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Assertiveness: How to Stand Up for Yourself and Still Win the Respect of Others [Kindle Edition]

Judy Murphy
4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (49 customer reviews)

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Book Description

This book shows you how to be a more confident, assertive individual.

It teaches you the necessary skills to be decisive and in control of your life.

With the information in this guide, you will learn to improve your relationships, move your career forward, and earn the respect of your friends, family, spouse, co-workers, even your boss.

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  • File Size: 191 KB
  • Print Length: 106 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 1495446859
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B006B96NDM
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #31,733 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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35 of 35 people found the following review helpful
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When I was younger, especially in my days as a high school student, I was one of those guys who made friends easily with both teachers and fellow students but had a hard time when it came to dating and achieving certain goals which required collaboration from others.

It wasn't that I was an "ugly duckling" - even though at times I thought I was - or a disagreeable fellow; I had a circle of friends from a cross-section of my high school's student body that included football players, choir singers, members of the drama club and - of course - some of my fellow journalism students. However, when I really wanted to start dating girls, I tended to "wimp out" and become the "invisible man" because I couldn't find a way to get women to notice me in a positive light.

Looking back on those days and even further on into my adulthood, I realize now that although shyness played a lot of havoc both in my personal and professional ambitions, my biggest problem was lack of assertiveness.

Now, as Judy Murphy points out in "Assertiveness: How to Stand Up For Yourself and Still Win the Respect of Others," assertiveness - which is not to be confused with "aggressiveness" - is one of the most important factors that determine whether we get a job we are seeking, plum assignments and promotions, or if we can attract a significant other and build a happy, healthy and stable relationship based on love and respect.

At the start of the book, Murphy explains the difference between being assertive and being aggressive, which is important to understand because some people, especially guys, tend to say to non-assertive peers "to be aggressive and go for what you want.
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16 of 17 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A Practical Guide to Assertiveness December 1, 2011
By Linda
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We live in a society where people confuse assertiveness and aggressiveness when pursuing what we want in life. Judy Murphy's book, Assertiveness: How to Stand Up for Yourself and Still Win the Respect of Others, does much to clear up that misconception in a straightforward, concise manner.

Assertiveness is attaining a balance between considering your own wants, needs, and goals with the wants, needs, and goals of other people. Aggressive people act in self-serving ways that lack respect for others; passive people act in ways that show no respect for themselves. Using a list of principles called the Bill of Rights of Assertiveness, Ms. Murphy guides readers to understand how they think about themselves, how they communicate, and how others perceive them can impede acting assertively and getting the respect they deserve.

The book provides useful examples of passive, aggressive, and assertive behavior in a variety of settings, and then follows up with helpful exercises and suggestions for the reader to practice being assertive in those settings as well. Especially strong and true-to-life examples are given in the section on assertiveness in personal relationships, covering such topics as miscommunication between significant others and parent-child challenges. Another interesting section addresses how to raise assertive children, which is such an important issue given the widespread bullying problems in schools and neighborhoods.

The major concept of the entire book is that behaving with respect toward others and toward oneself will go a long way in assuring that one will be respected by others. Constructive assertiveness can also reduce stress, increase honest relationships with others, and benefit health. This book is a handy guide to improving one's life through being more assertive that will be read more than once by many of its readers.
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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Learn How to Stand Up for Yourself! December 5, 2011
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In Judy Murphys, "Assertiveness: How to Stand Up for Yourself and Still Win the Respect of Others," you'll learn step-by-step how to be more assertive in your business and personal life. Providing examples from literature and life scenarios, the author breaks down how you can be more assertive in different aspects in your life. It teaches you about assertiveness at work, with your children, your parents, your friends and your spouse. Murphy also talks about various situations that may come up in your life from how to handle bad customer service to how to be more assertive in the bedroom.

Murphy even provides information on how to raise assertive children which includes a breakdown of how to handle a bully (which is a huge concern for parents right now). In the book, she warns parents of being "helicopter parents." Instead of hovering over your child in an attempt to quash any uncomfortable situation, encourages the reader to teach their child the tools needed to handle difficult situation on their own.

The book also includes a toolkit which provides role-playing scenarios and ways to measure your success. By offering self evaluation tools and tips, "Assertiveness" is a great how-to guide for those seeking ways to stand up for themselves and appreciate their self worth.
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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Practical, Sensible, and Doable Advice July 26, 2012
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Good book on the topic of assertiveness. I've never heard any author talk about assertiveness quite like this one. She doesn't allow you to blame others for how people treat you. She realizes that people treat you in response to what you are doing, and in many cases, what you are not doing. She gives you valuable advice about what to do and how to behave.

Also there is a strong emphasis on developing your inner game. Inner game is key to asserting yourself effectively. How you feel inside drives how you act outside. There is useful advice for building "a strong foundation of self."
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
4.0 out of 5 stars good read
This is a practical guide assertiveness. From the very beginning the author acknowledges that this is not a quick fix. It is a skill that needs to be actively worked on. Read more
Published 21 days ago by Claron O' Neale
5.0 out of 5 stars A for Awesome
Epic stuff. I already am starting to see results and small changes in sub a short amount of time. It is shaping me for the better. Read more
Published 24 days ago by daniel darryl eyre
5.0 out of 5 stars Finally a practical resource with real-life advice!!
This book will give matter-of-fact advice and tips on changing a formerly passive person to a confident person while still remaining yourself. Read more
Published 1 month ago by No longer the door mat
4.0 out of 5 stars Great Book
I definitely recommend this book to anyone who wants to become more assertive or wants to learn the difference between assertive and aggressiveness!
Published 2 months ago by Erin Fouse
4.0 out of 5 stars Good book but not going very deep
Good book but not going very deep. I would recommend it but I have to read some more in order to have wit something to compare.
Published 2 months ago by Milos Mihaljevic
4.0 out of 5 stars Great book
This book gives you practical examples on how to be assertive which is very good any one can understand and apply.
Published 4 months ago by Joseph
5.0 out of 5 stars A must read for people who aren't assertive
This book is an excellent read for anyone who hasn't learned to be assertive. It's not preaching to you, it just explains how to become more assertive in your life and some of the... Read more
Published 5 months ago by z. killer
5.0 out of 5 stars Great concise information
I felt like this sort book spared nothing in t the way of good solid information. My son had asked me about a book on this subject and I figured I could use a little more myself. Read more
Published 6 months ago by Phillip Banks Sr.
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Practical Advice
What a wonderful, easy, insightful read! The book is written very succinctly, and is packed with simple and powerful practical advice, ranging from your body language to a... Read more
Published 6 months ago by anna_r
3.0 out of 5 stars needed it to be more powerful
Some chapters were helpful, others not. It's a good reference and good step by step direction. Just needed it to be more powerful.
Published 7 months ago by sue
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