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Attachments: Why You Love, Feel, and Act the Way You Do

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My fiancee and I have read a lot of books about relationships. Most of them cover the same old stuff--mostly superficial and entertaining at best. This book is unlike any other. We've really discovered both how and why we relate the way we do. This book is a journey into your heart and soul. It brings spirituality alive, showing how God is the 'ultimate attachment figure.' It's important to note that even though Christian spirituality is a central theme in this book, its coverage of attachment and its analysis of how we learn to love, stands alone. You can get a wealth of powerful information from this book even if you aren't religious. The book covers the different styles of attachment and how they affect the way you love others. These styles begin in early childhood and influence us throughout life. The authors highlight a crucial point: How we handle our feelings mirrors how we handle our reltionships. If you keep your feelings at a distance, you probably do the same with close relationships. If your feelings are chaotic, most likely, your relationships are too. The chapters on understand and healing emotional storms and on healing wounded attachment bonds have literally transformed the way I relate to those I love the most. This is a must read book for those serious about love and relationships.

This book is well written. It is an excellent summarization of prior attachment work (Bowlby, etc.). In addition, this book offers some pretty practical strategies for attending to your particular attachment style. This is a useful tool for anyone (counseling professionals and not)...especially for those who are interested in enhancing their personal relationships.

You learned about love when you were a baby. The bad news is that you probably learned some painful lessons. The good news is, there is hope for you to learn something closer to the truth.

Attachment research (summarized in this book) shows that babies' interactions with their mothers (and fathers, although more research is needed in this area) during infancy teach them that either they are worthy of love and will receive it... or they're not and they won't. This simple lesson impacts the rest of these babies' lives in a million subtle ways they probably do not even realize.

If you see self-defeating patterns (for example, self-bashing, other-bashing, caring remarks replaced by aggressive ones) in your love-seeking or someone else's love-seeking, but you have no idea why, this book may explain to you the old scripts that you're reading from. It will give you answers for the problems, too.

The second half of the book talks about how to cultivate a relationship with God that can teach you how to love and be loved without all the childhood baggage. The path for healing takes time but IS possible.

I needed to hear that message. How about you?

This book is dead on! You will find yourself and others you love in the pages of this book. You will discover why you relate to people the way you do and how to change those patterns.

"Attachments" is a sensitively written and encouraging book. I also found it somewhat painful as I saw myself or those I care about in the chapters. To get the most of the material you need to be open and willing to take steps of change.

This book would be especially good as small group material or read with a partner.

As a therapist I run into people with attachment problems all the time. This book can help professionals and other interested people learn how and why the feel, or don't feel, as they do. Dr. Clinton is an excellent writer and makes the subject interesting and useful for both professionals and non-professionals alike. An excellent and not difficult read.

Attachments is a thoughtful and insightful book that illustrates that attachment theory is a central theme in Christianity. Tim Clinton shows us, in a powerful way how modern psychiatry through attachment theory is rooted in biblical truths. A good read for anyone interested in the link between attachment theory and Christianity.

This is an awesome book that helps us understand why we tick the way we do. It is also a great read for parents to help them know what children need so they will grow up with a healthy knowledge of who they are. I highly recommend this book.

I couldn't speak more highly of this book. It has given me insight into myself and how and why I think, act, and feel the way I do, and has shown me a practical, Godly way to deal with past hurt. I have read many Christian books on inner healing and this is by far the most practical and helpful.

If you really want to see yourself in the REAL light, this is a must read. I saw things in my life as well as the relationships around me. It gave me a clear understanding of why I act and do the things I do as well as people around me. In the past 2 years I have had some major things happen in my family and relationship. I feel this book has helped me in seeing the real picture in front of me and has helped in my decision making for the better.

Warning! You will see yourself in a different light! If you truly want a change and head in a new better direction, this is a great start.