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Bartender's Guide on How to Pick Up Women

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BARTENDER'S GUIDE ON HOW TO PICK UP WOMEN should be read by every teen-age male before he starts dating. Not that I want my son being promiscuous or even having sex outside of marriage - it is the principles author Bryan Redfield's book emphasizes that make it a must-read. BARTENDERS'S GUIDE ON HOW TO PICK UP WOMEN stresses male dignity. Too many men are too anxious to please the pretty faces, and some ladies take advantage of them. A gorgeous girl asks you to buy her a drink? Save a few dollars (and some self-respect) by politely refusing. She just wants to see if you will be foolish enough to spend money on her. You won't find BARTENDER'S GUIDE ON HOW TO PICK UP WOMEN in a Christian bookstore, but Bryan Redfield's wisdom is almost biblical.

This book got me started on picking up women and it does provide a good basic foundation. The problem is that the author goes overboard with the "honest" approach, and if you follow him perfectly, you will come across as a "wuss" (to use updated terminology). I don't believe in lying and manipulating when picking up women but the approach here won't work on real babes, especially the younger ones (he tells you to stay away from girls 25 and under!)

The problem with the book is that it was written in the late 80's and it focuses almost exclusively on the stereotypical smoke-filled bars and dives where the author was employed. There's a certain kind of women that hang out in those places. Here in L.A. and other big cities, babes hang out in dance clubs, malls, and other settings. The author doesn't show you how to apply his techniques in those other places. He is dead-set against clubs and thinks they're a waste of time. That may be true for some guys but for a lot of guys who are pick-up artists (with techniques that can be learned), clubs are great.

Also, his approach is geared almost entirely on meeting women for serious relationships. That's not going to work if you're out there just wanting to meet girls for fun. If, as the book's title says, you're learning how to pick up women, then it should also shows you how to pick up women for short-term flings. Most guys in their 20's aren't really ready for serious relationships anyway!

Despite the above deficiencies, there are some good things about his techniques. First, I love his eye-contact sequence approach. That has saved my dignity many times over. Secondly, I like the fact he firmly admonishes you not to buy girls drinks when you meet them. This is great advice for all pick-up artists. And thirdly, his advice for not having sex on the first date is a good strategy.

Bryan Redflieds book "bartenders guide to picking up women is unrealistic I mean with the 6 step technque is with eye contact then a small smile and repeat the step then say hi, does'nt work for all people especially guys who are average or not that good looking but have great personalities just the same with women i mean most people of are not what you called "hollywood good looks".

I mean we all pretty much blind on who you would be meeting in a bar if you use a pick up line (in which that usually don't work well especially if there sexually direct)
or through freinds, I mean you can't always trust a good looking "prince charming" he could be like ted bundy or charles manson.

So its hard to say that making eye contact with someone on the first time you're in a bar to decide that you want to pursue a relationship because on the average men are more visual and women are more emotional but then again thats not always the case alot of times people can be judgemental on whats attractive and desairable, both men and women can be guilty of this i mean men sometimes say that a woman's breasts are not large enough or a little to heavy set and women sometimes say that man must make enough money or be a star athlete and so forth.

That's not how it is in the real world thats what Bryan Redflieds book does'nt seem to work for all people, i mean if you meet in a bar, church, Wal-mart whatever you can't always judge someone at first glances what my last point you don't know if you're going to have a long term relationship that lead to a happy marriage or miserably divorced you just don't know.

This is a good book by an author who's observed how the game works. A bartender for many years, he's watch guys strike out and guys score, and noted the differences. And, he's been on both sides of the issue.

The book instructs how to maturely pick up women by relating to them on an emotional level instead of just physical.

A valuable aspect is the author's view denoucning those who are out there picking up women (or at least trying) just to get laid. In the long run, such people end up miserable, emotionally hollow and one dimensional, devoid of interesting qualities.

The one aspect I'd wish the author develop is opening lines. The author clearly (and rightly) states there is no such thing as a perfect, opening line, and that everything is context dependant. However, I would like a couple of examples of men, in different situations, of what they said in the beginning. How do you start a conversation from scratch with someone whom you'd like to get know better? What do you actually say, or at least what have other people said? The author helps you in your conversation once you get started, but the first words out of your mouth is still up to you.

It's an awesome book. It talks about women like they're people, and it is giving me insight into how to understand, interact, connect and communicate with women. It's like showing me what was the missing piece [of the way I was behaving/acting/interacting] before..

It's very good. Accessible.

yes i have read this book several times and to me its unrealistic to the fact that in the book there are attactve women who go to bars by themselves no thats not true i have been to plenty of bars in my life and i have never seen any women who go to bars by themselves in real life they go to bars in groups.
yes i have tried the "so called 6 step technique" and it does'nt work worth a dam and to believe that you can go to a bar by yourself any day of the week to any bar and theres always some worthwhile woman that you can meet is bending the truth a wee tad much.
i mean iam not one for buying drinks or using pickup lines in bars but how else could you find ways to meet women in bars please tell me
finally the section in the book where the author bryan redflied shows the proflies of women hes interested in that are all in there mid twenties to early thirties and professional women, well what about women that have children he forgot to write a section about that hope this review was helpful

Easy to read, entertaining, often hilarious, this book will change the way you look at bars forever. And yes, you can meet women there