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We had good discussion at least.
on May 19, 2011
I teach a young married Sunday school class in a conservative church, in a conservative town, in the middle of Kansas... and we went through this book with our couples. I hadn't read it prior to starting with the class. It started out pretty good but went downhill fast. The book is definitely from a "patriarchal" view where the men rule and the women are only allowed to cook, clean, and make babies; where the man lords over his wife and "allows" her spending money for the kitchen (he recommends this) and decides who she can hang out with (yes, really, he can pick her friends). The author is way over his head when tries to explain how women work and includes an entire chapter on menstruation and how this causes dissension in the home. I had hoped for a lot more than this.
Even if you hold a view that the man is the leader of the home, this book goes well beyond that and makes him the unquestioned ruler. That is not biblical. If we take Ephesians into account it says, "Wives submit to your husbands (which is where this book seems to stop reading), and husbands love your wives the way Christ loved the church (die for her)." There is no dying for your wife in this book, only telling her what you want her to do.
But we did have great conversations in class about the book (hence the 2nd star), its just that most of it was how we disagreed with what he was saying. True biblical marriage is much different than what is laid out here.