As a Board Certified Lactation Consultant, I cannot recommend this book at all. Babies are human being, not animals to be "trained."
The fact that the author couldn't find the time to bother to raise her own children leads me to beleive that she really does not care about children, and is more interested in selling books, being a "nanny to the stars" than loving babies.
Her information on breastfeeding was APPAULING. It is at least 30 years outdated, and you can get better info from formula companies (which I wouldn't suggest either)
If you want a good book on Infant care, The Baby Book, by Sears and Sears is by FAR the best. The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding by La Leche League and/or So That's What They're For by Janet Tomaro are the best for breastfeeding. And I feel strongly that any and ALL parents who like Tracey Hogg NEED to read "Attachment Parenting" by Katie Allison Granju.
There is NOTHING "EASY" about taking care of babies. Anyone who thinks there is, will make mistakes, and perpertrate neglect, which will have long lasting effects on the infant, and the mother infant bond.
One more thing. EVERY Lactation client I have ever had (I've been in the business for nearly 20 years) who took this book to heart FAILED at breastfeeding, and wondered why.
My advice for any parent who really wants to LOVE their baby, leave things like this book, Ezzo, Ferber, and the Pearls in the trash, and read some books that although may be MORE WORK than "EASY" will be the best way to parent a baby.
Babies need love and flexibility, not quick fixes, which will only backfire on you.
Over at www.thebabywhisperer.com forums there are a lot of happy, successful, breastfeeding mothers. Her techniques have helped many, many parents-- there are over 16,000 parents registered at the web site. My ds slept through the night (10-12 hours) by 5 months old and was breastfed exclusively (never took one bottle), and we continued with breastfeeding through the first year.
You're right, there isn't anything EASY about taking care of babies, but routine makes it a lot easier. EASY is a lot of work...but it makes things easier in the long run. Babywhispering is not a quick fix...it is about learning to understand your baby and what your baby really needs rather than stuffing the breast or bottle in it's face or swinging it in a sling every time it starts to cry.
Tracy's methods are *about* the baby...learning to understand the baby and making sure the babies needs are met so mom can meet her own needs.
I've seen waay too many strung out AP parents to want to be one. And, Babywhispering is NOT anything like Ezzo, Ferber, or the Pearls. One more thing...there isn't a "best" way to parent a baby. All parents are different and so are all babies. People from all camps are turning out happy, healthy, well-adjusted children.
hi M. Jozwiak, have you read hoggs new book? all of her information workes wonders for my baby. i think its all pretty up to date. all of her information is backed by scientific proof. she teaches that a baby needs guidence on how to sleep, eat and behave properly because they havent done it before and dont know how. i wouldt quite say that she trains them though. but she does love her babies and has raised two of her own successfully. i think she is a wonderfull mom. hogg actually falls in the middle of dr.sears and ferbers methods. she believes it is unrealistic to do the attatchment parenting because a child learnes that they cannot be without a parent. in fact, scientists agree that a child needs to be independant which is different from neglect. the ferber method is neglectfull i think. but hoggs method worked wonders for me and thousands of other people around the globe. but youre right, though, raising a baby isnt necessarily easy.one of the chapters in her latest book is actually called E.A.S.Y. ISNT NECESSARILY EASY. one thing to keep in mind though is that everyone raises there baby differently. ive read all three of her books that were released in the united states and all of them are great! it doesnt sound to me like you have thouroughly read her books though, because she is very against quick fixes. she even has a website full of wonderful moms who can testify their faith in her work. her books were a gift from god in our home, and i would recommend them to everyone out there!
My husband and I bought this book and found it useless. The SSHHH/Pat method did nothing but further our exhaustion and frustration and stress out our poor baby. I would strongly recommend staying as fart away from this book as possible!!
Hogg claims to be an LC, yet I cannot find any information suggesting that she ever took the test to become an IBCLC. Much of her breastfeeding advice runs counter to research and what is recommended by the AAP and UNICEF and WHO. One wonders why she is recommending that one listen and respond to the baby's needs, except for hunger. That just makes _no_ sense.
I agree with you. I started out with the Baby Book but a friend I trusted that just had a baby gave me the Baby Whisperer. Even though I was breastfeeding, I followed the Whisperer's advice of only nursing every 3 hours. As a first time mom, I didn't even realize my baby was hungry and not getting enough milk as I was "scheduling" feeding. I warn everyone I know against this book now. I regret that I followed her advice.
Also, this is one of those books for parents that don't want their lives to change after having kids. I wanted a child, and want my child with me all the time. Her perspective seems to be that babies are an inconvenience and should be left alone in their cribs. Stay away from this book
I'm sure AP babies and children are much more secure and happy than any baby left alone in their crib while mom is in front of the mirror admiring her non-nursing breasts while mixing formula in a bottle.
This is an extremely insensitive post. I had my daughter 6 weeks early and she could not latch until she was gestationally 38 weeks. My milk supply also didn't come in strong b/c I was so early. The only advice i could ever find on a Le Leche League site or forum was to just keep pumping away - up to 12 TIMES A DAY! Do you know what that does to you mentally, not to mention physically? My nipples were literally raw from trying so hard. Had it not been for the support I got from Tracy's book about trusting yourself, the "myth of nipple confusion" and not going too far to either the AP side or Ferber side of the spectrum, I'd have lost my mind.
My child eventually was able to breastfeed and take a bottle from her dad and we supplemented her breast milk with formula too to make sure she gained weight - all of which would probably be deemed irresponsible from some that are blessed with the ability to naturally breastfeed from day one.
I am extremely glad that I bought Tracy's book and recommend it to friends frequently. More than anything, it helped me find my own middle of the road, helped my daughter gain weight, thrive and sleep through the night during a very stressful time.
As the co-author of this book, and one who watched Tracy Hogg care for babies, I find it hard to believe that this "board certified lactation consultant" actually read the book. First of all, the entire thrust of the book is about tuning into YOUR baby. Tracy didn't believe in cookie-cutter models. I can't help suspect that this reader is angered because Tracy suggested other forms of infant feeding for women who can't, or didn't want to, breastfeed. The best way for a parent to ättach"to his or her baby is to have a relationship with the child, get to know him/her--it doesn't require co-sleeping, which can be a disaster for some families. There is no BEST way to parent -- the only "best" practice to sharpen your awareness, to differentiate yourself from your baby so that you see him/her clearly. And nowhere in the book is it implied that parent "easy." In fact, in several places we say it's the hardest job you'll ever do. EASY is an acronym--it's not content. It's meant as a mnemonic device that can help a busy parent keep track of a daily routine. It saddens me to see how a personal agenda--i.e, all babies must be breastfed, all babies should sleep in parents'bed--can prejudice a person against a clear reading of a book that has nothing but compassion for moms and understanding for infants.
Finally, as for the many parents who came to the writer because they'd "failed"at breastfeeding, I could say the same about the clients who came to Tracy after reading Sears. The fact is, both Tracy and the writer are specialists to whom parents turn AFTER they are in trouble! That the writer labeled it a failure speaks volumes about the tyranny of some breast feeding advocates. In "Secrets" we advocate breast feeding, too, but not at the expense of a mother's health or sanity! Bottle feeding moms are not "failures." Their reasons are varied, but we need to allow them the right to make their own choices.
Melinda Blau Co-author of all the Baby Whisperer books
While there is no "best" way to parent, there *IS* a best way to feed an infant. There is also a Biological Norm in parenting...which is to have the baby in arms or worn by a close family member (bio norm is mom, sib, or extended family member), all the time, and to have the baby breastfed. Anything else is an attempt by modern society to overcome biology and normal infant needs. Research shows different brain patterns in infants when in arms and when left alone, as well as when fed a bottle and breastfed. The brain patterns for bottlefeeding and when left alone indicate stress.
Parents get to decide what they will do for their babies. I'm glad that what I chose for mine have been shown by research to allow the greatest brain development, as well as have been shown *by research* to have the most independent older kids. It's *normal* for an infant to need to be held constantly. Babies who get that have been shown to be more independent 6 year olds than kids who had not been held as much as infants.
I have yet to find a scrap of research showing that leaving your baby alone is safe. The research typically shows lower stress and more brain growth when an infant is held and bottle fed. Pretty simple.