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Becoming a Friend & Lover

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Becoming a Friend and Lover offers solid advice for singles wanting to develop solid relationships. Dick Purnell is realistic and honest about the loneliness and pressures that singles feel, and offers sound suggestions on how to deal with them. The book includes chapters on how to overcome barriers to intimacy and how to develop the physical, social, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual areas of a relationship

Wanting something too bad, can and usually leads to difficulties down the road.

Purnell from his own life experience shows the dangers and subtelties of singleness, loneliness, dating. Guarding one's heart is a Biblical paramont and so too does this book suggest that be in a Christian single's mind when entering or preparing for relationships.

Like how he places all relationships in relationship to the First Commandment relationship.

Divorce would certainly decrease if more attention and effort was placed on the prenuptial stages and this volume is great asset to this.

This book changed the way I see dating and committed relationships in general. I have been making so many mistakes and I now know why I've had my heart broken so many times. The author was single until around 40 so he knows how to navigate the single waters in a healthy way.

He offers practical advice on how identify the real thing. Thanks Mr. Purnell, I feel grateful to you for sharing your experience. You said all the things that mom and dad were afraid to say.

This is a helpful tool for those starting out dating or who are having difficult time with dating relationships. I read this book before I met my husband. The information provided in this book helped me to develope a life time relationship with the right person. I would recommend this book to any single person looking to start a correct relationship.

This book deals with all the in's and out's of preparing for the right one.Purnell did not marry till he was 45...but before you say "aw man" one thing is worth noting here.Purnell's wife said something profound toward the end of the book.Dick said to his wife I don't know why God waited till I was 45 to bring me my wife.She said,I know why,and surprised she had an answer for this he said Why?She said if it would have happened sooner you would not have married me!Enough said.READ THIS BOOK!!!!!!!!!!

I really enjoyed the tone of this book and all that it had to offer! Dr. Purnell provides a detailed breakdown of the most important characteristics in any relationship using the "5-point star" model. Each point represents one of the following: social, mental, emotional, spiritual, or physical. He discussed how to have a healthy balance and how to mature in each of those areas. Of course the best part of this book is the encouragement to stay focused on Jesus and God's will for our lives. As we fix our eyes on God and allow ourselves to grow in Christ, we will also become the person we need to be for others and will develop the necessary characteristics for a healthy relationship. I definitely reccommend this book to anyone who wants to have healthy and balanced relationships (including friendships)!

This work out of print now, which is unfortunate, since this is an impressive book. The author's advice is very practical without being worldly. He shows us how men and women can learn from each other's differences first in friendship, then in marriage. Marriage being an extension of a healthy friendship, we should seek to use friendship as an opportunity to grow and become more like Christ, the ultimate Lover.