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Bar Flower: My Decadently Destructive Days and Nights as a Tokyo Nightclub Hostess [Hardcover]

Lea Jacobson (Author)
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April 15, 2008

During daylight hours, the city of Tokyo is the very image of robotic conformity. At night, however, it transforms into a “floating world” of escapism, as “all-work” salarymen seek a place to play. 

Though fascinated by Japanese language and culture, American Lea Jacobson had some difficulty conforming to Japan’s rigidly structured society. After she was fired from her job as an English teacher, Lea found work as a nightclub hostess on Tokyo’s Ginza strip and transformed herself into a doll-like confection whose job it was to flatter, flirt, and engage in mock relationships with her middle-aged clients. Working as a hostess—the occupation a direct descendant of the geisha tradition—quickly became lucrative...and addictive.

Her perceptions distorted by the drinks she was paid to consume, her identity confused by the fake personalities she assumed nightly, Jacobson began to lose herself in this fantasy culture.  As she descended into self-abuse and alcoholism, she found that the seductive lifestyle she loved so much seemed impossible to escape.

Jacobson’s searing insights into Japan’s cultural dynamics, erotic fascinations, gender politics, and her own spiral into sensory excess create a haunting and mesmerizing memoir that will leave readers transfixed.


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What saves this youthful memoir from being a dreary litany of boozy nights spent entertaining drunken big-spenders at Tokyo clubs is American translator Jacobson's knowledge of Japanese culture and language. Having originally landed in Japan in 2003 after college at McGill to work as a kindergarten teacher, Jacobson was fired from her job at the Happy Learning English School in Yokosuka city because the psychiatrist she saw for anxiety revealed her condition in a letter to her employer. Outspoken about discrimination against women in Japanese society, fond of drinking and prone to eating disorders and self-cutting, Jacobson drifted among teaching jobs before settling into the more lucrative but taxing employment as a hostess at the Palace, on Tokyo's Ginza strip, where the reigning mama-san taught her the fine art of being a decorative bar flower who serves men drinks and light conversation without being touched. Jacobson soon found her job leaching into all aspects of her life, and the paid dates, drinking and partying prompted a destructive spiral of cutting and blacking out. Truly fascinated by Japanese mores, Jacobson nonetheless elevates her story with compelling digressions into ukiyo (the floating world), geisha tradition and the Great Kanto earthquake of 1923, among other topics, for a candid version of cultural immersion. (Apr.)
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“Her debut memoir intrigues because it opens a window into a little-seen portion of Japanese culture: ‘the floating world’ of transience and personal gratification.... A juicy read for anyone interested in the intriguingly lascivious underworld of a purportedly straight-laced culture.”—Kirkus Reviews

“Truly fascinated by Japanese mores, Jacobson elevates her story…for a candid version of cultural immersion.”—Publishers Weekly

"[An] endlessley candid and engaging true tale." —Booklist


Product Details

  • Hardcover: 352 pages
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Press; First Edition edition (April 15, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0312368976
  • ISBN-13: 978-0312368975
  • Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.7 x 1.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 15.2 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 3.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (14 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #947,711 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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2.0 out of 5 stars Diasappointing, November 5, 2008
This review is from: Bar Flower: My Decadently Destructive Days and Nights as a Tokyo Nightclub Hostess (Hardcover)
As someone who has lived in central Tokyo for almost eight years, I was hoping to find an interesting insider's tale of hostessing in Japan. Unfortunately, there was nothing particularly unique in this book that I couldn't have learned from anyone in a local bar. And by no means are her anecdotes decadent in a truly Tokyo way; the combo hostess/strip clubs in Roppongi are much wilder and much more self-destructive for the women working there, not to mention the s&m bars or the private naked/partner swap parties. Her wild nights were not nearly as wild as an ordinary night out in Roppongi for a drunken expat banker. She also has a poor geographical memory as she misplaces numerous bars that she frequented. Can't understand why she is perpetually broke if she's making such big money hostessing--including three dohans per week versus the quota of two per month--pays only about $500 per month in rent (roughly half the cost of one of her regular's nightly tabs) and never has to buy her own dinner or drinks as she is an expert in getting those for free, yet can't afford the cost of a moving van, which from personal experience runs about $300 for a one-day in-town move. Everything regarding her hostessing career seems greatly exaggerated, as if she were writing a memoir based on other people's stories. While I trust she was a hostess, her story nonetheless reads like a revisionist diary. The most interesting part was her relationship with little Ayu, a story line which was completely abandoned once her hostessing began. Lots of sloppy errors with dates and geography. While she has a moving story with regards to the August 2005 anniversary of the WWII A-bombing, her interpretation of the somber mood over all of Japan is simply wrong. On the contrary, Japanese news shows, as well as CNN, ran numerous interviews with Japanese citizens on the street who had no idea why August 6 and 9 were significant in Japanese history. Ultimately, the book is disappointing for old Tokyo hands as her attempt to prove her immersion into Japanese culture are revealed as exaggerated by numerous mistakes and failure to experience many of the more decadent floating world. Though obviously cathartic for the author, the book is rather sophomoric.
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11 of 15 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars honest and insightful, April 23, 2008
This review is from: Bar Flower: My Decadently Destructive Days and Nights as a Tokyo Nightclub Hostess (Hardcover)
In this book, Jacobson reveals a side of Japan that hardly gets any attention. An educated Japanophile with a keen eye for detail, she travels through the seedy and fascinating night time world of Tokyo, and takes us along for the ride. She shows us a dream world where beautiful girls in slinky dresses entertain red-faced, drunk business men. And she doesn't flinch when the dream shatters into a million ugly pieces.

Jacobson becomes an expert at flirting and coddling men for her benefit. However, as an educated woman from the land of opportunity, she ultimately realizes that she really should know better. Luckily for us, she gets up to a lot of adventures before she does. Fun, then devastating, and finally inspiring, you will not regret buying this book.
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10 of 14 people found the following review helpful:
2.0 out of 5 stars Not bad, but not spectacular, June 12, 2008
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I enjoyed the mini-lessons about Japanese language and culture, however, I found this book to be written simplistically and with a lot of excessive detail that was unrelated to the storyline itself. I felt like there were a lot of unnecessary "fluffy anecdotes" that left me wondering about their significance, instead of relevant details.

Additionally, the beginning of the book was lacking in character development. As I read the good and bad things that happened to Lea, I was not invested enough in her character to really care. I felt no emotion throughout the entire book, but I finished it anyway because it was a fast read.

I do not recommend this book.
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