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The Batterer as Parent: Addressing the Impact of Domestic Violence on Family Dynamics (Sage Series on Violence Against Women)

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This book should be a must read for all Guardian Ad Litems, Custody evaluators, Judges, Lawyers and Therapists. It explains how batterers act, why children often side with the batterer and gives an excellent guide for assessing visitation guidelines. I have only owned the book for two weeks and have already used it with three clients of mine. I am a LMFT and often work with children who have witnessed domestic violence, batterering and whose parents are fighting over custody. In reading this book I have a better understanding for the dymamics in a family with batterering. I now have research to support the things I have been recommending in regards to keeping children safe.

Anyone with real experience and knowledge in the realm of domestic violence can clearly see that Bancroft is on target. He is one of the few authors who truly understands the dynamics of abuse and can accurately assess those who are truly abusers ... many of whom call themselves the "victims." There are definitive signs of men who abuse, though they work so hard to hide it that they get angry when they discover their attempts don't work with Brancroft.

This book is a must have for anyone truly interested in recovering from abuse or working within the justice system to stop such abuse.

This book succintly provides critical information for judges, therapists, parent evaluators/GALs, and most importantly parents trying to protect their children from harm. It highlights the many misconceptions present in the legal system that enable abusers to continue to victimize their children and spouses, and explains how these situations should be addressed, backed by data to support the authors' conclusions. This is a credible well-written book that provides a rational counter to the awful theories of Richard Gardner.

As a former severely battered wife and for two decades as an advocate for social justice: this book is long overdue. Specifically, the authors address the untenable situation of a

batterer's children.

Public knowledge of the scourge of wife battering has increased dramatically in 20 years. Finally, the most vulnerable to abuse, the children, are recognized. It is to be hoped that universities and all community groups, hospitals,social workers and police will have this as required reading. In conjunction with this book, the volume entitled From Madness to Mutiny should be studied.Then, all should view films - for example ; Breaking the Silence: Children's Stories.

I have read several books and articles on domestic violence, custody evaluations, and family recovery from domestic violence. This is the first title in that arc of subject area that presented a detailed and accurate picture of what constitutes a batterer and the batterer's effect on partner and children. There were no equivocations, no excuses, no back-pedaling to pander to the popular view that victims are either actually responsible for their and their children's plights, or they are fabricating to achieve some selfish end. I found a brief, but comforting refuge between the pages of this very insightful and thorough study. I highly recommend it to every custody evaluator and family court judge (and every family member who was been battered emotionally, physically, verbally, economically, or in any other way.)

In the middle of a very ugly divorce, I found this book to be the best. It is simiple to read with real live situations and real research. Not based on textbook learned behaviors. It gives a very realistic view of some very ugly situations. It was like reading my life story with insights on why my divorce got so ugly with a man whom I thought I loved.

This is a must read for every emotionally charged divorce.

Although much research is biased towards the most physically dangerous abusers, the ones who beat (don't like the word batter a lot) their victims and often kill them are usually men. There is of course, a lot of abuse perpetrated by mothers on children and women upon partners. Abuse is abuse, no matter what the gender, and all abuse harms children.
Lundy Bancroft deals primarily with the behaviors, patterns and impact of abuse. When anyone becomes a hardened habitual abuser who uses his or her power to intimidate, manipulate or terrify his or her victims into submission and control: he OR she is considered an 'abuser'. When they phsically hit, break bones and kill, he OR she is a 'batterer'. I work with a domestic violence agency and we have quite a few court ordered women in our program, albeit not as many as men (90% or more of the MOST serious battering is done by men the country over). I have read much of Bancroft's work and he is on target.

This book highlights serious problems in how children of abusers are frequently victimized in the court system, as a result of inadequately trained advocates. It is thoroughly researched, with several pages of professional references cited. A must-read for anyone involved in these custody issues!

This book really captured the essence of what has happened in our home for so many years. It provides solid reasoning for why my children's feelings are so twisted and their memories so warped. It has been helpful for my recovery because it has made clear and spelled out those things that I could never make sense of. This book would be great for helping to enlighten judges, custody evaluators and many women and their children who've been victimized by a batterer. I highly recommend it.

much of this book is unfortunate propaganda that harms more individuals then it can ever help. The domestic violence movement has an ignoble history that ignores then substitutes scientific research for this manufactured advocacy research that biases truth and put all of us at risk. Though it is clear if you are in the industry, you must subscribe to the lundy bancroft schoolk of thought. Men are bad, women are innocent, and if you cannot see that truth you are too ignorant to see the emperors clothes are made from the finest silken threads, gold, and jewels.