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5.0 out of 5 stars
If you don't like this, you probably don't get it., May 19, 2004
By A Customer
I've read a few negative reviews from customers here on Amazon complaining that Ms. Glass never tells you how to actually attract terrific people. I think the problem is that Lillian's solution is so simple that they miss the point. The fact that they took the time to trash someone's book should suggest that they might need to read it again.
It's full of great advice that should be "common sense" but as we all know it is not that common. She didn't strike me as snobby either. Its frankly one of the audio books that I am "suggesting" that all my employees listen to with the statement: "If I thought you needed this, I would not have hired you, but listen to it anyway." I think books like this are far more valuable than any sexual harassment seminar.
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11 of 11 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Excellent Book, If You're Ready for It, September 14, 2007
This review is from: Attracting Terrific People: How To Find - And Keep - The People Who Bring Your Life Joy (Paperback)
This book is unrelentingly positive in outlook, which apparently annoys some of its previous reviewers. Hey, you can't please everyone, and why would you try? That's one of the messages in this book.
People who are looking for a 1-2-3 procedure for meeting 'terrific people' -- as in, "First, say this. Then, look for that. Then add up the score," etc., will definitely be disappointed. It offers a more advanced strategy than that, despite its somewhat 'Hollywood' appearance.
The book is particularly instructive for 'people pleasers' (aka, co-dependents) who have had the very bad habit of selecting friends based on whether they could help the friends, or on whether they could prove themselves worthy by trying to please them. The author, in a very personal style, draws a clear distinction between selecting people for your life because you want to help them, and selecting people for your life because they are great people who can be mutually supportive, great friends, companions, business associates, and more.
Lillian Glass gives a very clear, well written list of multiple types of 'terrific people' and how you can identify them -- something many people need to learn how to recognize. And she gives some very sound advice about what to do when people you thought were 'terrific' turn out not to be.
I would only give this book four stars due to its light presentation and easy reading, but the soundness of its advice, from which I've learned one or two valuable lessons, merits five. I read it several years ago, and it has survived several prunings of my library, with good reason.
If you're ready to give up selecting toxic people and being victimized, by all means buy this book! If you're cynically out to prove that you already know everything and require someone to provide you with step-by-step, manipulative instructions for reeling in the kind of people you desire, look somewhere else.
A good companion book is Glass's "Toxic People." Both are well worth reading and remembering.
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