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Baby Boomer Bachelorette (Pb)

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If you've still got a lot of living you want to do then please read Baby Boomer Bachelorette. I did and loved it.

Patsy Stagner, the author (and my bachelorette hero), is darn mad at the way society scans our chronological bar code, labels us, and puts us on the shelf with an expiration date attached.

After reading her book I no longer feel I'm hurdleing head long down a lonely road toward a DEAD END sign.

Patsy reminds us of the importance of having a purpose and a dream, and gives us the tools to get there.

Single baby-boomers re-entering the world of over-forty dating will find Patsy Stagner's Baby Boom Bachelorette a unique guide charting the different world of midlife dating. From assessing 'baggage' and whom to date to locating bachelors and getting noticed, Stagner provides many candid tips based on practical real-world experience.

I'm not usually big on self-help books, but I really enjoyed reading this one. The author is opinionated and funny-- and very generous about sharing her own experiences. There's a lot of good advice here on quite a variety of subtopics. The part about navigating the internet dating scene should be required reading for all denizens of Nerve personals and Match.com. It's also just a bracing, healthy take on life in ones 40s and beyond.

I had just finished getting a humorous blog update from the Baby Boomer Bachelor, also available on Amazon as a Kindle download, and thought I would see what the Baby Boomer Bachelorette had to offer. Most interesting reading! My dating experiences more align with some of the weirdness of the bachelor's experiences, which goes to show you how the dating scene is unique at any age. I recommend Patsy's book as a good read of the boomer dating scene from a woman's perspective. If you need a man's perspective, the baby boomer bachelor is a good read as well. I would love to see Patsy and Eric hook up. That would create some fun fireworks!!

This book starts out with an interesting subtitle--"How to Have Sex at Least Once More Before You Die." Pretty funny, considering it's targeting baby boomers. The author definitely has a sense of humor, further confirmed in the author profile. She states that she "plans to date until she's 100, or until there are no men left on earth who will go out with her." I like her attitude! The Table of Contents is detailed and comprehensive, and the content starts with a true, amusing short story about the author's dating experiences. I knew I was going to like this book from the beginning, because I was captivated immediately by the humor. The author believes that life is just beginning at 40 or 50, not ending, as many people think. She gives us baby boomers a blue print to make the second half of our lives more exciting and fulfilling than the first. She tells us to ask ourselves "What Would It Take to Make Me Happy?" She gives five answers to this question then uses the balance of the book to show the reader how to accomplish each and every one. She not only wants us to look good, she wants us to feel good. That begins by taking responsibility for our own health. One fact she pointed out, that I did not know, was that older women actually choose not to remarry. I had always thought it was because there were a scarcity of men, but apparently it's a personal choice.

Baby boomers are encouraged to exercise regularly, particularly lifting weights to benefit bones and joints, and not to dress like grandmas ("No Blue Bubbles"). We'll know when we are the right size when we feel good about how we look. She bursts the myth that women should date men their own age or older. The author wants us to date men who are ten years younger than us. Sounds good to me! She reminds us that everybody who has lived to be our age carries some baggage, so people in personal ads who say they don't are either lying or self-delusional. My favorite story in the book was the section where the author told about her friend who met her boyfriend over a corpse. They were both taking the same cadaver class where people pay to dissect a body. Talk about the ultimate "cute meet"! She tells us how to be safe when we begin to meet online dates, which is very important, and a section that should be read and followed carefully. Detailed information about writing profiles and responses to other's profiles make up a good part of the book. When we finally meet them for the first time, she calls it a "Hit and Run," because we aren't going to linger long. Next comes dating advice and a great section on middle-age sex, which can be quite different from youth-oriented sex advice. Finally, she discusses the advantages and disadvantages of marriage for the baby boomer.

The book is written within the framework of a TV production, inspired by the television show "The Bachelorette," in which the reader becomes the star, and takes our star through until the end of the series. She says that we all know the series is over when the couple get together. This book is light-hearted and serious, funny and informative, just the thing for the baby boomer who is "reentering the scary world of over-forty dating." The only drawback I can find is that it is somewhat repetitive of other online dating books. Otherwise, I would highly recommend it, whether you are a male or a female baby boomer.

This book was highly disappointing. It did not tell me anything I did not already know. The author's perspective was somewhat annoying; like getting advice from a frenemy. If you are a beauty school drop-out and have been living in a cave for the last twenty years, go ahead and buy it.

"What You Learn. That it's never too late to have a happy dating (or sex) life - but this guide addresses much more, urging those in the post-40 set to alter their perspectives on getting older and embrace the process with humor and heart. With solid advice on getting back in the dating game (and even playing it better than before), as well as useful tips for looking your best and cultivating a positive attitude."

-- Alexa Joy Sherman, "Ages of Enlightenment," SHAPE May 2005

A tell it like it is fun read full of wit and wisdom.