Back from Betrayal: Recovering from His Affairs [Mass Market Paperback]

Jennifer Schneider M.D. (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 13, 1990

A ground-breaking book that shares startling revelations that can help you break the pattern of betrayal. Jennifer P. Scneider, M.D., reveals to readers that your husband or lover uses his affairs as compulsively as an alcoholic uses alcohol, and that you may be codependent without knowing it. Inspired by personal and professional experience, Dr. Schneider examines codependency as it relates to addiction and addresses the anquish and helplessness that you feel. Dr. Schneider also explains how Twelve Step recovery programs can work for you, and she provides straightforward guidance to how to find such a group and how to choose a counselor.
"Offers insight into the sex addict, firm recognition that it is a complusive disorder, and the comfort and understanding that they (the wives and girlfriends) are not alone, and not to be shamed or blamed."
Melody Beattie
Author of CODEPENDENT NO MORE

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A ground-breaking book that shares startling revelations that can help you break the pattern of betrayal. Jennifer P. Scneider, M.D., reveals to readers that your husband or lover uses his affairs as compulsively as an alcoholic uses alcohol, and that you may be codependent without knowing it. Inspired by personal and professional experience, Dr. Schneider examines codependency as it relates to addiction and addresses the anquish and helplessness that you feel. Dr. Schneider also explains how Twelve Step recovery programs can work for you, and she provides straightforward guidance to how to find such a group and how to choose a counselor.
"Offers insight into the sex addict, firm recognition that it is a complusive disorder, and the comfort and understanding that they (the wives and girlfriends) are not alone, and not to be shamed or blamed."
Melody Beattie
Author of CODEPENDENT NO MORE

Product Details

• Mass Market Paperback: 330 pages
• Publisher: Ballantine Books (June 13, 1990)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0345367863
• ISBN-13: 978-0345367860
• Product Dimensions: 6.7 x 4.2 x 1.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #446,643 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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22 of 23 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Mud boots, June 27, 2000

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This review is from: Back from Betrayal: Recovering from His Affairs (Mass Market Paperback)

This book is about addiction, coaddiction, enabling, and recovery through A.A. principles.

It is a great work even if addiction is not at the core of your problems with dishonesty and adultery.

The author herself is married to a recovered sex addict. She writes from personal experience but also has numerous examples given by others collected from her profession as a doctor. It is geared mostly toward women (for a reason). The honesty in this book is heart rending.

She supports recovery and saving a marriage, but not at the expense of sanity.

She states that even when there is no addiction, affairs are harmful. She clearly shows the underbelly of adultery and many of the sorry root causes.

An eye opener, when you realize why you choose what you do. If it's not a pretty picture, this book can guide you out of the mud.

13 of 14 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars What a light in my life of darkness, December 20, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Back from Betrayal: Recovering from His Affairs (Mass Market Paperback)

This book has been so inspirational to me. I am having a terrible time right now and this book shows me there is hope for ME - if not for my marriage. In a time like this, hope is all I have and she gives concrete evidence that you can feel better as well as great suggestions to take to get there.

9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars A very thorough treatise on the subject of sex addiction, April 14, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Back from Betrayal: Recovering from His Affairs (Mass Market Paperback)

The title of this book, "Back From Betrayal: A Ground Breaking Guide to Recovery For Women Involved With Sex-Addicted Men", may fool you into believing this book is focused solely on recovery for the co-sex addict.

It's not.

I waded through a lot of explanations about what sex addiction is and isn't, and what sex addicted men (or women, although the majority of sex addicts are men) think and feel, as well as what leads them to addiction. While this information IS helpful to the co-addict, it was given almost equal time as was the topic of the co-addict and her recovery process.

I think this book would have been MORE helpful if it had given more time to the issue of codependency, and women involved in relationships with sex addicts.

With that aside, the book is well-written and thorough. You might want to skim the chapters about sex addicts and society and get to the real meat of the issue: co-sex addiction and, especially, recovery.