If, as a child, you were abused or neglected by someone you loved and trusted, it's likely you blamed yourself. To survive as an abused child, you struggled to forget the pain. But this tactic became a life-destroying force. It deadened your ability to feel, to be aware, to remember and, later, reemerged as unresolved rage, perhaps misdirected at your own children. You can halt that cycle and reclaim the truth about the abuse with this book. Miller's conviction--that it's only through feeling loved and cherished that cruelty can be recognized--provides a starting point for healing.
In her strongest book yet advocating children's rights, Miller ( The Drama of the Gifted Child, The Untouched Key ) charges that psychoanalysis, a field in which she has worked for more than 20 years, perpetuates child abuse because its practitioners consistently deny the wrongs parents commit against their children. Her message is that both psychoanalysts and parents often fail to see abuse for what it is because they fail to comprehend their own childhood traumas. To illustrate her point, Miller draws from stories of child beatings, sexual abuse, and incest, frequently rationalized as forms of discipline and "necessary" sexual initiation. She also analyzes literary works (O'Neill, Kafka, Arthur Miller) that ultimately play down child abuse in the interest of family solidarity. To break destructive patterns, Miller outlines a new method of treatment, which, she says, improved her own life dramatically. Unfortunately, Miller devotes too little discussion to this method in favor of material she has covered in earlier works. Nonetheless, the reader is left with much to consider.
- Michelle Lodge, New York
Copyright 1990 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
This book helped me understand the chains of repetition compulsion and how I kept reenacting my childhood drama in present relationships. Read morePublished 16 months ago by Sylvie Imelda Shene
This is the first Alice Miller book I read, and I think that it makes for a good place to start learning about her view on childhood and abuse. Read morePublished 18 months ago by pray_for_mojo
Parts of this book are difficult to read; some of the examples a terribly sad. Nothing is more important than kindness.Published 21 months ago by William J. Manning
No better advocate for a child or the child within us than Alice Miller.
She does not pretend dealing with childhood wounds will be easy, as some other self-help books... Read more
Reading many Alice Miller's books including Banished Knowledge one can learn that the key to understanding cruel dictators is to look into their histories and look for evidence of... Read morePublished on September 21, 2009 by Payam Ghassemlou
I came across this book at a local bookstore last weekend just out of curiosity, and the thing that caught my attention was the title itself: "Banished Knowledge. Read morePublished on November 5, 2007 by ZSky
I have read a few of Alice Miller's books and think to truly appreciate her work, that you shouldn't judge by only reading one. Read morePublished on September 15, 2007 by Katie K
While I applaud her commitment to exposing Child Abuse and am intrigued by her style of writing, I am horrified that she is so extremist in her views. Read morePublished on May 14, 2007 by MHatz