Part One: So Many Signs, So Little Time
Chapter One
Aries (March 21–April 19)
Who They Are
When you have an Aries in your life, you're sure to be excited, challenged, and whisked from one adventure to another. That's because these dynamic creatures are all about living passionately! They love diving headfirst from one pursuit to the next, thrilled by the last one, yet anxious to get on to the next one. Aries are incredibly fast, enthusiastic, and spontaneous—their guts tell them where to go. There is an exuberant trailblazer in every Aries that constantly seeks the new territory, the great challenge, the 'never tried before.' High-spirited and full of bravado, Aries are by far the happiest when they're initiating a new project or embarking on a new course of interest—including a relationship with you!
Life with an Aries is in a constant state of action, renewal, and adventure. They tirelessly pursue ideas and projects that make life interesting and exciting. Same goes for their relationships; never ones to be satisfied with ordinary routines or ideas, Aries will wake you up in the middle of the night to go dancing and take you skydiving for your birthday. So hang on; life with an Aries can be a wild ride!
The essential ingredient for happiness for every Fire Sign, including Aries, is the freedom to explore life's possibilities. Aries absolutely need room to grow and test themselves. They thrive on taking risks that can create magic, a stroke of luck, or a fortunate turn in life. Aries have an aversion to life's being too predictable, safe, and planned out. That lifestyle not only stifles them, it can lead to an unhappy discontent.
Aries' Fire Sign energy gives them a great capacity for leadership. They're imbued with a tremendous urge to initiate new endeavors. And Aries are visionaries—they specialize in forging new territories, trying things they (nor anyone else) have ever done before, and always stirring up the proverbial status quo!
Once a project or endeavor is up and running, or if Aries feel they have learned enough from a situation, they're off—starting another project and proving how it can be done in their own, innovative way. If you catch their vision and want to come along, an Aries will welcome you. They love being the heroic leader that makes life zing!
Understanding Aries comes easiest when you understand that their perspective is primarily personal: they are very aware of their personal wants, needs, and desires. In fact, Aries' life lesson is to be true to themselves. Instead of worrying about what others are doing, or even what they want, Aries feel they should live life the way they want, when they want to do it. And they expect their needs should be met with immediacy. So when trying to engage Aries' attention toward your ideas or requests, package them in a way so that they're somehow about Aries.
Most Aries approach life as a series of personal missions. Whatever their intentions are, they're important. They get a clear vision of what they're after, and they pursue it fearlessly. Whether Aries' mission is winning your heart or choosing the fastest line in the grocery store, their exuberant confidence is rarely distracted with thoughts of failure—they concentrate solely on success!
As Aries themselves will attest—as will anyone who knows one—those born under this sign are incredibly impatient: they want what they want right now! Later means forever to Aries, and they will push and drive to satisfy their insistent needs, wants, and curiosity the moment they erupt. It's hard for Aries to wait to fulfill their desires or to let a plan slowly unfold. But encouraging them to do so might help them avoid some unnecessary mistakes.
One terrific way of understanding Aries is remembering that at heart, each one is a conquering hero. They're thrilled and motivated by the idea of doing battle with and vanquishing anything or anyone standing between them and their goals. Aries sense their lives have an important mission, and they're ready, willing, and eager to realize it. Aries act out the conquering hero theme in their relationships. It shows up right away when they make it their mission to do whatever it takes to win your attention, love, and affection. Make yourself a mission worth exploring!
Aries are fierce competitors, as well. True to their zodiac symbol, the Ram, who goes headfirst to claim its territory, Aries' adrenaline rushes when going head-to-head with any challenge they seek or opponent who gets in their way. They love proving to themselves (and everyone else) that they're gallant heroes who'll come out on top.
What Aries Want in Relationships and How You Can Attract One
Aries love mates whose powers and passions match their own. Aries gravitate toward passionate, involved, challenging, and powerful people. If you can inspire them, thrill them, promote them, teach them, or even infuriate them, Aries are interested. So express yourself in a most courageous, inspired manner. Unabashed confidence is what intrigues Aries most. Acting powerfully with genuine self-respect wins their attention and interest.
Aries desire dynamos; no wimps allowed! Aries want to be with mates who are genuinely real and true to themselves. Let your chutzpah and sass show! Are you powerful? Let Aries see it! Sexy? Bring it on! Smart? How smart? Aries like to think they're in the winner's circle, so show your winning self when you're around them!
Forget about clinging or kowtowing to Aries—they won't respect you if you do. The ironic thing about Aries is that with all their jousting to dominate, they aren't interested in 'yes people' who jump at their every call. That bores them to tears. They want companions who'll stand up to their Arian energies and show them the kind of power their inner hero can trust and rely on. What hero picks a wimp for a sidekick?
Nevertheless, every Aries usually does have a few impressed groupies tagging along with them in their adventures. 'Hey,' Aries tell themselves, 'Maybe they'll learn something from the Master—me!' Aries' best friends are either very secure in their own accomplishments or are dedicated fans to whom Aries can be a heroic role model.
Aries want to be at the top of your list. Aries' simplicity asks only that they are the center of your universe, because after all, they are the center of their own universe. They want to know how special they are to you, if not even your absolute favorite person ever! Prize Aries and shower them with compliments—they'll knock themselves out to live up to your good expectations.
Aries want your devoted attention. Aries are rarely the type of companions who readily accept waiting on the back burner while you do something more important. These feisty Rams will simply not be ignored. Never ones to take 'no' or even 'not now' for an answer, they'll entertain, cajole, and try every angle to call your attention to them. If they can't get your attention by wowing you with bravado, they'll make you deal with their chest-pounding temper. Remember, to an impatient Aries, 'later' means 'forever.' Aries respect that your career and social needs are important, but you must reassure Aries that they're important to you, as well. If you must put them off, let them know how much you value them and anticipate how much fun it will be when you reunite. Then hurry back!
Aries crave constant action and juice in their relationships. In a relationship, Aries want to feel something powerful is being exchanged. If you love an Aries, show it; if you're mad, let them know that, too. Whip up the energy! Cook up activities that surprise Aries, stretch them, and bring out their adventurousness. Aries find what is new to be hopelessly alluring. Present them with new mountains to climb, dragons to slay, and honors to win. Keep their interest sparked by being spontaneous and even outrageous in all you do. Comfortable routines are for other signs.
Aries are exhilarated by 'the chase.' Aries find great romance and thrill in the pursuit of anything. Give them something about you or life that they can work to win at. Remember that it's the idea and the act of conquering that's so exciting for Aries. Once they actually win you over, they could become bored and start looking for another chase. So don't give them the impression they've conquered your will and you'll do whatever they want. After all, the idea of winning—at anything—is intoxicating to Aries.
Aries savor a good competition. Many Aries are thrilled going head-to-head with you to see who's best—at anything. Do they want to win? Oh, yes! But don't just hand success to an Aries. They want to know they've won only if you've played your best. If Aries lose? They'll be back for another round.
Aries crave encouragement for and faith in their abilities. You needn't necessarily be as dynamic or risk-taking as Aries (few people are after all), but they want you to believe in them. Support their inner myth that they are powerful warriors capable of achieving anything they put their minds to. As brazen as Aries act, they nevertheless need and appreciate loads of reassurance. Tell them what's right about their plans, good about their behavior, and smart about their ideas. The amazing thing about an Aries is they do pull off the most amazing stunts, so go ahead and bank on their success!
Aries like gentleness. With their warrior natures, Aries welcome the chance to relax around others, knowing they won't be cut down should they take off their armor. Aries actually glow when they're wooed and admired. As a show of affection, Rams might nuzzle foreheads with you, using their horns for affection, not for fighting. They melt when they're appreciated and acknowledged, and become eager to show what more they can do for their beloved.
What Aries Offer ...
