Beat Stress Together [Paperback]

Wayne M. Sotile (Author), Mary O. Sotile (Author)

Book Description

ISBN-10: 0471356271 | ISBN-13: 978-0471356271 | Publication Date: October 20, 1999 | Edition: 1

Help and hope for today’s overworked, stressed-out couples

Is your day-to-day routine wreaking havoc on your relationship? Are you trying to be all things to all people–and in reality creating more tension and distance between you and your partner? In this engaging, sanity-saving book, psychologist Wayne Sotile and marriage counselor Mary Sotile show couples how to lower stress levels and revitalize their relationships. Their simple, effective program for Beating Stress Together (BEST), used by more than 5,000 couples, arms you with action steps for reducing anxiety, renewing passion, and restoring balance.

Filled with lively true stories and easy-to-do exercises, Beat Stress Together will help you successfully nurture a happier, healthier, and more rewarding life.

" . . . the book offers good ideas for balancing breadwinning and nesting needs."–The Wall Street Journal

"This book gives couples ideas of how to [take] their lives down one notch and enjoy each other and the families that they have created. A great way to remind us [of] what really are the important things in life."–Motherhood

Editorial Reviews

Review

One holiday ad campaign for a home health manual prods: "Give the Gift of Knowledge." But giving a gift of a good book about health, without side effects, is a tricky matter. Bookstore shelves right now are choked with new volumes touting unproven regimens witnessing the recent flap over a book declaring diet prevents breast cancer or blaming disease on a spiritual imbalance. Still, there's plenty worth reading to help you get fit, handle stress, avoid rug fads, negotiate with doctors and recover after illness. Tips on improving love lives come from "SuperCouple Syndrome: How Overworked Couples Can Beat Stress Together"(Wiley), by husband and wife therapists Wayne and Mary Sotile. Their intended audience: couples whose work stress and frequent-flier schedules have turned lovers into roommates. Despite an annoying pitch for the authors' videotapes and audiotapes, the book offers good ideas for balancing breadwinning and nesting needs. "Active Wellness," (Time-Life Books) by Gayle Reichler, is a feel-good hand book for couch potatoes who want to get healthy but don't know how to start. The discussions of eating right and exercising, however, sometimes strays into sloganism. There's even a chapter beginning with a quote for "the power of positive thinking" guru Norman Vincent Peale. But at least it's not scolding.—Wall Street Journal

--This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

From the Inside Flap

"Maybe my wife is right: I’m not open enough. I feel compassion and concern for her, but I keep hearing that I just don’t communicate well. It’s as though we are speaking different languages." —Jerry, an attorney "Maybe I’m just too ambitious. Other people seem to be more content with less; I seem to be driven. And my family is telling me that they miss me." —Lois, a marketing executive "I’m lonely in this marriage." —Max, a sales rep If any, or all, of these laments sound uncomfortably familiar, then your relationship probably suffers from what psychologist Wayne Sotile and marriage counselor Mary Sotile call "Supercouple Syndrome." A leading source of burnout, marital discord, and divorce, this malady is an all-too-common consequence of the ’90s pursuit of the Big Life. It is the natural outgrowth of people’s unrealistic determination to do everything right—to juggle marriage, family, and career, and be all things to all people. Now, in this groundbreaking book, the Sotiles show you and your partner how to beat stress, rekindle your passion for one another, and transform your relationship into the haven it was meant to be. Drawing upon their nearly two decades of experience helping couples improve their relationships, the Sotiles explore the reasons why so many people nowadays get caught in the supercouple trap. Using real-life case studies, they show how many of the strategies people develop to be successful at work—staying in control, striving for perfection, maintaining a competitive edge—can wreak havoc on personal relationships. They also provide harrowing examples of how people who let their relationships take a backseat to their careers for too long usually wind up drained, burnt out, and even downsized. Most importantly, this sanity-saving book arms you with action steps for revitalizing your relationship. Wayne and Mary outline their BEating Stress Together (BEST) program, a simple, effective program that has been used by more than 5,000 couples to transform their relationships from sources of stress into sources of empowerment. Don’t sacrifice your happiness in pursuit of the good life. Let Supercouple Syndrome show you how to make your relationship work for you. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 208 pages
• Publisher: Wiley; 1 edition (October 20, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0471356271
• ISBN-13: 978-0471356271
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.2 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,295,401 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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