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Becoming a Slave [Kindle Edition]

Jack Rinella
4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (11 customer reviews)

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Book Description

Becoming a Slave is an authoritative, and well-documented book on the process of finding and submitting to a dominant. Beginning with a description of terms and the characteristics to be found in a master and in a slave, the book continues with how one realizes and understands their own desire to submit and serve, proceeds to the process of advertising, searching, meeting, and interviewing prospective masters, and ends with a great deal of practical advice on submitting, serving, and satisfying a dominant in a healthy and practical way.

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About the Author

The acclaimed author of the best-selling book, The Master's Manual, as well as The Compleat Slave and Partners in Power, Jack Rinella is a free-lance writer, college instructor, and sought-after lecturer. He has been active in the Leather scene since 1983, is a founding member of MAsT-Chicago, an associate member of the Chicago Hellfire Club, and has written extensively about our lifestyle as a weekly columnist.

Product Details

  • File Size: 485 KB
  • Print Length: 314 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0940267209
  • Publisher: Rinella Editorial Services (October 1, 2005)
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B0045Y1M0E
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Lending: Enabled
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #324,299 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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45 of 45 people found the following review helpful
I have lived with my 24/7 slave for over 6 years. Jack Rinella, the author of this book, has had the same slave for over 9 years. This book is a realistic and yet affirmingly individualistic guide to turning the Ds fantasy of consensual slavery into an every day reality. With several vignettes based on his own experiences, as well as those from many successful 24/7 couples and familys, and the reflections of Rinella's slave, this book offers honest insight into how some people have turned their fantasies into their lives. This isn't romantic, it isn't fetishy, and it isn't easy. If you are looking for a ten-step program to make you an ideal slave, you will never find it. Instead this book can help strip you of those fantasies that prevent you from your desires and help you make the goal of consensual slavery a reality. Don't plan to read this book quickly but use it as you would a textbook or one of those "self-help" guides.
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30 of 32 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Get your workbook ready December 30, 2005
The latest book from Jack Rinella to deal with and describe Dominant-Submissive relationships is a bit of a departure from his previous work. Where, in the ambitious "Partners In Power," there was a great deal of input from outside sources, in "Becoming A Slave," the outside source is very close to the inside; Jack's long term partner/slave Patrick. At the end of each chapter, Patrick provides a brief first-person wrap up. While it always compliments what Jack has written previously, it often veers off tangentially. It provides an interesting balance to Jack's "Do what feels right" style of writing.

It is exactly that style of writing that makes Jack's even-handed dealing with complex situations understandable in each of his books. While "Becoming A Slave" is not an easy read (if you're looking for a fast solution towards understanding your submissive nature, this is not it), it does provide detail and guidelines towards that goal. In fact, "Becoming A Slave" often feels like a college workbook, down to the suggested writing exercises at the conclusion of each chapter. These are the activities that can help both novice and experienced player alike each achieve a greater awareness of what they seek, or even if it is a path that is right for you, as well as provide potential Masters guidelines towards sorting out the pretenders from the truly interested.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Not just for the would-be slave February 28, 2013
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At 300 pages, Jack Rinella's "Becoming a Slave" is one of the thickest volumes of instructional BDSM nonfiction I've come across - and, among volumes of comparable or greater length, one of the most narrowly focused. This is a book about becoming, not about beginning. If you don't have at least a basic understanding of BDSM practices, this isn't the book for you - yet. (Try Jay Wiseman's "SM 101.") If you're not seriously interested in a 24/7 D/s relationship, this isn't the book for you at all. "[Those who live an alternative lifestyle] spend the largest part of the 168 hour week in the same way as any other people do," Rinella reminds his reader in the first chapter. "We sleep, eat, wash, work, and attend to a myriad of domestic, social, and employment obligations. . . . Life as an adult brings responsibilities. Being in a D/s relationship will not remove them, despite what one may wish for in fantasy life." If you understand that, and you earnestly believe that this is the lifestyle for you, this book will help you clarify what you're looking for; prepare for it physically, mentally, emotionally, and even financially; and take your first steps into the real-world version of your fantasy come true.

One has only to look at the chapter titles to understand Rinella's thorough treatment of his subject: "Finding a Partner," "Negotiating the Relationship," "Committing Yourself," "The Training Process," "The Role of Punishment," "Sexual Service," "The Place of Kink," "Polyamorous M/s," to list a few.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Nuts and bolts advice, and good advice at that... October 14, 2012
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This is worth your time.

This is a book targeted for a specific audience: those folks interested in kink from bottom's perspective.

It tries to walk the line. Are you interested in getting laid, or finding a partner, or finding out if this headspace is right for you? The answers aren't here, but strategies for finding the answers are.

The organization of the book walks you through the basics: what are you looking for, what are you really trying to find out about yourself, how do you prepare yourself and your expectations for seeking out what you want or need? Jack's partner in writing is his slave, Patrick, who adds his own perspective to each chapter. Patrick's sections augment the chapter and occasionally reposition the chapter to make it more relevant to the bottom who is reading.

What do you get out of this book? Good advice. Things like, have recent experience and references; prepare yourself now, not when you meet a guy, for what you want to be doing; plug into community kink groups and be cautious of the "loner" who does not; do not assume that every kink relationship is the same as every other one, because there are as many kinds of relationships as couples. Working through the exercises at the end of each chapter is useful, to ask yourself (in the privacy of your journal or text editor) who you are, what you want, who you're looking for and who you're not.

If you work through the exercises and read Patrick's notes a couple of times while reading through the book, you'll have a richer experience and more useful lessons when you are done. Why? Because it slows you down and forces you to think through what you're reading. It sinks in more.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars Great for a newbie!
Jack and Patrick give a lot if great info for someone new to this lifestyle. Things I have not seen on other websites. Loved having Patricks point of view also.
Published 6 months ago by Yvette
4.0 out of 5 stars Not a fantasy
If you have questions about voluntary servitude this book will answer them. Interesting and informative . Read more
Published 11 months ago by Kat Moore
4.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful read
I am not sure that the title fits the content but this is an excellent book if you are new to the lifestyle.
Published 20 months ago by stasha
5.0 out of 5 stars Awesome and required reading for slaves
This is a classic for the leather/BDSM community. Jack Rinella and his slave Patrick have produced a very readable and practical book on the Dominant/submissive dynamic. Read more
Published 23 months ago by krnavajo
3.0 out of 5 stars Becoming A Slave - Jack Rinella
The book is informative if you are looking for information on contracts and checklists. I did not find it to be especially helpful because, as the author states over and over,... Read more
Published on October 29, 2012 by Lanie
2.0 out of 5 stars Articles Yes, Book No
Sorry I like Jack's articles and newsletters but his writing style for some reason gets on my nerves. I couldn't finish this book because of that. Sometimes he just rambles on. Read more
Published on September 4, 2011 by Jeff McCullough
5.0 out of 5 stars its good but not for me.
if Y/you want to live the lifestyle without a smile on Your face than go for it. i bought and than read a friend's e-book before i got it... Read more
Published on March 19, 2007 by katy
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More About the Author

For more than fourteen years Jack Rinella has been writing LeatherViews a weekly, column about his favorite topic. A sought-after lecturer, Jack has presented seminars on alternate lifestyle history, techniques, and relationships across the country. Born in Albany, New York of Italian-American parents, he's been a high school and college teacher, a drug rehabilitation counselor, a cook, a computer salesman, a Catholic seminarian, a Pentecostal minister, an advertising copy writer, a graphic designer, and has done stints at printing, publishing, telemarketing, head-hunting, and computer consulting. He has a Bachelor degree in Philosophy and a Master Degree in Business Administration.
He has been active in the Leather scene since 1983, is a founding member of MAsT-Chicago, an associate member of the Chicago Hellfire Club, and serves as a director on the board of the Leather Leadership Conference. He lives on the North side of Chicago where he passes the time writing, cruising, and falling in love whenever he can.


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