required collaboration from others.

It wasn't that I was an "ugly duckling" - even though at times I thought I was - or a disagreeable fellow; I had a circle of friends from a cross-section of my high school's student body that included football players, choir singers, members of the drama club and - of course - some of my fellow journalism students. However, when I really wanted to start dating girls, I tended to "wimp out" and become the "invisible man" because I couldn't find a way to get women to notice me in a positive light.

Looking back on those days and even further on into my adulthood, I realize now that although shyness played a lot of havoc both in my personal and professional ambitions, my biggest problem was lack of assertiveness.

Now, as Judy Murphy points out in "Assertiveness: How to Stand Up For Yourself and Still Win the Respect of Others," assertiveness - which is not to be confused with "aggressiveness" - is one of the most important factors that determine whether we get a job we are seeking, plum assignments and promotions, or if we can attract a significant other and build a happy, healthy and stable relationship based on love and respect.

At the start of the book, Murphy explains the difference between being assertive and being aggressive, which is important to understand because some people, especially guys, tend to say to non-assertive peers "to be aggressive and go for what you want.
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19 of 21 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A Practical Guide to Assertiveness December 1, 2011
By Linda
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We live in a society where people confuse assertiveness and aggressiveness when pursuing what we want in life. Judy Murphy's book, Assertiveness: How to Stand Up for Yourself and Still Win the Respect of Others, does much to clear up that misconception in a straightforward, concise manner.

Assertiveness is attaining a balance between considering your own wants, needs, and goals with the wants, needs, and goals of other people. Aggressive people act in self-serving ways that lack respect for others; passive people act in ways that show no respect for themselves. Using a list of principles called the Bill of Rights of Assertiveness, Ms. Murphy guides readers to understand how they think about themselves, how they communicate, and how others perceive them can impede acting assertively and getting the respect they deserve.

The book provides useful examples of passive, aggressive, and assertive behavior in a variety of settings, and then follows up with helpful exercises and suggestions for the reader to practice being assertive in those settings as well. Especially strong and true-to-life examples are given in the section on assertiveness in personal relationships, covering such topics as miscommunication between significant others and parent-child challenges. Another interesting section addresses how to raise assertive children, which is such an important issue given the widespread bullying problems in schools and neighborhoods.

The major concept of the entire book is that behaving with respect toward others and toward oneself will go a long way in assuring that one will be respected by others. Constructive assertiveness can also reduce stress, increase honest relationships with others, and benefit health. This book is a handy guide to improving one's life through being more assertive that will be read more than once by many of its readers.
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9 of 10 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Practical, Sensible, and Doable Advice July 26, 2012
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Good book on the topic of assertiveness. I've never heard any author talk about assertiveness quite like this one. She doesn't allow you to blame others for how people treat you. She realizes that people treat you in response to what you are doing, and in many cases, what you are not doing. She gives you valuable advice about what to do and how to behave.

Also there is a strong emphasis on developing your inner game. Inner game is key to asserting yourself effectively. How you feel inside drives how you act outside. There is useful advice for building "a strong foundation of self."
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11 of 13 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Learn How to Stand Up for Yourself! December 5, 2011
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In Judy Murphys, "Assertiveness: How to Stand Up for Yourself and Still Win the Respect of Others," you'll learn step-by-step how to be more assertive in your business and personal life. Providing examples from literature and life scenarios, the author breaks down how you can be more assertive in different aspects in your life. It teaches you about assertiveness at work, with your children, your parents, your friends and your spouse. Murphy also talks about various situations that may come up in your life from how to handle bad customer service to how to be more assertive in the bedroom.

Murphy even provides information on how to raise assertive children which includes a breakdown of how to handle a bully (which is a huge concern for parents right now). In the book, she warns parents of being "helicopter parents." Instead of hovering over your child in an attempt to quash any uncomfortable situation, encourages the reader to teach their child the tools needed to handle difficult situation on their own.

The book also includes a toolkit which provides role-playing scenarios and ways to measure your success. By offering self evaluation tools and tips, "Assertiveness" is a great how-to guide for those seeking ways to stand up for themselves and appreciate their self worth.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars :)
I loved this book. It is clearly written with many examples and real world scenarios you are likely to encounter. Read more
Published 16 days ago by Cecilia
3.0 out of 5 stars An important subject.
This book started to fill the need for help, but fell somewhat short on content and examples.
Published 19 days ago by Riverrunner
5.0 out of 5 stars brief and inexpensive
I plan to put some of the ideas to good use. I bought the book for someone else, and found that it's useful to me.
Published 24 days ago by Margaret
5.0 out of 5 stars A Five Stars book!!!
This is the kind of book that could save you many troubles in your whole life, please read it. I can only wish I had it sooner.
Published 26 days ago by maricela rivera
5.0 out of 5 stars Very well written and thorough book
This is a respectable guide for becoming a stronger person with solid boundaries. Although Judy provides suitable information on managing assertiveness with a range of real world... Read more
Published 28 days ago by Jesse Padilla
5.0 out of 5 stars wonderful
felt like Judy really understood my personal issues, and the exercises and advice are helpful if you apply it. very easy to read and digest.
Published 29 days ago by Lukas Hester
2.0 out of 5 stars Boring
Published 1 month ago by Patricia M.
4.0 out of 5 stars Wish it was longer
It was a very good book. I enjoyed the ten assertive rights the most. Would recommend for anyone to read.
Published 1 month ago by Blaize
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book on the topic with examples and extensive explanation
Excellent book on the topic with examples and extensive explanation, really accessible and clear, it cover most common interactions types with clear dialogues and subsequent... Read more
Published 1 month ago by Carlos Bergero
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Very good book, lots of helpful tips and advice. Much better than some of the other assertiveness books I've read before.
Published 1 month ago by Augustine Martin
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