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Before We Get Started: A Practical Memoir of the Writer's Life

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I have to say, I accidentally found this book in the new section at the library and have really enjoyed it. As a fledgling writer myself I will take any guidance I can get. I have read many books on this topic and this is one of my new favorites. I was encouraged that even a writer who has been in Oprah's book club struggles with getting manuscripts accepted. I also loved the chapter about submitting to publishers. He gives a realistic, but somehow encouraging view of the process. I will go return my library copy now, and buy a copy for my personal bookshelves. Thank you, Mr. Lott.

This was one of the most beautifully written, memorable books that I've read pertaining to writing and the writing life.

Lott's section about rejection was both motivational and inspiring, particularly page 148, where he quotes Psalm 118: "The stone the builders rejected has become the capstone." His description of pursuing publication as "near bravery coupled with a kind of brazen humility" and his view of "the tenacity . . . steadfast stubborness . . . dogged perseverance . . . faith" required to write and publish would make anyone feel proud to be a writer who has been rejected, yet continues to write.

In addition, Lott details his Oprah experience with admirable honesty. He writes about receiving the phone call from Oprah on the same day he discovered that a close friend, another writer, had died. The conundrum of both celebrating and grieving during this time in Lott's life is poignantly illustrated.

This book was a brilliant read. I would recommend it to anyone who has experienced the "good" and "bad" of the writing life, yet continues to do it, anyway.

I give a copy of this book to every writer I meet. Wonderfully inspiring and also encouraging for creatives of all kinds!

When Bret Lott writes "I don't know" or "I know nothing" about the feel-your-way-as-you-go approach to the literary arts, he does it so eloquently that one can only say he "doesn't know" so very well. But he's right. Writing, art in general--there's no manual for it. And if there was, it would no longer be art. It would be reduced to a technical skill. And while skills can be learned, the extra mile beyond that gives life to a work of art can only be accomplished by the attitude Lott describes in his "practical memoir of the writer's life:" approaching the blank page, the blank screen, with an openness and acceptance for the wonder to come.

"What knowing nothing means, finally, is that one must strip himself of all notions of what he believes he knows about the world and the way it works," writes Lott. "...now it's new terrain, undiscovered, left to this new explorer, the one who knows nothing and who now, armed with this ignorance, stupidity, and tendency to stare, sees things newly... what this explorer will ultimately discover is his own heart, who he is in the midst of all the know-it-alls of the world."

Finding one's own way is the only way. From the beginning, Lott expresses his reverence for the written word. As a small child, he holds his first book--Book of Psalms, puzzling over how the words "somms" could be spelled so strangely. He writes his name, several times, for the first time, on the title page of this book, and in that moment of writing, making claim, and connecting with the written page, the writer is born.

Lott warns, even while reminding us that writing must be done in solitude, that crawling too deep into one's cave of solitude has its own dangers. We must know the world, and explore it fully, to write about it well. We must be a part of it. There is a balance to be achieved, with involvement, acceptance, immersion, and then withdrawal again. In short, one must live fully in a world with others, but one must write about it alone.

Chapters included in this book are each one crucial to the writer, a light in the dark to the beginner, but a healthy reminder to the well practiced and established, too. Lott's chapter on remembering the reasons for writing is priceless. One enters the horrors of writer's block only when one forgets the purpose for writing--and mistakenly gets caught up in the false pursuit of publication. While acknowledging that it is quite human to wish to share one's story once it is written, wanting that connection between writer and reader, if the writer becomes too obsessed with it, too caught up with it while writing, then the art quickly becomes bogged down and stalls hopelessly. The cause of writer's block, he says, is the writer him or herself. Writing is its own reward. The rest is another story.

The importance of simple words, character detail, narrative and passage of time, pitfalls of technique, risking failure, accepting rejection, these are all topics Lott addresses. Perhaps the best chapter is on rejection. Lott has published 9 books, one of them rescued from oblivion by American icon, Oprah, but even so, he keeps counting up rejections (he's up to 597 at the writing of this book) and he keeps each and every one (except one, that he threw away in a temper tantrum, but later admitted, he learned from this one, too, as he did from all of them). Rejection, he reminds us, is inescapable in the arts. No use fighting it. All the more reason not to become obsessed with it. The writer must be, he says, "moved to write not by a will toward fame or fortune or even posterity, but because the work of writing is good work, and the reward inherent to writing is the writing itself." Lott writes candidly and honestly about how much he feels the hurt of the pink slip, and in some ways it never gets easier, but he also presents a system that works for him. Basically, to keep submitting. He keeps a careful log of where his work has been, is being, will be submitted, and makes a point of sending out his submission the very day it lands back in his mailbox rejected. There is always reason to hope.

Lott's memoir of his own writing life is one of the most practical, yet most beautifully and honestly written books on writing I've read in many, many years. He writes with wisdom even when he is being most humble (and therein lies his charm). He writes with a down to earth voice on a level with all of us, no matter what our level, and in doing so, inspires.

Before We Get Started is focused and honest. The focus is on the honesty required to become a professional writer. If you ever wished you had known what you were getting yourself into before you started down a particular path, this book is for you. Simply take all the references to writing and apply them to acting, musicianship, sculpting, painting or golf, any solo activity you can think of, and you will gain an insight and foreknowledge which, ordinarily, only time, trial & error and the school of hard knocks could teach you. Before We Get Started details the thought processes and work ethic, which lead to the expectations, rewards and disappointments inherent in dedicating oneself to mastering any craft or trade, not just writng. And it isunderstanding how these internal thought processes actually work which will ultimately save anyone who wants to become a professional at anything a multitude of heart ache. The book describes in vivid detail the subtle nuances necessary to understanding what is required to become a master of, not just writing, but of anything; including becoming a better human being. To say the book is inspiring is to sell it short. You will never say "If I had only known what I was getting myself into. . ." again. Because quite possibly for the first time in your life you will be able to figure out in advance what will be required of you before you get started down any path. I highly recomend Before We Get Started to any and all aspiring writers, actors, musicians, film makers, dancers, in fact anyone who wants to be good at anything, even golf, can learn from this book.