- Paperback: 338 pages
- Publisher: Chelsion Press (2009)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0976440121
- ISBN-13: 978-0976440123
- Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 6 x 1.1 inches
- Shipping Weight: 1 pounds
- Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars See all reviews (25 customer reviews)
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,233,286 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Wild Attraction, a Ruthlessly Practical Guide to Extraordinary Relationship Paperback – 2009
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My favorite section is Part 2, "Wrapped in the Wings of Love" where the authors declare that there is no naturally existing battle of the sexes; we weren't born fearing and denigrating each other, nor is one sex "less than" the other. I love the way this book names this so clearly and then details out what we can personally do about it. I have always believed that we're designed to complement each other but never understood, until I read Wild Attraction, what the specific underlying differences were between men and women. The Richards describe these differences in a warm loving, absolutely non-judgmental way and you can tell that both men and women are equally revered by them.
One of the things I learned was how woman can choose to speak and act towards men in the language that most nourishes males, and how men can choose to speak and act towards us in a way that truly cherishes who we really are. This book, in particular, I feel, does a beautiful job of exalting the feminine. I've always felt lucky to be born a woman because of all the choices I have, and after hearing how this book describes women, I am now proud to be a woman.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who is intelligent and serious about making important relationship choices in their life.
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What I liked was Paul teaching personal responsibility and awareness; you get out what you put into a relationship. I also enjoyed his more ethical approach. He is in abiding presence (awakened), something I can plainly know from his audio course I'm taking. I don't enjoy rational authors so this was a big plus for me.
What I didn't like about the book was that a good portion was written in an abstract way, so much so that I didn't know what he was talking about and believe he didn't either! Also, I don't think he was ever exposed to main stream spirituality so he uses a completely different vocabulary that you'll have to translate on the fly. Sometimes he pushes his personal experience as universal truth which it isn't. For example he says all guys like to hear "good job"; I never need another person's approval. He would also do well to have more complex models of understanding; his overly simple models cause more damage than good. Overall, he failed to explain himself in a way that people could understand and integrate his points.
Female development focuses on interdependence where women struggle to combine relationships and accomplishments. Women are more likely than men to have to make either/or choices about family v. career. Also, a woman may fear her own sexuality or learn that it is inappropriate to express herself this way and consequently try to contain her sexuality. This is called "the woman in a bottle" where the female exudes sexuality but is not available for relationship. Her femininity can be seen in the bottle, from a distance, but it is off limits and unavailable for any man who is interested in her.
Comparing sexuality to a wild force that is present throughout nature, "Wild Attraction" provides us with an entirely new model of interpersonal relationships. Some may say that it is not a new model at all, but one that has been long forgotten by our ancestors and is actually a natural model for relationship that has been replaced by an unnatural and ultimately dysfunctional method of relating to the other gender.
For example, many women in today's society have experienced men who are incapable of taking effective action and so the female takes control of the relationship and the man. This hobbles the man and takes away the thing he is designed for: taking action.Read more ›
Then Wild Attraction takes it to another level and shows us how all this works on the energetic level as well. Energetics can be defined as our other body, the energy field body surrounding our physical body. This part of the book is fascinating and the book gives little lessons here and there to help you wrap your mind around such a concept. And if that is too much of a stretch for you, the other information in the book is still priceless.
Part of their message, extremely simplified is that a woman is fed by "attention" from her man, and that a man needs to hear "Good Job" from his woman. The woman in turn is the vessel of aesthetics and sexuality but the man has to provide a "safe space" for her to do this in.
Another critically useful piece of information from the book is how men and women speak to each other. Women should be spoken to in generalized non-YOU wording which they will automatically internalize. If you tell a man something in a generality, he will never understand you were applying this to him. So for a man you have to say it couched in YOU words. But YOU words are too intense for the female energy.
The final message in the book is that some people are more capable of truly extraordinary relationships than others. Wild Attraction has tips on how recognize who these people are, and also, how you can become one yourself if you could use some polishing.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
brilliant and creative view of romance and sexuality and deep relationshipPublished 21 days ago by Lorraine Tucker
I'm as "new agey" as they come, but this book literally made no sense. It's just plain weird. I wish I could have that $9.99 back.Published 9 months ago by Gina
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This book was inspirational for a better relationship. But the average reader is not a seer and can not see or feel the energy they speak of. Read morePublished on February 6, 2013 by K. Krupp
This is an incredible book that looks at the male/female relationship from the energetic standpoint. Read morePublished on October 15, 2009 by Jeanne M. Troge