The word is then not than. So many silly spell check errors such as adn, completely irresponsible. This list is more about sex than anything else. Asking the Sir to pick out a collar then the submissive buying it ...... REALLY !?!? A collar isn't some little play thing. It's obvious from this goofy list that these people have no clue what true submission is or how a Dominant/submissive relationship works. A submissive shouldn't have to tell the Dominant that the are doing things to better themselves, the Dominant notices. Celebrate important milestones, okay but really everyday or week the things improving brings joy and that joy can be a celebration in itself. Topping from the bottom or lazy Dominant? You be the judge.