Wild Attraction is the most original work on the subject of relationship that exists. There is nothing else out there like it, in my experience. I can't find another book out there that speaks so thoroughly to the many hidden subtleties (the "Essence of Attraction") that apparently occur on a moment-by-moment basis if you're single and trying to attract a healthy partner, or if you're already in a mated pair and trying to keep it spiced up.
My favorite section is Part 2, "Wrapped in the Wings of Love" where the authors declare that there is no naturally existing battle of the sexes; we weren't born fearing and denigrating each other, nor is one sex "less than" the other. I love the way this book names this so clearly and then details out what we can personally do about it. I have always believed that we're designed to complement each other but never understood, until I read Wild Attraction, what the specific underlying differences were between men and women. The Richards describe these differences in a warm loving, absolutely non-judgmental way and you can tell that both men and women are equally revered by them.
One of the things I learned was how woman can choose to speak and act towards men in the language that most nourishes males, and how men can choose to speak and act towards us in a way that truly cherishes who we really are. This book, in particular, I feel, does a beautiful job of exalting the feminine. I've always felt lucky to be born a woman because of all the choices I have, and after hearing how this book describes women, I am now proud to be a woman.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who is intelligent and serious about making important relationship choices in their life.
As a Professor of Psychology, I often find myself teaching topics in interpersonal relationships, gender differences, and expectations for men and women in our society. "Wild Attraction" offers a model that not only enhances these topics from a psychological perspective, but also delves deeper into the reasons for how men and women typically approach these issues, why they are such burning issues in our society and how we can effectively change our patterns toward more positive relationships.
Female development focuses on interdependence where women struggle to combine relationships and accomplishments. Women are more likely than men to have to make either/or choices about family v. career. Also, a woman may fear her own sexuality or learn that it is inappropriate to express herself this way and consequently try to contain her sexuality. This is called "the woman in a bottle" where the female exudes sexuality but is not available for relationship. Her femininity can be seen in the bottle, from a distance, but it is off limits and unavailable for any man who is interested in her.
Comparing sexuality to a wild force that is present throughout nature, "Wild Attraction" provides us with an entirely new model of interpersonal relationships. Some may say that it is not a new model at all, but one that has been long forgotten by our ancestors and is actually a natural model for relationship that has been replaced by an unnatural and ultimately dysfunctional method of relating to the other gender.
For example, many women in today's society have experienced men who are incapable of taking effective action and so the female takes control of the relationship and the man. This hobbles the man and takes away the thing he is designed for: taking action.Read more ›
This is an incredible book that looks at the male/female relationship from the energetic standpoint. It is filled with profound statements that take your breath away and give you insight into your own past relationships. Everyone should read this book---it would save so many marriages! I love the part about how extraordinary relationships create extraordinary cultures and extraordinary people. It reminds us that when we transform ourselves our world transforms too. I feel like I have learned so much about men and women, and I have been a family counselor for 14 years. My professional training didn't include anything like this. This is workable, doable, and enjoyable and so healing. It makes life an exciting adventure again!
This is one of those books that once read changes how you look at life, in this case, how you look at the dynamics between men and women. Wild Attraction starts off with the premise that like all other animals on the planet, humans also have hard wired mating rituals. Wild Attraction explains how these work.
Then Wild Attraction takes it to another level and shows us how all this works on the energetic level as well. Energetics can be defined as our other body, the energy field body surrounding our physical body. This part of the book is fascinating and the book gives little lessons here and there to help you wrap your mind around such a concept. And if that is too much of a stretch for you, the other information in the book is still priceless.
Part of their message, extremely simplified is that a woman is fed by "attention" from her man, and that a man needs to hear "Good Job" from his woman. The woman in turn is the vessel of aesthetics and sexuality but the man has to provide a "safe space" for her to do this in.
Another critically useful piece of information from the book is how men and women speak to each other. Women should be spoken to in generalized non-YOU wording which they will automatically internalize. If you tell a man something in a generality, he will never understand you were applying this to him. So for a man you have to say it couched in YOU words. But YOU words are too intense for the female energy.
The final message in the book is that some people are more capable of truly extraordinary relationships than others. Wild Attraction has tips on how recognize who these people are, and also, how you can become one yourself if you could use some polishing.Read more ›