Bartender's Guide on How to Pick Up Women [Paperback]

Bryan Redfield (Author)

Product Details

• Paperback
• Publisher: New Atlantis Pubns (July 1990)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0962645508
• ISBN-13: 978-0962645501
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.3 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,753,483 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars You won't find it in a Christian bookstore, but . . ., May 4, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Bartender's Guide on How to Pick Up Women (Paperback)

BARTENDER'S GUIDE ON HOW TO PICK UP WOMEN should be read by every teen-age male before he starts dating. Not that I want my son being promiscuous or even having sex outside of marriage - it is the principles author Bryan Redfield's book emphasizes that make it a must-read. BARTENDERS'S GUIDE ON HOW TO PICK UP WOMEN stresses male dignity. Too many men are too anxious to please the pretty faces, and some ladies take advantage of them. A gorgeous girl asks you to buy her a drink? Save a few dollars (and some self-respect) by politely refusing. She just wants to see if you will be foolish enough to spend money on her. You won't find BARTENDER'S GUIDE ON HOW TO PICK UP WOMEN in a Christian bookstore, but Bryan Redfield's wisdom is almost biblical.

2 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Good if you want relationships..., September 11, 2002

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Liem - See all my reviews

This review is from: Bartender's Guide on How to Pick Up Women (Paperback)

This book got me started on picking up women and it does provide a good basic foundation. The problem is that the author goes overboard with the "honest" approach, and if you follow him perfectly, you will come across as a "wuss" (to use updated terminology). I don't believe in lying and manipulating when picking up women but the approach here won't work on real babes, especially the younger ones (he tells you to stay away from girls 25 and under!)

The problem with the book is that it was written in the late 80's and it focuses almost exclusively on the stereotypical smoke-filled bars and dives where the author was employed. There's a certain kind of women that hang out in those places. Here in L.A. and other big cities, babes hang out in dance clubs, malls, and other settings. The author doesn't show you how to apply his techniques in those other places. He is dead-set against clubs and thinks they're a waste of time. That may be true for some guys but for a lot of guys who are pick-up artists (with techniques that can be learned), clubs are great.

Also, his approach is geared almost entirely on meeting women for serious relationships. That's not going to work if you're out there just wanting to meet girls for fun. If, as the book's title says, you're learning how to pick up women, then it should also shows you how to pick up women for short-term flings. Most guys in their 20's aren't really ready for serious relationships anyway!

Despite the above deficiencies, there are some good things about his techniques. First, I love his eye-contact sequence approach. That has saved my dignity many times over. Secondly, I like the fact he firmly admonishes you not to buy girls drinks when you meet them. This is great advice for all pick-up artists. And thirdly, his advice for not having sex on the first date is a good strategy.

1.0 out of 5 stars This book is unrealistic for the real world bar scene, March 17, 2006

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aaronk (lincolnne) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Bartender's Guide on How to Pick Up Women (Paperback)

Bryan Redflieds book "bartenders guide to picking up women is unrealistic I mean with the 6 step technque is with eye contact then a small smile and repeat the step then say hi, does'nt work for all people especially guys who are average or not that good looking but have great personalities just the same with women i mean most people of are not what you called "hollywood good looks".

I mean we all pretty much blind on who you would be meeting in a bar if you use a pick up line (in which that usually don't work well especially if there sexually direct)

or through freinds, I mean you can't always trust a good looking "prince charming" he could be like ted bundy or charles manson.

So its hard to say that making eye contact with someone on the first time you're in a bar to decide that you want to pursue a relationship because on the average men are more visual and women are more emotional but then again thats not always the case alot of times people can be judgemental on whats attractive and desairable, both men and women can be guilty of this i mean men sometimes say that a woman's breasts are not large enough or a little to heavy set and women sometimes say that man must make enough money or be a star athlete and so forth.

That's not how it is in the real world thats what Bryan Redflieds book does'nt seem to work for all people, i mean if you meet in a bar, church, Wal-mart whatever you can't always judge someone at first glances what my last point you don't know if you're going to have a long term relationship that lead to a happy marriage or miserably divorced you just don't know.