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Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction

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Although I'm a man I couldn't help but pick this book up at the store. I've been reading Dr. Herbenick's sex professor columns in Men's Health for a few years and have enough experience with her advice to know she's spot on. Reading her columns has helped my wife and I have better sex in the past. I got the book for my wife and I both to read. She liked it a lot. She's a very classy woman and not the kind of woman you'd bring the trashier sex books home to. What I like about Debby is that she too is a classy woman and though she gives a lot of great sex tips, you don't feel bad reading them and neither does my wife. She's frank, fun, sexy and gives good information you can trust. My wife took the oral sex tips to heart and let's just say that made my life better! We also found a lot to talk about in the chapter pertaining to desire. Having been married for a few years with two kids, this is a big one for us and Because It Feels Good was the right way to go. Guys: check this book out for yourself or as a gift for your wife or girlfriend. It will make your sex life better!

Although a newer sex book, it is already my favorite sex book to recommend (I work as a sex educator for adults). It's well written, easy to read, has great diagrams, fun quizzes at the start of every chapter and - best of all - the information is GREAT. It's right on, it's accurate and written by someone who totally knows what she is talking about.

A major frustration of mine is that a lot of sex books are written by random people who don't know what they're talking about but act like they do. These are the same people who wind up doing things that their partners find unpleasurable but they do them because they read it in a book or magazine (that was wrong!). FINALLY - a book written by an expert who is fun, smart, and clearly loves sex! Dr. Debby writes about sex the way it should be written about - like it's fun and something we can learn to find pleasurable, exciting and connecting with our partners.

This is the kind of book that you will read over and over again, or refer to when you want more tips on sex toys, vibrators, lubricants, how to talk to your partner about sex, how to talk with your partner *during* sex, how to kick your desire back into higher (or at least decent) gear, and how to have a healthy enough life that it spills over into your sex life.

I recommend this book all the time to women and couples. It's a gold mine of information and encouragement and sure to make your sex life better (even if you don't have a partner). Enjoy!!

What a great book!. As a man, I wasn't sure what to expect but my girlfriend was given this book to her by a friend. She kept saying how much I would learn from reading it and she was right. The parts about communication and desire really opened my eyes to women's experiences. It gave me a new perspective on how to approach my girlfriend when I am in the mood and not to be offended when she is not. I also learned a lot about the female orgasm. My girlfriend had previously bought the "I Heart Orgasm" book but we didn't find it to be very helpful. Because It Feels Good gave us more quality information and helpful tips regarding helping my girlfriend to orgasm from sex.

Dr. Herbenick is a real sex expert not some fly by night fake sex PhD. She has numerous scientific credentials but is really able to put the science terms into words that us normal folks can understand. No one ever talked to me about sex when I was growing up so it is really nice to see that there is someone out there who can shed some light on a topic that for a lot of people is still taboo.

Great book, great read, 5 stars!

As a Pure Romance consultant, I've had the opportunity to meet Debby a few times and I've seen how seriously she takes sexual education. When you are trying to learn more about womens sexual health, there are so many books available that mask themselves as "education" but are really nothing more than erotica and provide nothing of facts and figures and reasons. This is not the case with this book!

"Because It Feels Good: A Womens Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction" is written just like Debby is speaking to you: with confidence, with facts, with humor and with that bit that says 'I'm telling you this for your own good. You need to know this.' It feels like advice from a best friend, a really smart educated classy best friend that you look up to and would go to for advice.

What a great book! Unlike most sex books, Because It Feels Good was written by a TRUE sex expert. Dr. Debby Herbenick is a researcher and a sex educator at the famed Kinsey Institute and it shows. I couldn't believe all the wonderful things I learned - some fun facts and also a lot of things that have been helping my relationship. One of my favorite parts of the book is in Chapter 1 where she teaches readers how to say no to say in ways that actually help a relationship instead of making people feel bad. This was really helpful to me as I always feel bad when I tell my husband I'm not in the mood. This helped me figure out how to talk to my husband about my feelings about sex and what I want from him. I also really liked the chapter on sex toys. It was more helpful than anything I've found on the web. The parts on orgasm were good too. This book is heartfelt, smart and interesting. It helped me learn about sex and made me feel good about what I learned and more confident. It made me feel sexier too because now I feel like I can go out and have better sex! And THAT feels GREAT! Highly recommended.

I bought this book after seeing it listed as a "Best Sex Book" (the writer said it was her favorite nightstand book) and then in "Woman's Day" magazine. I am so glad that I did. I read the whole book in just a few days (it's an easy read and funny too). Thanks to Because It Feels Good I learned so much about my body, about sex, how to do things better, how to perform better oral sex, sex positions that have been proven to make it easier to orgasm and how mindfulness meditation has been shown in research to increase women's desire.

I also liked reading about all the newest kinds of sex toys out there and how to talk to a partner about them. I didn't know there were so many innovative toys for sale! Or so many sexy things to do with them :) Whenever I get back into a relationship, I will definitely be prepared!!

I loved this book! I appreciated that the author wrote about things women can do alone so that single women can get as much out of the book as women who are in relationships can get out of it. This is one of my favorite books now. Thank you, Dr. Herbenick!

Comprehensive sex ed in under 250 pages? You betcha. Dr. Debby Herbenick of Indiana University's Center for Sexual Health Promotion, and The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction fame and repute has crafted a terrific primer for what's what in female sexuality. 'Because It Feels Good - A Woman's Guide To Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction' has hit the shelves and now there's no reason not to know stuff.

This book is a quick read - well-organized, funny, and, above all, practical. Each chapter illuminates and confirms with medical specifics, psychological insights, statistics on what's 'normal', and easy to visualize how-to instructions. There's homework. Don't worry, you won't mind. There's also an in-depth resource list at the back to guide you to areas of more specific interest or concern.

Dr. Herbenick was kind enough to visit with me to discuss what particularly interests her, the value of courage, and the terrific work she does on her website.

I'd love to see the statistics on how many bookmark it after having a look!

Our interview is available on the web at PsychJourney.

Because It Feels Good is a guide for women to read. I loved it. So much to learn that I was unaware of. I would be very happy if my husband found the time to read this Woman's Guide. I think its content wouldn't scare away a husband, but I think that the delivery style is long and would scare my husband away from reading this book. So much good information though.

While good to learn something about female anatomy, I really enjoyed the book for its positive and affirming emotional core. It stresses the emotional connections made during sex to enhance technique, which is good for this 20-something. Also, the sections cover quite a range of sexual conduct, so it is a great beginner's guide: very short and understandable. Learning to talk about this stuff accurately and meaningfully is worthwhile.

I highly recommend this book to any generation, but most particularly to MY generation, the Zooomer (the 50 plus) woman. We were raised with so little information about our own sexuality by our mothers that, for me personally, I did not have my sexual awakening until I was in my 50's. I was married for over 30 years and only a handful of times did I experience pleasure, but an orgasm? never! I thought something was wrong with me, very seriously wrong. I talked to an OBGYN who thankfully was from Europe and very open and she recommended reading material to me. I found that I was not as educated about my own body as I thought. It took an intimate experience after my separation, with someone I had known and not been in touch with for over 40 years, to discover what "love making", not SEX, was all about and how pleasurable and wonderful it could be with someone you are compatible with. Compatibility is important but more than that I found out that yes, body chemistry plays an intrinsic role in the pleasure factor. When you make love you do so not just with your body, then it's just Sex, but with your whole being: body, mind, soul and spirit. My lover is also a very good listener and very tuned into what works for me and I found that I actually, finally also enjoyed pleasuring him, an experience I never really had.

Reading this book has allowed me to become "intimate" with my own body and what makes it work, and HOW and why things give pleasure. I feel like I have finally found that "secret" I have been searching for all my life.... in my Lover and in this book. That emptiness that was in my life has now been filled, and we both have a very vigourous and active sex life and hope to until we are both very, very old.... I highly recommend this book to a generation of women who were never told, that making love was something enjoyable and not just to be endured!

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