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The Aware Baby Paperback – May 1, 2001
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-Thomas R. Verny, M.D., Psychiatrist and author of The Secret Life of the Unborn Child
"The exquisite awareness of babies celebrated in this book is revolutionary and refreshing. Soundly based on empirical research and great good sense, this book will doubly bless both the parents and their very fortunate infants."
-David B. Chamberlain, Ph.D., Author of The Mind of Your Newborn Baby
"The Aware Baby is an extremely useful (perhaps essential) guidebook for parents... I particularly appreciate the depth at which Dr. Solter deals with sleep, feeding, and behavioral difficulties, and the methods that she advocates for dealing with crying (probably the most misunderstood aspect of parenting). Her chapters on playing with babies and on approaches to bring about secure attachment and bonding are exceptional. This book should be mandatory reading for all parents and for professionals who deal with babies and children."
-William R. Emerson, Ph.D., Pioneer of infant therapy
Dr. Aletha Solter... gives us the key to infant, and later adult, mental health. It is my belief that every prospective parent on earth should read her book, The Aware Baby."
-Paul Vereshack, M.D., Psychiatrist and author of The Psychotherapy of The Deepest Self
The Aware Baby presents novice parents with a complete understanding of their baby's emotional needs from conception to two-and-a-half years of age. If you are expecting a baby, or are the brand new parents of one, then begin your parental responsibilities with a thorough and thoughtful reading of Aletha Solter's The Aware Baby.
-Midwest Book Review
About the Author
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When Aletha's first child was born in 1977 (following a traumatic birth) she did not find any parenting books that advocated attachment-style parenting and non-punitive discipline while taking into account the impact of stress and trauma on children's development.
The first book she wrote, The Aware Baby (revised in 2001), is the one that she would have found helpful as a new mother. The Aware Baby has been translated into eleven languages and sold over 150,000 copies worldwide. Her four other books have also been translated into many languages.
Aletha has led workshops for parents and professionals in 16 countries and is recognized internationally as an expert on attachment, trauma, and non-punitive discipline. She has appeared on TV in the U.S., Europe, South Africa, and Asia. She lives in Southern California and is the mother of two grown children. She is also a proud grandmother.
For more information about Aletha's work and the Aware Parenting approach, please visit the Aware Parenting Institute website at www.awareparenting.com. You can also find us on Facebook.
Top Customer Reviews
Her section on discipline is really illuminating. She believes that it is impossible for a baby to "misbehave." By extension, there is no reason to punish or threaten a baby for his/her actions. She also has an interesting discourse on the problem with praise. Solter promotes "democratic discipline" as opposed to authoritarian or permissive parenting. Democratic discipline involves meeting problem behaviors with a response that honors the needs of all involved. She includes several real-world examples to illustrate this method. She also encourages natural consequences wherever possible and includes an interesting discussion about why they are so much more useful than parent-created ones.
Parents misguidedly think that the crying itself is the problem. For example, if a child falls down, he is crying because of the hurt (or surprise) of the fall. Getting him to stop crying is not stopping the pain! Dr. Solter's work taught me how to be with my crying child in a respectful, loving, gentle way.
This book is NOT about leaving your child to cry!!! It is not a "cry it out" approach. It is about sensitively filling your child's needs and being present with her in her hour of need.
I strongly recommend it.
I had the notion that all babies are born perfect, and it is the parents' job to insure that nothing in their childrearing changes that. That notion coupled with following the advice and guidance of Aletha Solter in "The Aware Baby" are the recipe for the best children you can imagine. Most people, myself included, suffered some form of abuse as children from parents who knew no better. Many of us spend years in therapy trying to heal those wounds. "The Aware Baby" will help you raise your children so all of their "wounds" are healed as they occur. You are shown how to respect your childrens feelings and allow them to experience them fully. This way nothing gets buried inside waiting to trip them up later in life.
To many people this approach to parenting will seem wonderful but difficult: you must give your child what you may never have gotten. The wonderful thing about this is that in the process you will reap your own rewards of your beautiful parenting.
Actually, the best testimony for this book came from my oldest son who recently said, "Mama, when I have kids will you raise them for me?Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Thank you for helping me discover myself as a mother. I'm now just reading this as my first child is almost 5 months. Read morePublished 9 days ago by Kristen McShane
This book changed my relationship with normal child/baby tears and tantrums. My son was an easy baby, never cried except for obvious reasons that I could address. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Kelly Custer
gave me confidence as a parent to let my child cry - it encourages you to just hold them while they cry and sometimes they need to discharge emotion.Published 2 months ago by Susan D
I wish every new parent could read this. It was my bible for child-rearing. Dr. Solter's approach is as straight-forward and compassionate as could be. Read morePublished 5 months ago by Catherine B.
In my opinion this is the absolute child raising book for infants and toddlers. Solter's approach is really sensitive and caring for both the baby and the parents/caregivers. Read morePublished 10 months ago by Olga Paraskeva
Bought this as a gift for new parents—over the years I've given away dozens. As a communication-skills coach, with a B.A. and an M.A. Read morePublished 10 months ago by Kerrith H. King
This book is a little repetitive, but it does prepare you psychologically to face the moments when your child cries and you don't know what to do. Read morePublished 20 months ago by SDY
The principles in this book are revolutionary. I sincerely believe that if every parent adopted the practices in this book, society would be a much different place.Published 21 months ago by Richard Lyons
This book is helping us so much with our concepts for parenting. Solter has very practical and loving guidance for those who want to raise their children in a way that helps them... Read morePublished 22 months ago by Griffin Browne