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Becoming a Calm Mom: How to Manage Stress and Enjoy the First Year of Motherhood Paperback – January 1, 2009
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Deborah Roth Ledley, PhD, is Associate Director of the Adult Anxiety Clinic of Temple University in Philadelphia and also maintains a private practice in Plymouth Meeting, Pennsylvania. Her publications include almost forty scientific articles and book chapters on the nature and treatment of anxiety disorders.
Irving J. Weiner, PhD, is the Series Editor for the Wiley Concise Guides to Mental Health. He is a prolific author, and is the editor of the award-winning 12-volume Handbook of Psychology, also from Wiley.
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Top Customer Reviews
I also found the book to be judgmental, which I have very little patience for in a book about being calm. Here's just one example: The author definitely has a opinions about the "best" way to parent -- including crying it out as the best sleep solution. In the section about being your own behavioral therapist, one of her examples is about a baby not sleeping -- and the solution to is the parents letting the baby cry it out. In a later section on sleep solutions, the recommendations are all based on the work of Dr. Jodi Mindell, who recommends crying it out. While I don't mind that Dr. Ledley has these opinions, I wish she had been more upfront about her biases and perspectives - and provided space in the book to acknowledge them.
When I started this book, I found it refreshing to find a book about parenting that wasn't specific to the method of parenting, so I was really disappointed by subtle judgement placed on what is "best." I found it counterproductive to the book's main messages. I still found some of the strategies helpful, but you need to be able to zone out on the other messages in the book that might differ from your parenting style.
It seems to have this theory that if you are calm, your kids will magically be calm and behave. I don't think my toddler has ever heard that theory. Yes, kids act worse when you're super frustrated. Yes, being able to calm down is good.
Oh, except if you are trying to get your kid to sleep. Them let them cry it out. Go in another room, cry yourself, and wait for your baby to learn that you're not coming until they cry themselves to sleep. Breathe deeply while your baby screams....
This book is also not very supportive of breastfeeding - and if you are having trouble with that (be calm) - you may not want to use this book as a resource.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Good resources and techniques for new moms. No need to read in order, you can always use it as a reference.Published on July 9, 2012 by A. Madrid
Dr. Ledley's "tool box" of strategies are sharp and top notch! Love this book! There's no guilt, only straight-forward, practical advice for all moms (newbies and beyond). Read morePublished on December 2, 2010 by V. Thornton
The book was written by a professional in psychology and mom, so it can really help you. A lot of life-stories.Published on July 13, 2010 by Polina Popova
As a psychologist and first-time dad, I got this book at a conference as a gift for my wife, who's struggled with anxiety and depression. Read morePublished on August 19, 2009 by S. Hoekstra